*When they stare at me for over 3 seconds for no apparent reason! Especially, when I'm trying to eat a subway sandwich or something and they just feel the need to watch me eat. Or when I'm trying to fix my hair in a portable mirror and they just feel the need to glance at me more then twice. Once should be enough because it's rude!
*When they walk so slowww in front of me to the point where I just want to push them. Because I am a very impatient person to the point where the littlest things tick me off if it's not fast enough.
*I hate when people tries to start a conversation with me! So I just smile and nod my head and hope that they get the jist that I don't want to talk. And it's not even people in general, it's actually because I'm a bad conversationalist!
Why I dislike kids:
* I don't necessarily hate them but I do force myself to be nice as possible to them. However, I really don't like interacting with children unless it's to hold a baby.
*I don't want kids until my late 30s. Go figure. And I especially don't want to get married because every relationship I get into it only lasts for about 3 months because I love being a loner. If I'm going to work seeing people then I would like to come home and see no people.
But I love animals (I have 4 dogs)! However, I just don't see myself working with animals in the future because I would love to keep my hands in tact.
And no guys I am not trolling. This is really an everything for me and it's the reasons why it is so hard for me to commit to nursing. And I actually have an appointment set up with a therapist July 18 before I go off to nursing school and it's to find out why I really act this way.
So I just wanted to make this thread because after scrolling Allnurses for the last two days I find that threads like these are not common but their are people out there who is just like me and wants to go into nursing. I want to be a nurse because I find that I really like helping people and kids at their weakest points but other than that I hate people.
I skipped a bunch of pages because, frankly, I couldn't figure out WHAT was going on lol. I went back to catch up-must have missed this the first time through.
You can be a nurse who doesn't work directly with patients, like be in Administration. OR work in Surgery or the Recovery Room, where people are not in your care very long and they are not terribly coherent.
Your personality is what it is. IT is good that you recognize your personality instead of trying to be someone you are not. God bless you. And I wish you all the best.
If you haven't hugged anyone in three years how are you going to get up close and personal with your patients? (ex: baths, wiping them, inserting IVs/catheters)
I have never hugged someone who behind I wasa wiping, I have never desired to hug a pt while bathing him or starting his IV. LOL
As for the kids/relationship/career/animals decisions, I think you'll make the right calls for you when the right time comes for you to make them. You're thinking about these things and seem to know pretty much how you feel. Most people feel differently about things like marraige and kids at different times in their lives, we all grow and change, and as we live our lives we meet new people. You may have yet to meet the someone who thrills you enough to make you reconsider your status as a loner and perhaps even make you want to squeeze out some of his rugrats and raise them with him in blissful matrimony and all like that. Does such a person even exist? Who the hell knows? Then again, you could wind up not doing any of that crap. Maybe you will wind up doing something else, something that makes you happy, instead. I don't know, I am not a fortune teller lady. However, I do know that when people regularly stop and ask themselves stuff like "Am I happy? Am I not happy? Why do I doubt my happiness? What could I be doing differently that would make me happier? Is this what I want? Well, what the hell do I want then?" are usually much, much happier and much more likely to be doing things that make them happy with people they are happy to be doing those things with than are people who never question why they are loners who love dogs but loathe other humans.
Barring any unforseen taps on the brain with anything larger or harder than an iron skillet or being abducted by ebola-infected intergalactic gypsies, I think you're gonna be okay.
I totally get you, I used want to study medicine as well but took nursing for the same reasons. I am a new grad starting soon and kind of share your feelings of people but not as intense.
Its a good step to see a psychiatrist about this. At least you are doing something about these feelings. I wouldnt say I hate people, hate is a strong word. I just don't understand them at times and tend to be a loner.
I have customer service experience and you'd be surprised by how just muting these negative thoughts let you just focus on the moment and interact with your surroundings. Good luck in school!
I'm not a people person either...mainly because the world is full of jerks and bullies. Obviously I'm happy with nice people, but at the end of the day I just want to be alone to enjoy a relaxed quiet place to clear my mind and cuddle with my kitten!
*When they stare at me for over 3 seconds for no apparent reason! Especially, when I'm trying to eat a subway sandwich or something and they just feel the need to watch me eat. Or when I'm trying to fix my hair in a portable mirror and they just feel the need to glance at me more then twice. Once should be enough because it's rude!
*When they walk so slowww in front of me to the point where I just want to push them. Because I am a very impatient person to the point where the littlest things tick me off if it's not fast enough.
*I hate when people tries to start a conversation with me! So I just smile and nod my head and hope that they get the jist that I don't want to talk. And it's not even people in general, it's actually because I'm a bad conversationalist!
Why I dislike kids:
* I don't necessarily hate them but I do force myself to be nice as possible to them. However, I really don't like interacting with children unless it's to hold a baby.
*I don't want kids until my late 30s. Go figure. And I especially don't want to get married because every relationship I get into it only lasts for about 3 months because I love being a loner. If I'm going to work seeing people then I would like to come home and see no people.
But I love animals (I have 4 dogs)! However, I just don't see myself working with animals in the future because I would love to keep my hands in tact.
And no guys I am not trolling. This is really an everything for me and it's the reasons why it is so hard for me to commit to nursing. And I actually have an appointment set up with a therapist July 18 before I go off to nursing school and it's to find out why I really act this way.
So I just wanted to make this thread because after scrolling Allnurses for the last two days I find that threads like these are not common but their are people out there who is just like me and wants to go into nursing. I want to be a nurse because I find that I really like helping people and kids at their weakest points but other than that I hate people.
I can understand where you are coming from. I'm very similar in many ways...alot of things get on my nerves and a lot of people get on my nerves. I can be very social at times and very outgoing and very friendly at work, but it can be exhausting at times. I always need some downtime by myself when I get home...just to collect my thoughts and reload.
I recently went to a therapist...just once, but I plan on returning. I was telling her about my father and how he really wasn't that social, and I was a lot like him in many ways. She then commented that he was more introverted. I replied by saying that he wasn't introverted, he just couldn't stand anybody. She then told me this was another way of being introverted. I replied with a "hmmmmm".
This was kinda starting to make sense to me. I never really thought of myself as being a introvert. I don't really consider myself to be shy, although many people have accused me of being shy. I just don't always feel like I want to talk to people.
I also can't stand having roommates. Except for my boyfriend...who is also pretty introverted, so it works out.
Seems to me you enjoy playing the devil's advocate and trying to get a reaction or argument from others who have more mainstream views. I do, however agree, that you do not have to care about people to be a good nurse. Over 35 years of practice I have worked with a handful of such nurses and basically they did a good job only to feed their own ego and elicit praise...they needed to be seen as the best at all technical skills which was good for the patients, even though these nurses demonstrated little empathy and compassion. "Egotism is the anesthetic that dulls the pain of stupidity" said Frank Leahy. Perhaps you should pursue a career as a nurse anesthetist, because choosing to work with alert patients and family with your feelings seems an illogical/ill-conceived choice.
Someone is trolling us. Maybe it's a slow night over at "Student Doctor."
Lol, believe what you want, but at least I know the truth. I see no specific reason to lie when I can be anonymous and just vent. And yes I would like to see as little as possible of family members that I can because I wouldn't know how to speak to them. And I see nothing wrong with that.
I feel the same way. I'm general, I don't like people. I tolerate them. So I understand what you're saying. I CAN interact with people, I would just rather not. Go ahead and say I shouldn't be a nurse. I agree but I'm in my 50s and don't have many careers options at this stage of my life. However, I am great with patients and family because I feel like it's part of the job. When a difficult or challenging patient is creating a ruckus, I'm the one they send in to talk to them. I can get them eating out of my hand. It's a skill I'm happy to have. And just like any job, there are things about it that you don't like. What I love best about my job is I get to do science every single day. If I have to talk to people in the process, well it's a small price to pay.
Oh boy. I do believe the posts are turning from trying to help by suggesting a different career option, to "oh, you'll be fine! You can hate people and still have the makings of a *great* nurse."
Oh boy. I do believe the posts are turning from trying to help by suggesting a different career option, to "oh, you'll be fine! You can hate people and still have the makings of a *great* nurse."
Oi.
iI think its a conversation among people who have similar traits and how we cope with it. Speaking for myself I didn't go into nursing to get praise or feel good about myself. It's just the opposite. I'm not there for me. I'm there for them. I don't care if they like me or want to show gratitude or praise. I'm there for the outcome. I like to see the results of the care I provided. If the patient or family thanks me or shows gratitude it's a bonus. I don't look for it or expect it. I appreciate it but it's not required for me to do a good job. i do my job the same way if they're nice or if they're jerks. It's what I am supposed to do.
iI think its a conversation among people who have similar traits and how we cope with it. Speaking for myself I didn't go into nursing to get praise or feel good about myself. It's just the opposite. I'm not there for me. I'm there for them. I don't care if they like me or want to show gratitude or praise. I'm there for the outcome. I like to see the results of the care I provided. If the patient or family thanks me or shows gratitude it's a bonus. I don't look for it or expect it. I appreciate it but it's not required for me to do a good job. i do my job the same way if they're nice or if they're jerks. It's what I am supposed to do.
Lol I know what it was a conversation of. I've been here since the very first comment.
Forgive me, I just woke up for my fourth shift this week and I'm grumpy.
But I'm wondering if you've read the entire thread and read how many times she clarified over and over how much she hates people.
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I skipped a bunch of pages because, frankly, I couldn't figure out WHAT was going on lol. I went back to catch up-must have missed this the first time through.
Yes, yes you do. You do indeed win.