Pediatric patient- home nurse situations!?

Kyasi · Apr 16, 2011

So many marriages of parents with special needs children are so fragile anyway because of the stress of caring for their child. That is what makes this sort of thing so awful. From what I have experienced, it's often the man who books, leaving the mother to raise their child. So having a nurse who becomes part of the problem instead of part of the solution is just terrible. Your scenario may have been a bit different but I'm glad you decided to distance yourself and hope you have the strength and sense to stay away.

Kyasi

shortscrubbs108 · Apr 16, 2011

I just got caught up on this thread, good for you for realizing and following through with the professional action. I can understand how hard it must be. I am a hopeless romantic myself, but we have to sometimes force ourselves to think with our brains instead of our hearts (or hormones!)

This really is the best thing for the patient, the family and you.

Good luck

Hagabel · Apr 17, 2011

Are you serious or crazy?

You have breached your professional standing on so many levels, without even mentioning morale ones.

I am glad you have come to your senses and removed yourself from this case.

Good luck.

LexiRN2 · Apr 18, 2011

I think I'll be the first to NOT tell you how great it is that you left the case. It is absolutely pathetic that you needed to prey on the father of one of your patients. Very unprofessional, unethical, and just flat out ridiculous! You should have left the case and had yourself reassigned a long time ago before it even got to the point that anything like that could happen. Home health nursing is not the place for you and I'm worried for the families that you'll be placed with next. This just goes to show that anyone can go through nursing school and pass a test, but it takes a ginuine person to take on the duties of a nurse. I personally hope that the man's wife finds out and uses this to her advantage with the custody battle and reports you. The father doesn't seem to be very capable himself if he's just sleeping with his child's nurses. Its the nurses like you that give home health nurses a bad reputation.

I agree that this is something that has happened before and will continue to happen in home health, but this does not justify your actions or make it okay. I don't think that this thread is going to provide you with support or advice other than the fact that you're wrong. Just remember that he cheated on his WIFE with you, so he'll cheat on you (the side chick, or girlfriend if that makes you feel better) without thinking twice. And also remember that men lie.... not everything that he tells you is true.

voneek, ADN, BSN, LVN · Apr 30, 2011

really of course the child needs should be first and foremost but what does that say about dad, dad is way out of line for getting involved with you and you are beyond the line of being professional. also how could you be un bias when involved with the dad.

systoly · May 10, 2011

After reading some of the last responses, I just have to say I hope some of you will be judged less harshly than you chose to.

allnurses Guide · May 11, 2011

I guess we're just not very romantic. It's OK. People said the same thing when we rained on Nurse Amber's parade for doing it with the guy dying from ALS in the home he shared w/ his wife and kids. For people who see it as a Harlequin book - I'd suggest Casablanca offers a better lesson.

shortscrubbs108 · May 19, 2011

I have to say, I agree with systoly, yes this nurse was in the wrong as well as the father, but really, you needn't be so harsh about it. She saught advice and she came to her senses. And as she said hopefully if you ever make a mistake, you will be judged less harshly and find some support for correcting the situation.

Hagabel · May 19, 2011

Most of us (hopefully) would not have sex with our patients relatives!!!!

tewdles, RN · May 21, 2011

I am afraid that those who are concerned about how "harsh" we are with this behavior are part of the problem with professional nursing...they are not thinking like professionals, they are thinking like something else.

When you are licensed to practice as an RN you must ALWAYS represent nursing in your best capacity when on the job...period. Of course, we all have weaknesses and stumbles and failures...professionals are able to correctly id them as weaknesses, stumbles, and failures...not make excuses for them, and correct the behavior.

Romantics may not be able to do that...but then, romanticism is not a profession is it?

shortscrubbs108 · May 23, 2011

Couldn't it be a problem when people are afraid to admit to a mistake??? I don't think we should pander to poor behavior, but when someone does have a problem we should not just judge them and say well, too bad you shouldn't have screwed up in the first place. Yes, nurses should be professional, but I don't think being understanding is as big of a problem as creating an environment where people are too afraid to come forward with their mistakes.

allnurses Guide · May 23, 2011

The person who wrote the post asked for "advice" repeatedly after getting lots of "advice", and none of the advice said anything other than to stop doing what you are doing. That is much different than someone admitting a mistake.

I do agreee sometimes people can get rough when nurses do come on to admit a mistake but in a public forum like this it is going to happen.

My own personal feeling about this thread now is that it was written by someone who registers under a variety of names and posts scenarios like this one. I hope not, though.