Hello! I am a nurse for a vent dependent child whose mother and father are currently living together but have not been romantically together since the Childs birth. I have worked there for nearly half of the Childs life- he was in the hospital for almost the first 13 months! Anyways the father and I began dating a while ago and I'm wondering if anyone else has had this type of experience before? The mother does not know and will be moving out shortly. They are currently in a heated custody battle although they were never married. I don't want to hurt her but at the same time she is not good with her child and only since he told her to get out has she paid attention to the child. But on the other hand I don't want anything that has happened between us to give her a leg up in court because the best thing for the child would be with his father- with or without me. Just need advice please!!