If I Said on Here What I Wanted to Say.

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I don't know if I am just hard hearted after so many years of nursing, or if I have just seen too many malingerers, or just too many people who blame their problems on anything and everyone but themselves. But if I answered half the posts on here with what I really feel, I think I would be thrown off. :uhoh3:

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when i first joined here, i was excited every time i got the "private message" notice.

so was i.. .yay!! someone wants to be friends with me!! perhaps my advice pulled them back from the abyss! now let's see what . . .oh. :bluecry1:

i'm more the instant panic type than the sinking feeling type. it's amazing how the adrenals kick in before you have a conscious thought. maybe it's the minty color i react to at this point. kidding aside, though. it's not an easy call for every reported post -- it might be fun if the staff could start a thread called "most bogus reason somebody reported a post" or "what you would really like to say" about that.

i think most of the "just looking for advise" threads are really a hidden agenda as you will quickly discover as the advise seeker begins to argue with people who offer their honest opinion. i know it's a little corny but i think of it like the "simons" and the "paulas". i'll take the simon.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
What shocks me is all the people who've said they got demerits are those I consider to be among the most insightful and level-headed people here! Have to go ponder that one for a while.

I'm still working on the impulse responses. It's a process. I need to remember that.

I gotta tell you I'm actullay glad to hear that there is such good company in the demerits club. Where I get in trouble is addressing the inexperienced know it all, when they are being a blithering idiots about subjects they are clueless and keep insisting they know it all.......man, that's like nails on the chaulk board to me

Every now and then I lose control of my fingers it's nice to know I'm not the only one......:lol2:

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i write plenty of whines and vents on here. I don't care if someone says, "suck it up" etc. I look forward to those, or posts advising me on where i went wrong, etc. While reading many of the "debate" threads that end up closed i enjoy reading differing view points, as long as they are set in some reality(lol). I agree with posters who have said that sometimes the "nice" replies are no help at all. Say what you mean, i guess. the

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i write plenty of whines and vents on here. I don't care if someone says, "suck it up" etc. I look forward to those, or posts advising me on where i went wrong, etc. While reading many of the "debate" threads that end up closed i enjoy reading differing view points, as long as they are set in some reality(lol). I agree with posters who have said that sometimes the "nice" replies are no help at all. Say what you mean, i guess. the

I completely agree. Better to just be honest, even when the truth sucks... I remember reading a thread on here a while back where a student was expelled from school for making several fundamental mistakes. It would do that student no good to say "it's okay, no big deal" because the mistakes that student made were a big deal and were not okay. Whenever I ask my friends for advice, I make it clear that if I'm being a baby or am in the wrong, they had better tell me! That's why it's called advice, not blind encouragement :twocents:

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i want to correct this. again ;) i said i would chew off my arm to have a preceptor like you. i have many times felt the forum students are lucky to have give-it-to-us-straight ruby vee.

there are a few of us around who appreciate the matter-of-fact feedback from the experienced nurses here who take the time to set us on the right path. i want to be an excellent nurse. i have gotten help here that has definitely affected how i see my role and how to go forward with confidence when doing the "right thing" gets challenged by doing the "easy thing" and the like.

i am grateful for those who do bother to temper whatever irritation/incredulity/hostility/exhaution/etc they feel when some of the newbies (like me) post questions. makes it easier to hear the actual message when not filtered through "what, are you stupid?" or "shame on you" skins. i have been lucky to be the recipient of that kind of guidance several times now. i figure the best i can do is go forward and be a credit to the profession with the mentoring i have gotten here.

i have nothing ugly to say about ruby vee.

thank you for your kind words. actually, i know it wasn't you -- my statement was an amalgamation of all the folks who have said things similar to that . . . including the poster who incorrectly quoted you in the first place. many moons ago, i went to the trouble to post a lengthy article in an attempt to help out new grads who are just starting in the icu -- and got all sorts of hostility for my trouble, including pms telling me i must be the worst preceptor in the world and that i obviously ate my young and was a bully. there were some pretty colorful posts and messages about my alleged vicousness to all newbies. the sad thing was, i really was trying to help, and i think i *did* help those who read it that way. unfortunately, there's always plenty of people looking to be offended. and they usually find something offensive.

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It's why I hardly ever post here any more. Occasionally extreme boredom or a question will bring me back. Most of the posts I read, I either want to deliver a punch to the face through the monitor or simply weep in my beer for the present and future of my profession. I have little tolerance for bullsh$&, and I am NOT a group hug sort of person.

I was getting so many pms for language and content that I decided I should not visit often, and only post occasionally when I do...just helpful, benign comments are my main m. o. now.

Except for this one. Bluegrass, get back on the wagon, beyoch!

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I always enjoyed your posts Bluegrass.

Group slap upside the head kind of person......:lol2::lol2::lol2::lol2::lol2::lol2::lol2::lol2:

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Most of the posts I read, I either want to deliver a punch to the face through the monitor or simply weep in my beer for the present and future of my profession. I have little tolerance for bullsh$&, and I am NOT a group hug sort of person.

:yeah::redpinkhe:yeah:

I do believe I have just found my soul twin.

And possibly my new mission statement for life.

I, Kunzieo, have little tolerance for bull$h!t, and I am NOT a group hug sort of person.

I like it.

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Specializes in Clinical Research, Outpt Women's Health.

Kunzeio - what you just posted on the school loan stuff rocked! :yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah::yeah:

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
thank you for your kind words. actually, i know it wasn't you -- my statement was an amalgamation of all the folks who have said things similar to that . . . including the poster who incorrectly quoted you in the first place. many moons ago, i went to the trouble to post a lengthy article in an attempt to help out new grads who are just starting in the icu -- and got all sorts of hostility for my trouble, including pms telling me i must be the worst preceptor in the world and that i obviously ate my young and was a bully. there were some pretty colorful posts and messages about my alleged vicousness to all newbies. the sad thing was, i really was trying to help, and i think i *did* help those who read it that way. unfortunately, there's always plenty of people looking to be offended. and they usually find something offensive.

ruby vee....i'd be honored to work with you!!!!!!!

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thank you for your kind words. actually, i know it wasn't you -- my statement was an amalgamation of all the folks who have said things similar to that . . . including the poster who incorrectly quoted you in the first place. many moons ago, i went to the trouble to post a lengthy article in an attempt to help out new grads who are just starting in the icu -- and got all sorts of hostility for my trouble, including pms telling me i must be the worst preceptor in the world and that i obviously ate my young and was a bully. there were some pretty colorful posts and messages about my alleged vicousness to all newbies. the sad thing was, i really was trying to help, and i think i *did* help those who read it that way. unfortunately, there's always plenty of people looking to be offended. and they usually find something offensive.
ck

that sucks.:mad: i'm hired for icu stepdown with option to start precepting in icu after a year. i'd have loved to see it. is it still around?

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
ck

that sucks.:mad: i'm hired for icu stepdown with option to start precepting in icu after a year. i'd have loved to see it. is it still around?

probably still around, although i'd have to search for it. if you find it, let me know.

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