If I Said on Here What I Wanted to Say.

[DixieRedHead]

I don't know if I am just hard hearted after so many years of nursing, or if I have just seen too many malingerers, or just too many people who blame their problems on anything and everyone but themselves. But if I answered half the posts on here with what I really feel, I think I would be thrown off.

[StrwbryblndRN]

I do the same thing Nascar Nurse. I till take 10 minutes to type, edit, erase and type again. To only find I erase it all together and keep reading.

I do not want to stick anything of my anatomy into where it does not belong.

[sugarmagnoliaRN]

I come here pretty often for advice from those with more wisdom than myself... so if I'm being a butthead, y'all better tell me! :) JMO

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

klone!! right on! oops i meant where is the compassion?

i had someone accuse me of raising my daughter to hate her. huh?? turns out it was in a texti message thread to which i stated "both my daughter and i hate "u" without the quotes around it - thinking most people could infer what i meant based on context but no. it made more sense that i raised my daughter to hate a complete stranger.

my pet peeve lately is students regurgitating what they learned in therapeutic communication 101 in replies to vents/rants.

"you need to e-d-u-c-a-t-e the patient"

really? gosh i wish someone had told me that before!! thanks!!

angry family member throws chair across the room "these families are stressed out you know" "you need to therefore understand him because he's scared"

actually, no. he threw the chair because he's a jerk and if he does it again the big security man will send him to the curb.

is nursing hard?

yes.

will i ever be a nurse?

no.

and of course a nurse with decades of experience really needs the licenseless newbie to remind her/him that "patients families are stressed out." or that "you need to do some education there." or that "if you weren't a nurse, you wouldn't know not to sit on the empty bed in your mother's room." because all of us are not only clueless, but we've never had a relative in the hospital so we couldn't possibly understand the stress.

i particularly love the threads where i advocate having (and adhering to) rules for visitors. i often get "if you were ever in the hospital" or "if you've ever had a loved one in the hospital" you'd never be that mean. excuse me, but it's because i was a patient in the hospital and my roommate's visitors were so intrusive, and because i've had relatives in the hospital that i advocate visiting hours.

ok -- i've probably said more than i ought to.

i won't even start on the "my preceptor is so mean/scarey/hates me" threads!

[mazy]

I do the same thing as Nascar, reply to posts, reread, ask myself what I'm thinking, hit delete. Every once in a while I'm really stressed out or tired and I hit the submit button. Usually I don't come to my senses until it's long past time to take it back.:dzed:

[nurseprnRN, BSN, RN]

we have three sayings in our family that come out in many situations -- i say at least one of them every day, and mean it. we have a lot of engineers and mariners, and the family has lived like that for generations. the considered opinion of this aggressively-over-educated group is that while the dinner table conversation may not be civil, it's always grammatical.

1) intuitively obvious to the casual observer

2) if you're not making waves, you're not moving forward (corollary: ships are not made to stay in port)

3) the perennially-aggrieved will always be with us

you're welcome to use them too.

[Imafloat, BSN, RN]

I just get annoyed when someone asks for help or opinions with a preconceived notion of what they are looking for as far as answers. Anyone that tries to enlighten them to anything other than this gets ignored or an argument. I once told someone, why did you ask if you were only willing to accept the answer you were looking for. I was accused of being a bully.

..................<_______this is where i erased what really wanted to say.>

Maybe I've turned into a grumpy old nurse.

[caroladybelle, BSN, RN]

heck, I have permanent demerits here because of saying what I was thinking. I think I called someone a butthead.

Mine, I believe, date back to Hurricane Katrina, and discussions thereof.

The 3 other individuals involved, no longer here. Me, i'm still present, though with dents.

(ps. Any ever know whether Rol--- and his wife are together, whether he still speaks for her against her wishes, and whether she made it to whatever nursing path she liked (despite him requiring her to go CRNA). I keep her in my thoughts.)

[caroladybelle, BSN, RN]

I personally appreciate kindness when I'm hurting.

Kindness makes one feel good, but if it keeps the poster from doing better in the future, it is actually harmful.

Many often try to politely offer advice to the poster to correct destructive/harmful behaviors, just to have it rejected and be accused of eating our young.

[maelstrom143]

At least daily I pound out some rather obnoxious reply that says exactly how I feel...then I re-read it....then I erase it and just go back to reading different threads. If I really feel strongly about the subject I will return later with a more appropriate response that I can hit the submit button. I'm just thankful that SO FAR, I've never actually hit the submit button at the wrong time.

It feels good to just get it out. Does anyone else do this routinely? Maybe I am just the butthead.

(Hitting submit now and there was no previous obnoxious response that was erased).

More often that I can count...lol. I too often have the tongue-in-cheek response that is so not appropriate, arrgghh...

I did post a stupid thread/question a wee bit back, mostly cause feeling emotionally guilty about not taking son to doc asap vs pragmatic me who thought he could wait (and he did). When I went to delete it, it had already been closed. THANK GOD. I would have hated to see the 'DUH" responses

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

kindness makes one feel good, but if it keeps the poster from doing better in the future, it is actually harmful.

many often try to politely offer advice to the poster to correct destructive/harmful behaviors, just to have it rejected and be accused of eating our young.

more than once, i've been actually trying to help someone, and have been accused of "eating our young." in fact, one person said she'd chew off her arm before she'd have a preceptor like me. it's sad, really. there is someone who would rather be right than learn something.

[Hygiene Queen]

I think I called someone a butthead.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

[diva rn, BSN, RN]

Another member of the demerit club here...it is rather disheartening to get that "private message" asking you to please cease and desist....or something like that...

I have reigned it in quite a bit over the last several months, I think I have officially become "over it"..now what I do, I am afraid, I just say, "what the heck" and apathetically walk away from the computer..................you can't cure (or help) stupid.