In fear of losing my license.

FolksBtrippin, BSN, RN · Oct 9, 2016

Well... Do you live in Iran? Are you in an area occupied by ISIS? You might have a problem there.

If you live in the US, you should be okay. The BON will simply have you sew a large red A on your uniform to show that you are an adulteress. Better get to the craft store.

I am sad that I have to tell you I am kidding. My guess is that you are in the millennial generation. You guys are so used to being spied upon, overprotected and hit with zero tolerance in your childhood that you have no idea of your rights. It is exasperating and terrifying and not your fault. We have failed, big time.

AutumnApple · Oct 9, 2016

Not on company property and not a coworker?? OMG!! Tell him you are calling the police for harassment and intimidation. Seriously.
And seriously, learn the rules of your license. It saddens me you don't and you actually think you could lose it over some idiot.

To the OP: this might help! Link: Find Your Nurse Practice Act | NCSBN

This.

For it to be an issue with your license, harm would have had to come to a patient, it would have to be determined that you did not act as a reasonable person (nurse) would have.......blah blah blah.

Being rejected is not harm, and you probably acted just as anyone else in your position would have lol

With all that said, you had to come online to ask if there was any real danger to your license. Probably would be more ideal to know that before the texts are sent. With FB, texts and all the other social media, once you hit send, there is not "take back" button. It's out there.

Educate yourself, then proceed with your..........hobbies lol

KatieMI, BSN, MSN, RN · Oct 9, 2016

Everybody is afraid to lose license because everybody everywhere spreads total crap of misinformation about it.

I understand that Practice Acts are not an easy sort of reading and that many of them include "good moral character" line or clause. But, in fact, Boards are not Courts. They are not judges, and so cannot freely interpret every piece of information they got from anonimous sources. A nurse has to commit a crime and be convicted first, and only then the Boards are free to decide if what was done can be interpreted as "lack of good moral character". Even more, if Boards receive a letter from someone from the street about something a nurse might have done with no evidence, they will pass it to authorities for investigation. I had one jerk complaining about me being employed "illegally in American hospital". The Boards dutifully passed his letter to Immigration services, and it did not end good... for him, not for me.

I do not even mention that so-called "IT security" used by all employers except super-corporations and goverment (and pretty much only in high security settings at that) goes no further than Googling one's name and hopefully finding a Facebook page and Twitter chats. Even stuff done while using primitive VPN is well off their reach. Even what we're all doing on this very forum, will not be easily discovered as long as we use our nicknames and do not identifiable details like region or workplace.

OP, you are totally safe in terms of your job/license (well, until you happen to live in a state where sexting between two adults is illegal and work in, say, Catholic-associated place). Relax, call police, get the jerk out of your life. And just please next time use some name that is different from your real one.

DeeAngel · Oct 9, 2016

They will laugh at him. Please get the jump on him and go to the police with this because this is blackmail. Get a police record of this happening, it may come in very handy in the future because this individual is crazy.

allnurses Guide · Oct 9, 2016

No therapeutic relationship. And I do not have insurance.

I encourage every nurse to carry their own Mal-Practice insurance - especially if you have any real property assets. People all think their facilities malpractice insurance will cover them but when the ca ca hits the fan it's every man/women for themselves.

Hppy

Jedrnurse, BSN, RN · Oct 9, 2016

Thank you for not being afraid of "loosing" your license...

Julius Seizure · Oct 9, 2016

I encourage every nurse to carry their own Mal-Practice insurance - especially if you have any real property assets. People all think their facilities Malpractice insurance will cover them but when the ca ca hits the fan it's every man/women for themselves.
Hppy

If I ever manage to purchase a house, I'll definitely do this! :uhoh3:

Here.I.Stand, BSN, RN · Oct 9, 2016

Don't just read the nurse practice act- Have a look at those who have lost their licenses, and what they did.

This. In my state one lost her license for fondling the member of a man with DD. Another lost his license after being convicted of a sexual relationship with a minor and registering as a sex offender.

Not one lost it for sex talk with a consenting adult.

What he tried to do again, is a form of sexual assault. He is using fear, manipulation, and coercion against you when you declined to continue a sexual relationship. Makes me crazy that someone could think that that behavior is okay. :mad:

BSN16 · Oct 10, 2016

"Private" chats are not "social media" in the sense that FB, Twitter, and Instagram are and employers would not usually be privy to those if the two parties keep it private. However, anything you say in e-mail or text messaging can be used against you, as many naive persons have discovered once the bloom is off the relationship.
I really hope you have learned a lesson about trusting others and keeping ALL of your electronic communications clean.
I think your license is safe. But if your chat buddy releases your chats to your boss or anyone you know, you might certainly be embarrassed and some of them will lose respect for you, depending on their personal values.
That's a shame, for sure.

It's not a shame, someone violating someone in this way is a shame. Sharing very personal information about an individual is a shame. The OP should not feel embarrassed about having a perfectly normal, natural, and LEGAL personal conversation with a consenting adult.

Sometimes people forget that nurses are actual PEOPLE. I didn't sign a blood oath in nursing school saying i would live a pure and abstinent life. Secondly, if i were a manager or co-worker of the OP i would absolutely not lose any respect for her over something like this.

guest769224 · Oct 10, 2016

I didn't even tell him I was a nurse on the actual chat.

He is not a coworker. Just a guy I met off work who knows I'm a nurse

How does he know you're a nurse if you claim you didn't tell him?

You're contradicting yourself here.

DivaliciousMe85 · Oct 10, 2016

How does he know you're a nurse if you claim you didn't tell him?
You're contradicting yourself here.

She isn't necessarily contradicting herself. She said she did not tell him that she's a nurse in the chat; she may have told him elsewhere, or he knows someone who knows her. However, this is pure conjecture.

Either way, I would also like clarification.

Conqueror+, BSN, RN · Oct 10, 2016

It's not a shame, someone violating someone in this way is a shame. Sharing very personal information about an individual is a shame. The OP should not feel embarrassed about having a perfectly normal, natural, and LEGAL personal conversation with a consenting adult.
Sometimes people forget that nurses are actual PEOPLE. I didn't sign a blood oath in nursing school saying i would live a pure and abstinent life. Secondly, if i were a manager or co-worker of the OP i would absolutely not lose any respect for her over something like this.

The problem is that you are not OP's manager. Despite our PC world many people will develop an opinion about someone sexting someone they barely know. You are free to do what you like but you do not get to control how people react. That is part of being an adult. I also take exception to labeling sexting as normal and natural but that is a different thread.