My living situation while in Nursing school

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I need some advice. During the weekends when I’m not at school I do a lot of self reflection and lately I’ve been thinking about how I’m 31 and still living with my parents due to nursing school. Luckily, my mom is really supportive and wants me to really focus on school but at my age it’s kind of embarrassing to know I’m still living with my parents. I’m working part time and help my parents when I can but the money I make isn’t enough to really help out as much as I would like to. Sometimes I feel useless because I expected to be in a better situation at my age. Is it common for nursing students to live with their parents? Also I go to school full time so that’s why I can’t work as much as I would like to.

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It's common and at least you help your parents out as much as you can. Some people in my cohort live with roommates or their parents and they are okay with it. Heck , I live with my parents and I'm in the same situation (school , saving up). The good thing is you're in school and that you're helping them out. I've seen people whom barely help their parents out at all and don't do anything.  I wish you luck on your nursing journey ❤️.

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Specializes in Geriatrics, Dialysis.

With cost of living, particularly housing skyrocketing pretty much everywhere adult children moving back in with their parents to save money isn't at all uncommon. A combined household is a lot more affordable option for many. 

I'd imagine it can be a challenge living with your parents as an adult just as it's probably difficult for the parents to treat their children as an adult instead of their kid but for those that can navigate the challenges of having parents as room mates it's a great option. 

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In many cultures, this is normal; in particular when it's an unmarried child.  Doesn't matter if the child is in their 20's or 60's, he/she will still live with the parent(s). 

Don't stress about it.  Your parents know you're trying to better yourself and want to help you succeed.  Isn't that what all parents want -- to see their children succeed in life and be happy? ?

 

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Thank you everyone! I feel better about the situation ❤️

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Specializes in EMS, ED, Trauma, CEN, CPEN, TCRN.

Anyone who makes fun of you is jealous. ? It's great that you are helping where you can! Best of luck in the rest of your schooling. 

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On 8/28/2022 at 11:17 PM, Penebly09 said:

I need some advice. During the weekends when I’m not at school I do a lot of self reflection and lately I’ve been thinking about how I’m 31 and still living with my parents due to nursing school. Luckily, my mom is really supportive and wants me to really focus on school but at my age it’s kind of embarrassing to know I’m still living with my parents. I’m working part time and help my parents when I can but the money I make isn’t enough to really help out as much as I would like to. Sometimes I feel useless because I expected to be in a better situation at my age. Is it common for nursing students to live with their parents? Also I go to school full time so that’s why I can’t work as much as I would like to.

I am also living with my mom and it isn't because of school. I moved out when I was 17 lived on my own in another state and everything.  When I had my child I moved closer to home and a few years ago we all decided to move south, we consolidated homes in order to save.  We loved it, so we ended up getting larger home and stayed together.

I say all that to say, there is no shame in living with your parents, there is no rule that says you must go out and live alone in this world. Society made that determination in the West and so you can live how you want, if you are comfortable.  FYI I have my own career though I am in school, I work fulltime. But again, it's my choice.  You should be proud that you are making strides to further your education and have family that loves and supports you. 

The plus for me, when my mom gets old and cranky Ill already be used to living with her and not have to try to fit her into my life and household later on...LOL

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Thanks a lot for your advice ❤️ I actually feel a lot better after reading this ?

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

We are in our 60's and at various times over the past 20 years we've had a son and his family come and go and we are currently raising a teen grandchild. 

Nothing wrong with the way you live and I echo the poster who said others are jealous. 

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Specializes in Hospice.

If your living situation is working for you, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with it!

Nursing school is tough. Living situations that are less than ideal can cause a lot of stress on top of stress related to nursing school. A safe, supportive environment with low financial stress can make a huge difference if it's an option. And it sounds like these needs are met with your current living situation.

My first college attempt was not particularly successful for many reasons. One of many factors was the amount of hours I was working in order to support myself. 

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I'd call yourself lucky that your parents are supporting you through school. Study hard, get through and rewards them in some way when you have the financial means to do so.

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Yes I definitely will reward them when I have the money ? Thank you!

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