Posting on Social Media

toomuchbaloney · Dec 11, 2021

On 12/11/2021 at 12:09 PM, Kellyjustkelly said:

I am not friends with her on facebook. Someone brought it to my attention.

Then ignore it. If it becomes an issue in real life, in the workplace make a complaint.

chare · Dec 11, 2021

19 hours ago, Kellyjustkelly said:

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My reply: "Oh....the ones you printed. Sorry, I'm half asleep. I am sorry about the papers. I thought they were an advertisement for a class. I only glanced at them. I didn't know anyone was printing until --------- said something" [emphasis added].

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If they were on the printer, wouldn't it be a fair assumption that someone printed them? And, if they weren't yours, why did you decide to throw them away? If this was a shared or common printer, the courteous thing to do would have been to taken what was yours off the printer, and left everything else alone.

Guest219794 · Dec 12, 2021

On 12/11/2021 at 3:01 PM, chare said:

If they were on the printer, wouldn't it be a fair assumption that someone printed them? And, if they weren't yours, why did you decide to throw them away? If this was a shared or common printer, the courteous thing to do would have been to taken what was yours off the printer, and left everything else alone.

Sure,

But, she accidentally threw them away.

Accidentally.

Between that discussion and this discussion, I imagine she'll try harder.

JBMmom, MSN, NP · Dec 12, 2021

On 12/11/2021 at 7:13 AM, hherrn said:

Next time you leave something on the printer, I'm not going to throw it out- I'll shred it. Then, I'll go to the fridge and throw out your lunch. You leave your pen on a desk, Ill throw that out too.

That totally made me laugh!

JKL33 · Dec 13, 2021

On 12/10/2021 at 7:26 PM, Kellyjustkelly said:

#2. What are my options? Contacting Human Resources? Submitting an incident report under the category regarding fellow employees? Both? Something different?

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Holy moleee, there isn't even time for incident reports about much more serious stuff, let alone something you can just as well pretend you never heard about.

Two realistic options:

1. Carry on as if you have no knowledge her fakebook rants. Don't act any differently, don't avoid her, don't bring up the subject, nothing. As a means of not participating in this kind of negativity, just let it go.

2. Ask to speak to her in private and tell her that someone brought her post to your attention and you are sorry for the mishap/carelessness/whatever you want to call it. Don't banter back and forth or get sucked into additional commentary. If she has anything untoward to say in person, just say, "Again, I'm sorry, it was not intentional. I hope we can put it behind us." If she doesn't accept the apology or can't act like an adult about it, that's on her.

allnurses Guide · Dec 13, 2021

I'm old and lazy. My eyes glaze over when I try to wade through the privacy options on my facebook settings. It would be just like me to uncheck or check something I should have checked or unchecked, and all hell might then break loose. I keep all nursing and work-related discussions completely separate from my social media accounts. Only my longtime friends know I'm a nurse.

Kelly, my advice for this type of social drama, whether on social media, or in real life, is to de-escalate and contain it as much as you can even if you are po'ED about such an immature action by a co-worker in that moment.

Emergent, RN · Dec 13, 2021

Another thing I've learned about social media is, some of my friends on facebook will go ballistic over the mildest things because they make everything political, or they just don't understand the etiquette, and how they have the ability to ignore something that they might disagree with. If someone says something I don't like, and it's on my page, I have the total ability to just delete their comment without saying anything. Some people just have bad facebook manners. If it's on your page, remove their comment and carry on. If it's on someone else's page, and you don't like the content that they like to share, either snooze or unfollow them.

Hoosier_RN, MSN · Dec 13, 2021

On 12/11/2021 at 6:56 AM, Mr. Murse said:

It's facebook.

Delete the comment.

Unfriend them on social media and tell them to have a conversation face to face or in private messages if there's a problem that needs to be discussed.

Done.

Go a step further, and unfriend all of your coworkers on fb. Believe me, it will save many headaches, and keeps people out of your business. If they don't know about your life outside of work, they can't pass judgment

2BS Nurse, BSN · Dec 14, 2021

All of this is just a reminder of why I had to leave the nurses' stations. ? I'm getting way too old for the drama.

vintagegal, BSN, DNP, RN, NP · Dec 15, 2021

Don’t add gasoline to the proverbial fire.

you had a choice to be quiet and ignore it. You could have called her on the phone or talked to her privately. If you completely ignored this on social media there is no credit given to her claims. Answering her was a one way ticket into her drama circus.

**CommunityRNBSN, BSN, RN** · Dec 20, 2021

the fact that she’s posting publicly to FB about a minor workplace misunderstanding involving one coworker indicates that this is not a stable, reasonable adult. Have as little contact with her in person as possible, and have absolutely zero online contact with her. I promise you, nobody who read her post thought “My, what a shame that the printer situation happened to such a lovely, professional individual.”

J.B.Chan, BSN · Jan 12, 2022

On 12/10/2021 at 5:26 PM, Kellyjustkelly said:

A coworker posted the following comment to me on her facebook page:

"--------- the next time you throw my printed papers don’t be sorry when you did it intentionally!

My reply: "Oh....the ones you printed. Sorry, I'm half asleep. I am sorry about the papers. I thought they were an advertisement for a class. I only glanced at them. I didn't know anyone was printing until --------- said something".

Her next reply: ---------- one of the papers has my name on it bec it was certificate.. You knew I was in the classroom you could have say sorry over the phone or just few steps away when ---------- told you about it but anyways you said sorry now!

Her reply to a physician we work with daily: It was just 10 mins after I printed it out then it was tossed in the garbage. I thought it didn’t go through but it was in the garbage can.

In addition to at least 27 coworkers, it is also viewable by my manager as they are "friends" on the app.

My issue is of this affecting coworkers perception of me and how it might impact our working with them from here on out. More importantly, the affect of my professional relationship with the physician and my manager.

#1. Is this inappropriate and

#2. What are my options? Contacting Human Resources? Submitting an incident report under the category regarding fellow employees? Both? Something different?

My manager is aware of a history of this person being verbally hostile towards me, all but once in front of coworkers.

I apologize for the length of this post and appreciate in advance any comments you have.

Seriously? I do not see that this situation warrants another moment of your concern. I would make it clear to this person that you and everyone else have bigger fish to fry than her stupid certificate that was accidentally thrown out. We are still in a friggin pandemic and facing staffing shortages beyond belief and she wants to complain about a stupid piece of paper.

Take it from someone who seriously hates to offend anyone and who overanalyzes everything- just let it go! In the big scheme of things....it means nothing!