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One by one if you have to and in private start standing up for yourself. You don't have to take abuse. I pulled a PA over once and addressed him trying to embarrass me in front of a patient. When my charge started fussing at me..i put my finger up towards her and fussed right back. I wasn't disrespectful but I fought for myself as she tried to accuse me of doing something carelessly. I told an RN to stop picking on me. People are ganging up on you because they don't feel you will stop them from doing it. The problem is that they are used to doing this to people who take too much time to teach. Most people don't want to bother with training in the first place. You will eventually have to stand up for yourself. I don't give people excuses anymore for bad behavior. Some things you can let roll off your back but others will require you to put your foot down. You will quit, switch shifts, be depressed or otherwise if you don't get what I am saying.

You can always find alleast 1 thing you have in common with someone. It doesn't matter what it is. If you carry this attitude with you to your RN job you will be isolated, probably not helped or supported. People want to feel accepted around others and like they are as important as you.

It just sounds like she is preparing you for the real world of nursing, honestly you should thank her and get yourself together so you can become a nurse.

What goes on in the post/online is no different from what happens in the hospitals etc. Sometimes it is worse in the hospitals. You are trapped at work, in that you can't leave the place, or risk being charged with abandonment...not making excuses for the behavior but at-least you can log off the web. In nursing we are taught to have so much compassion for the patients but maybe we need to be taught to have that same compassion for our fellow nurses etc. When someone says they wouldn't want a certain person to be their nurse..what they aren't realizing is maybe the nurse wouldn't want them as their patient. The pendulum swings both ways people. Just be nice to each other.

See this is why I get annoyed with people who push the O you have to love nursing and it is just wrong if you don't absolutely love it...we all must exist and provide for ourselves in this world...nursing helps me do it. I can't say it is a passion. It was a passion when I was in nursing school and had no clue what I was signing myself up for...now it is away to survive in this world. I have made peace with my choice and would never not treat my patients well due to it not being a passion. If nursing is what it should be, then maybe it could become my passion. For now it is all the swarovski crystal bracelets I recently purchased and the Ugg winter boots I just bought, thank you nursing.

Eventually you will get something as there is a lot of comings in goings in this field. Keep applying.

Without you telling me more I understand what you are going through. You are anxious due to valid reasons. Everyone has different coping skills and you just have to find out what yours are. Make sure that they are healthy ones. Don't be so hard on yourself. You won't be perfect. No one is. You just need to practice as a safe nurse. You must figure out what this is and place importance on critical things..things that can wait or aren't as important put on the back-burner. Good luck! New nurses have it harder nowadays..more patients, disorganization, communication lacking in the field, medicare reimbursement changes and the push to provide the greatest customer service it seems above everything else. If you can..find a reason to stick it out..it can be anything...and when you feel like quitting...think of that reason that you should stay.

Maybe consider respiratory therapist..but if you insist...be a ER nurse. Many female patients don't want a male nurse taking care of them.

You will never be able to do enough, please enough, and make things fair enough. You could drive off the road and die due to feeling sick and not being able to focus...the hospital will find a replacement at some point, however your family will never find a replacement of you. You were legitimately sick so don't feel guilty dear...your health is more important. At the place I work, they let sick nurses leave mid shift but never me, i guess I am not one of their favorites..hmm o well. I try to do things right and call in sick ahead of time only to be threatened with a write up. Go figure...

Nothing to it..but to do it. Nursing is one of those fields to where you sink or swim. On your off time review areas to improve on. Go for it!

You won't be able to get every single thing done at work and you will feel anxious but can you decipher between being able to do the more important things and being able to stick with this versus not being able to cope at all? Which is it?, because if you can cope some, enough to get the job done safely, then stick it out, gain some kind of experience, then go to another unit. Having experience will help you move around versus none at all, and if you can fight the fears and you feel you can safely work this job, do it. You don't want to get a bad habit of job hopping, however if you can't cope you can't cope. Don't stay and harm yourself or someone else. Make a decision and stick with it, indecision and trying to work will hurt your confidence. As you work speak positive to yourself, allow yourself some mistakes. Talk to yourself in a place where others won't see you, positive talk.

I have a lot of respect for you psych nurses. I worked psych for about 6 months and loved everything about it except the possibility of an attack. You can really get beat up badly. I was taught various techniques of protection...something called TOVA..but I just never felt prepared enough for an attack. I worked on a unit to where everyone had each others back..I am so sad to hear about how you were left to be attacked. I can only hope those people went to get help...but I would feel bad leaving someone to be attacked. Not sure what their thinking was...they are trained to help fend off attacks. I worked for a state facility that was big on deescalation.

No matter where you go to work...you will most likely be pushed to the max...this is the nursing field..and having to deal with more than you think you should is very common. Speaking out about it can be a good thing and a bad thing because sometimes people may take you wrong..like feel you aren't confident or strong enough to handle the job...on the other hand if you bite off more then you can chew and don't do well..the place will say, why didn't you say something..it is all a big game and you need to know how to play it...but being new and not giving something enough time...and or not asking the right questions can go against you at times. However just ask the right questions and don't come across as if you can't handle the environment at all. Be specific and make a point that you can't handle the job..you just need time to work on certain things. Good luck!

When jobs are few and competitive to get, employers pick and choose RN's that don't have a paper trail showing unfavorable work history...that is just how it goes. You may need to choose a job that you may not want, so you can work your way into employment. I worked at a LTC facility before getting a hospital position. Can you work as just an RN for now without worrying about the NP position? Maybe you could network your way into a position at a facility that hires NPs. Have you tried a rehab facility that isn't apart of a large hospital? I know those types of places hire NPs. I think nursing homes do as well.

Maybe bedside nursing isn't for you. That is okay and it sounds like you are just frustrated tbh.