Wlaurie

Ugh....nursing instructors. I had a terrible one that was way worse than this and had her for 2 rotations. Wasn't part of the school, an adjunct cause they couldn't get enough instructors. Just a few highlights if I may. First day of rotation, calls us in and threatens to flunk all of us for the lousy job we had done. Then found out this was only our second rotation and did a 180 and said oh then you did great. So many examples I could give and the tears that were shed by all. Last rotation, she has her favorites and not favorites. Tells us we'll know where we fall. I was in the not favorites group and she refused to spend ANY time with me and several others. Wouldn't even assign us to a nurse. I had to ask a nurse if she would let me shadow her. I just put my head down and got thru it but it was gut wrenching not knowing where or when she would explode on one of us.

Could part of the problem and frustration be that he keeps asking, you answer and he is still not satisfied and assured and has to get confirmation from his mom? For some reason you get less respect from family members and that's annoying. As others have said, you have to break the cycle by having a conversation about you being the wife and not the caregiver but you'll be glad to support him by going to the doctor with him.

Here's my take on it, for what it's worth. They cannot legally withhold your paycheck for any reason. They must pay you and if they think you own them money they would have to collect by some other means. Contact the Attorney General in that state and report them. My understanding is that patient abandonment is when you leave a patient partway through a shift with no one else to care for them. This doesn't fit the description of your situation.

Thanks for your article. It was very informative.

I always tell myself that management's crisis does not translate into it being my crisis. For a long time now in nursing this has been the management style to work with a nursing shortage and they expect nurses to pitch in over and above their required shifts to make up for it. They may have to hire more contingent nurses or pay double time to get a nurse to come in. Yeah, it's going to cost them more money but it's not fair to tie your job performance into something that is not in the parameters of your job. You have a lot of things going on in your personal life so I would just reiterate that you're not able to pick up extra shifts at this time. Leave it at that and I hope you don't feel guilty cause you shouldn't.

I'd call yourself lucky that your parents are supporting you through school. Study hard, get through and rewards them in some way when you have the financial means to do so.

Hmmm....first thing that jumps out at me is have you ever been arrested for drug charges? Before you decide about where you want to go to school, need to figure this out first. When I was in school, last semester of school before sitting for the RN NCLEX a girl in our class was told she couldn't sit for the test because she had a Minor In Possession on her record. Had to hire a lawyer, not sure how it worked out for her. Don't spend a lot of money going to school if this needs to be figured out first. Good luck to you young man.

You need to focus on you, not your wife. I also studied 6 hours a day and waited a month to take it. I look at it as an Olympic event, mental though instead of physical. Train for peak performance the day of the test. Right now you're experiencing something akin to stage fright before you have to perform. We're all nervous taking it. Remember it's geared toward an average knowledge of nurses just starting out. However, I remember question 2 taking the test. It was a SATA question. I freaked. I can't do it, I said. I was a good student and how embarrassing it would be if I failed. I stopped right then and there and gave myself a mental pep talk. I studied and did well in school, I know this stuff but I would just have to trust my gut and jump off the cliff and let it fly. Read the question, eliminate the wrong answers after I justified why they were wrong, and choose what I thought were the right answer/s and tell myself why I thought they were right then move on to the next question. And don't worry about the question you just answered, move on. It took me an 1 1/2 hours and 75 questions and I passed. You can do this if you believe you can, really. However, if you go in with a bad attitude and freak out you do have a good chance of failing. Believe in yourself and what you've learned and go in confidently.

When I took my NCLEX several years ago I studies maybe between 4-6 hours a day. Until I took it I considered it my job. I would sit down to study and set the timer for maybe one hour or 2 hours and when the timer went off I got up and did something else that was hopfully fun and de-stressing. At that point even doing a load of laundry or something mundane like that was considered a fun activity.

We had 3 LPNs join our class for the RN section. I think 2 failed. The main cause I believe based on being with them and talking with them is twofold. One, they were working full-time as LPNs that required a lot of their time and two, they had been out of school long enough that it was hard to get back into the demanding studying, testing and clinical frame of mind. I think it can be done, but I think they underestimated the commitment. Maybe some of that was they were already nurses and thought they wouldn't have to study as much, but I don't know. Anyway, hope you don't give up. Take time to analyze what went wrong and attack it again.

You need to look for a new case now. There is good and bad families out there. This is not a good one. Cleaning up after a dog and babysitting another child is taking advantage of you. Sensing from your writing it seems like you are hesitant to stick up for yourself. Talk to your employer, request a new assignment and tell this family you just can't work there anymore and move on.

We live in a polite medical environment where costs aren't revealed until much later. Doctors order many tests to prevent being sued and patient don't ask about costs. Even if patients did ask the cost the patients would probably be told they don't know.

I had a somewhat similar experience. Had a routine colonoscopy. Went to the hospital and doctor they told me to go to that was in network. Later I got a bill for the anesthesiologist because she was outside the network. I called the insurance up and said what the hell am I supposed to do, interview everyone in the room to make sure they're in my network before they put me under? I refused to pay and the insurance company took it off my bill.

Lots of variables here. Depends on what kind of student you are, for one. I remember A&P being difficult as I didn't have a real strong science background. I remember the first time they talked about cellular respiration and being totally amazed, I didn't know that! So, I gave the class the respect it deserved and did study a lot. I know I took other classes too and did find. You'll find that when you get in to your nursing classes you'll study A LOT. In fact, there will be little time to do anything else after study, tests, and clinicals. So if you took these 2 classes it might be a good precursor for what is to come. don't want to scare you or be a downer, but it is what it is. All through nursing I told myself that this too shall pass. It really does go by fast, before you know it you're done. But while you're there you are living in a little microcosm that is student nursing?

I was a big study bug. I got to the point where I would set the alarm for let's say 3 hours of study time. When the alarm went off I closed the books. Knowing that I set time to study and there was an end time to it helped the study anxiety. I also set up a schedule of what I needed to study when for tests and deadlines for other assignments. I would post it on the fridge to keep track of where I was at. I thought of studying as training for the Olympics, trying to be at peak performance at test time. It worked for me and I'm glad it's over.