Hi there! I am new to this site, this is my first posting. I am an RN nursing student, approaching my senior year this fall. I have sort of a weird problem....has anyone else experienced this? I don't volunteer my test scores to anyone, of course, but occasionally people ask, and I will tell them what I got on the latest test. Long story short, in a small class (about 30) I and one other student very rarely get below a 90 on tests. I try to be friendly to everyone, I'm a "people-pleaser"! I want to be friends with everyone! But I feel lately like people are just avoiding me somewhat, and they act as if I am a snob or something. I go out of my way not to advertise my grades, and be open to friendships with everyone in my class. I'm not any smarter than anyone else, I just study my butt off, pretty much every night. Am I paranoid, or has anyone else experienced this?:wink2:
I'm in the top 3 or 4 in my class, and I haven't had any problems like this. Are you sure they are jealous of your grades? Perhaps there is something else they dislike you for (if in fact they dislike you at all).
I'm in the same situation. I never announce my grade, but when asked I usually tell. I try to encourage everyone, am always nice, etc. I've had classmates roll their eyes at me when they find out my grade. I'm taking micro this summer and had one girl tell me on monday that I'm too much of a perfectionist. Anyway, there's nothing I can do about it- but it does hurt my feelings.
It definately is a self-esteem issue, one I've been struggling with all my life. I guess I just wanted to vent and see if anyone else has had similar problems. I know I need to be who I am, those who don't like it, too bad, and surround myself with people who are not petty and like me for who I am. Yesterday, in clinical, no less, a student asked me what I got on the last test, I said a 95, and she literally just rolled her eyes at me, said "Oh, my God!", I felt like saying, geez, you asked!
I know the feeling. I never bragged about my grades, but if someone asked, I told them and sometimes got that kind of stuff. Usually it doesn't mean anything.
When I took A&P II we had daily quizzes that had a curve if no one made a 100. I can't tell you how many times I busted the curve by making a hundred. The bad thing was we graded the tests then and there and had to say our grade out loud. It usually went like this Instructor: Tweety......me: dramatic pause with glares from classmates, until I finally said 100...to a chorus of boos. Good thing I was working on my self-esteem issues. :chuckle
No Freudian slip, it's the name of my favorite Grateful Dead song.:chuckle
Queen Jane, I love the Grateful Dead. I followed them for years. They do "Queen Jane Approximately" much better than Dylan. In fact, Dylan said last year, "if you really want to hear the best versions of my songs, listen to the Grateful Dead versions". (something like that)
It usually went like this Instructor: Tweety......me: dramatic pause with glares from classmates, until I finally said 100...to a chorus of boos. Good thing I was working on my self-esteem issues. :chuckle
OMG! That's horrible! I love the students who barely study because "the exams will be curved anyway", then get upset when the top students "ruined" the class' chance at getting the curve.
Hi there! I am new to this site, this is my first posting. I am an RN nursing student, approaching my senior year this fall. I have sort of a weird problem....has anyone else experienced this? I don't volunteer my test scores to anyone, of course, but occasionally people ask, and I will tell them what I got on the latest test. Long story short, in a small class (about 30) I and one other student very rarely get below a 90 on tests. I try to be friendly to everyone, I'm a "people-pleaser"! I want to be friends with everyone! But I feel lately like people are just avoiding me somewhat, and they act as if I am a snob or something. I go out of my way not to advertise my grades, and be open to friendships with everyone in my class. I'm not any smarter than anyone else, I just study my butt off, pretty much every night. Am I paranoid, or has anyone else experienced this?:wink2:
I don't think anyone avoided me. If anything, one girl in my class kept trying to be my new best friend because I took good notes and she said she had ADD. No problem, but I noticed that she didn't take any of her own notes, and she'd spend the class goofing off. Then she complained that I had "bad handwriting" !:banghead:Yeah, I stopped lending her my notes after that.
We also had people that would grill you about what grade you received on the latest exam. But, I didn't let any of this nonsense bother me. I just tried to stay focused...
i doubt that anyone cares about your grades. they are concerned about their grades - not yours.
Eh, you'd be surprised. There are plenty of people in NS that care about other people's grades. I chalk this up to immaturity and a wee bit of jealousy. Many of these people could have better grades if they focused more on the books and less on the gossip.
Very similar to the catty behavior that you see once you're a practicing nurse..
I know the feeling. I never bragged about my grades, but if someone asked, I told them and sometimes got that kind of stuff. Usually it doesn't mean anything.
When I took A&P II we had daily quizzes that had a curve if no one made a 100. I can't tell you how many times I busted the curve by making a hundred. The bad thing was we graded the tests then and there and had to say our grade out loud. It usually went like this Instructor: Tweety......me: dramatic pause with glares from classmates, until I finally said 100...to a chorus of boos. Good thing I was working on my self-esteem issues. :chuckle
ahhhh, yes, being the one to "break" the curve.......done that .....not in NS.......dont think they curved anything there.......but i do test well, not a brag....an enate aptitude......which is what i would tell anybody who wanted to comment on my grades.....not a studier (is that a word)....listened in class....i do well on standardized, multiple choice tests...never noticed much prob in ns but was too busy....and would always answer questions if i could.....was older than most....did get nicknamed Webster.....
Specializes in med-surg 5 years geriatrics 12 years.
Queenjane be proud of those scores !! You earned them in a very tough course. And I'm betting that your classmates envy you. Keep up the good work and don't worry about what the others think...it's what you think that matters.
There's usually not much interaction among students except in lab classes at my school. But when I walk into lab on the first day of class I can usually spot the "smart" students at a glance and arrange to be their lab partners/primary reference person. That way we both always score in the 90's and the difference is no big deal (or if it ever was a big deal, that's THEIR problem, not mine!)
The smart students are the ones who look interested in being there, are not dressed to party, not talking about last night's party, or saying "didja see da game?", or talking about cars, or doing homework for their remedial math class, or looking like they hope the lab won't last the whole class period. I don't always identify ALL the smart people in the class at a glance (because some people who dress to party are BRILLIANT), but I never pick a dummy.
As for teachers mentioning me by name in class, the first time it happens I just go up to the teacher after class and say "please don't mention me by name in front of the whole class --it embarrasses me" Then quickly change the subject to avoid embarrassing THEM. They never mention me again. In the courses where I haven't ask them to stop, they envariably mention me all semester.
In some courses it becomes clear early on that I'm developing a "back channel" relationship with the teacher through office hour conversations or email. When that happens I just ask them up front not to mention my name in front of the class, then quickly change the subject (never embarrass!!). The best teachers know this intuitively.
As future nurses we need to learn to empathize with and support all kinds of people. Right? Some of them are class sponges. I try to use class experience to learn how to deal with different kinds of people, including those with "code brown" of the brain. These people need emotional support, too, just like we do. Not all of our patients are going to be scholars.
its only natural for people to be a little competitive. but treating you indifferent isn't necessary. i did average in school, but i never asked people their scores because i was too occupied with passing the nclex ----which i did the first time. just ignore it. they will get over it.
vashtee, RN
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I'm in the top 3 or 4 in my class, and I haven't had any problems like this. Are you sure they are jealous of your grades? Perhaps there is something else they dislike you for (if in fact they dislike you at all).