Thank you CountrMomma, for such an excellent article and for sharing what is a tragic experience for a family. I do not have words to tell you how very sad I am for your loss or how strong I think you are for sharing your perspective so that others may learn and benefit from it. We can, at times, come across as insensitive due to sometimes not really knowing what to say or do in a given situation or even because sometimes we see it so often that we may allow ourselves to become desensitized, thereby causing grief without meaning to do so. It is good to periodically stop and look around and realize that, while this may be our umpteenth loss for the month, umpteenth birth, death, whatever, it is often the first for our patient or his/her family. I have been a nurse for a wee bit, but I still remember losing my cool and letting the nurse in the PR hospital know that, although I was sure she had babies every day, this was my first and I did not appreciate her blase attitude (over 19 years ago now, but still remember it and try to not treat my patients in the same way).
I am very glad that you spoke with your doctor afterwards. It seems that, with your input, some positive changes did take place so that others would not go through what you did.