*When they stare at me for over 3 seconds for no apparent reason! Especially, when I'm trying to eat a subway sandwich or something and they just feel the need to watch me eat. Or when I'm trying to fix my hair in a portable mirror and they just feel the need to glance at me more then twice. Once should be enough because it's rude!
*When they walk so slowww in front of me to the point where I just want to push them. Because I am a very impatient person to the point where the littlest things tick me off if it's not fast enough.
*I hate when people tries to start a conversation with me! So I just smile and nod my head and hope that they get the jist that I don't want to talk. And it's not even people in general, it's actually because I'm a bad conversationalist!
Why I dislike kids:
* I don't necessarily hate them but I do force myself to be nice as possible to them. However, I really don't like interacting with children unless it's to hold a baby.
*I don't want kids until my late 30s. Go figure. And I especially don't want to get married because every relationship I get into it only lasts for about 3 months because I love being a loner. If I'm going to work seeing people then I would like to come home and see no people.
But I love animals (I have 4 dogs)! However, I just don't see myself working with animals in the future because I would love to keep my hands in tact.
And no guys I am not trolling. This is really an everything for me and it's the reasons why it is so hard for me to commit to nursing. And I actually have an appointment set up with a therapist July 18 before I go off to nursing school and it's to find out why I really act this way.
So I just wanted to make this thread because after scrolling Allnurses for the last two days I find that threads like these are not common but their are people out there who is just like me and wants to go into nursing. I want to be a nurse because I find that I really like helping people and kids at their weakest points but other than that I hate people.
Nurses deal with not only the patient but their families, their doctors, and everyone else on the staff. We coordinate their care and make sure everything is done, which involves speaking to a lot of people. Good luck.
Good for you for being wise enough to face the realities and determine what will suit you as well as taking steps to see if some things can be changed.
I work OR and there is still SOME time dealing with patients while they are awake. I do, anyway, where I work.
A psychiatrist will be involved with medication decisions. If you don't want to go that route, find a psychologist who can do therapy, both talk therapy and strategies involved with self calming techniques and behavioral techniques.
So I have read many of you guys comments and it did motivate me to look into being a scrub tech, as I'm in the process of researching more about it, so I will let you guys know.
(Also) UPDATE: You guys had also inspired me to try to come out of my comfort zone and I did volunteer at a children's home as a one time thing because I didn't know how I would take the commitment. I read stories to the children but it was killing me inside the whole time that day, feeling all those eyes of the children on me. I couldn't finish the story because I couldn't focus on the words since the whole time in my head I kept seeing eyes and I felt as if I was having an anxiety attack. So I can't wait for my appointment with the psychiatrist because I now know that I have a serious problem, all for venturing out of my comfort zone.
I used to love people...then I became a nurse! Although, I wouldn't say I hate or dislike people I will admit that I am definitely less "cheery" and have become a bit of a @itch since I became a nurse. Learning to assert myself and being bullied has caused me to harden...toughen. Abusive/ungrateful patients and their equally abusive families will do that. I still care about humanity, but I find I approach people differently now and I wonder what happened to the person I used to be. I wish nurses were treated with a little more respect -- I think that's the problem. Nursing nowadays, I am told by the veteran nurses I work with "Ain't what it used to be" and has been proportionally degraded.
I think that you may be surprised at how differently you view people once you are taking care of them at a very low/weak point in their lives and learn more about them. Don't get me wrong, you WILL be annoyed/frustrated with many patients but you'll find that the majority of nurses have a pretty dark but amazing sense of humor...and we help each other through the moments of wanting to drop kick someone through venting/laughter. Try shadowing a nurse for a shift to get a feel for it.
OP, why did you come on a nursing forum to rant about how much you hate people?
To get a rise out of people which they accomplished.
While everyone is on their high moral horses maybe you all should make sure that you've never bashed a patient or their families. The OP is expressing a view that I've read here numerous amounts of times. At least they had the guts to just come out and say how they feel without trying to whitewash it as "venting".
*When they stare at me for over 3 seconds for no apparent reason! Especially, when I'm trying to eat a subway sandwich or something and they just feel the need to watch me eat. Or when I'm trying to fix my hair in a portable mirror and they just feel the need to glance at me more then twice. Once should be enough because it's ru:
*When they walk so slowww in front of me to the point where I just want to push them. Because I am a very impatient person to the point where the littlest things tick me off if it's not fast enough.
*I hate when people tries to start a conversation with me! So I just smile and nod my head and hope that they get the jist that I don't want to talk. And it's not even people in general, it's actually because I'm a bad conversationalist!
Why I dislike kids:
* I don't necessarily hate them but I do force myself to be nice as possible to them. However, I really don't like interacting with children unless it's to hold a baby.
*I don't want kids until my late 30s. Go figure. And I especially don't want to get married because every relationship I get into it only lasts for about 3 months because I love being a loner. If I'm going to work seeing people then I would like to come home and see no people.
But I love animals (I have 4 dogs)! However, I just don't see myself working with animals in the future because I would love to keep my hands in tact.
And no guys I am not trolling. This is really an everything for me and it's the reasons why it is so hard for me to commit to nursing. And I actually have an appointment set up with a therapist July 18 before I go off to nursing school and it's to find out why I really act this way.
So I just wanted to make this thread because after scrolling Allnurses for the last two days I find that threads like these are not common but their are people out there who is just like me and wants to go into nursing. I want to be a nurse because I find that I really like helping people and kids at their weakest points but other than that I hate people.
I appreciate your honesty and truly feel that you would benefit from therapy to unravel some of the issues that you are having. I would definitely hold off on pursuing a job in nursing until you feel you are more comfortable around people. It sounds like you might actually have some issues with social phobia and nursing will certainly worsen these feelings if this is the case. It is high stress and requires constant interaction with people of all backgrounds, constant meetings etc. There is also a sense of hyperawareness that you seem to be experiencing where you feel stared at and watched. These are definitely thingsa therapist can help you with. You can puah through these issues with help and commitment.Good luck and don't give up!
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AlyaMF
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Love animals.