If I Said on Here What I Wanted to Say.

BuckyBadgerRN, ASN, RN · Nov 9, 2011

I don't know if I am just hard hearted after so many years of nursing, or if I have just seen too many malingerers, or just too many people who blame their problems on anything and everyone but themselves. But if I answered half the posts on here with what I really feel, I think I would be thrown off.

IMO, sometimes a little "tough love" is exactly what people need to hear. Sugar-coating and poo-pooing may make someone's feelings feel better, but doesn't address the issue. Again, IMO only =)

Meiriceanach · Nov 9, 2011

I understand, I think after so many years in the health field you start getting more callosed because of all the BS that is out there. It doesn't make you a less caring person, just more realistic.

NocturneNrse · Nov 9, 2011

I personally appreciate kindness when I'm hurting.

Esme12, ASN, BSN, RN · Nov 9, 2011

Ha!!! Join the club! Most of the time I have to put my keyboard down, my manager/supervisor hat on, and walk away so I can come back and give a constructive answer......When I really want to say

"WHAT WERE YOU THINKING???" :eek: :smackingf

"HOW'S THAT WORKING OUT FOR YA???" :hdvwl:

"WILL YOU STOP YOUR WHINING AND PUT YOUR BIG GIRL/BOY PANTS ON!!! :spbox:

"GROW UP AND OWN YOUR MISTAKES!!!! :flmngmd:

"WHO TOLD YOU THIS WOULD BE EASY??????" :throcomp:

Thanks...I feel better!!! :lol2:

CrunchRN, ADN, RN · Nov 9, 2011

As long as you are polite and respectful you can be honest. Sometimes honesty is a kindness itself.

klone, MSN, RN · Nov 9, 2011

heck, I have permanent demerits here because of saying what I was thinking. I think I called someone a butthead.

JeneraterRN · Nov 9, 2011

I actually said what I thought recently. The OP took it well, but the phrase, "Someone should have warned me about..." and insert the complaint , I just want to scream. How can anyone possibly forsee every problem a person could encounter and give them a warning. If they could, to what point and purpose would it serve? You wouldn't be as surprised, but you still have to take care of the situation to boot. Ack!

https://allnurses.com/general-nursing-discussion/depressed-new-grad-638997.html

Esme12, ASN, BSN, RN · Nov 9, 2011

heck, I have permanent demerits here because of saying what I was thinking. I think I called someone a butthead.

I too belong to the permanent demeritis club......for a simple request to refrain from further talking...(ok, not those exact words).......rather exclusive club, don't you think? (a butthead? really?:lol2:love it...)

CrunchRN, ADN, RN · Nov 9, 2011

I have been very careful when being honest to speak very carefully (and it is soooo hard). I have thought, but not spoken that term many a time.:smokin::smokin:

AgentBeast, MSN, RN · Nov 9, 2011

Ha, I probably wouldn't have lasted past my 1st post if I said what I really wanted to say.

sheronep, MSN, RN · Nov 9, 2011

I saw that thread and thought the OP took it well. I don't think she was talking about being warned that her life would suck, I thought she was referring to the BS that schools are dishing out about there being plenty of jobs.

Although I had a job before graduation a lot of my friends looked for a while. Our school FAILED to prepare us for the job market. We were under the false impression that there were plenty of jobs out there. If it wasn't for allnurses.com I would have been another clueless newbies writing on the boards about not finding a job.

I actually said what I thought recently. The OP took it well, but the phrase, "Someone should have warned me about..." and insert the complaint , I just want to scream. How can anyone possibly forsee every problem a person could encounter and give them a warning. If they could, to what point and purpose would it serve? You wouldn't be as surprised, but you still have to take care of the situation to boot. Ack!
https://allnurses.com/general-nursing-discussion/depressed-new-grad-638997.html