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Kooky Korky BSN, RN

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    Nurses and Bullying: 4 Things You Can Do

    I can relate to the bitter, mean girl part. I have worked with some really unhappy people. Their personal lives were a mess, they brought their misery to work, they took it out on newbies like me. 40 years later, I recall their ugliness, their meanness, their selfishness. I should have a fake funeral for them, where I bury them once and for all. Maybe that would help me forget them. Of course, they were great examples of how not to be. Many times, I've been told how helpful, friendly, otherwise wonderful I was by students and by coworkers. Mainly, I don't talk about personal stuff, I get to work on time and actually do my work, I help others when possible, and try very hard to be friendly and courteous. Yes, I wish I'd known way back when that personal misery came out as ***ery at work. I took it personally, like I was the one doing wrong. Later, I figured out it could't have all been me. From these horse's asses, I learned and have always practiced being a pleasant fellow to all. Stand up for yourselves, guys. No one else will or should have to.
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    Code Blue: Just Trying Figure Out What Happened?

    Kind of like when Carlo had to answer for Santino and he and Luca Brasi were both garrotted to death and their bowels let loose while they were in their death throes? The move doesn't say it but the book does. Not really joking here, it really does say it. Might have happened to Pauli, too, when he was murdered.
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    Ethical Question

    Why and how could OP make sure the coworker deleted the picture. How is this OP responsible to make sure the goofball coworker actually deleted it? HR and Management would not give her a 2nd chance - not without a reprimand, at least, to go along with that 2nd chance.
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    Depressed and Suicidal at work

    You have had a very big change in your life recently - getting married. As much as you might be in love, it is a huge change and adjustment. Plus you are in school, so I am guessing you don't get a whole lot of sleep and exercise. You don't mention kids, pets, or anyone dependent upon you for care, but perhaps you have that, too? Your job is way too stressful. If you are able to get your union to help force proper staffing, great. If not, get gone. Sooner rather than later. The more work you and your colleagues agree to do, the more you will have to do. So you need to start refusing. I don't know that you should get into refusing at this point. You seem to have enough going on, although it sounds like work is maybe your biggest stressor. If you are serious about being suicidal, you know you need to get to a psychiatrist, social worker, or psychologist immediately, right? No delay, no excuses. It sounds like you have a Hx of SI. Please, please get help for this immediately. There are suicide hotlines, crisis hotlines. Or get to a 12 Step meeting (AA, OA, NA, EA, maybe others). There are some great people at those meetings and even if you aren't alcoholic, addicted to food or narcotics, or don't have trouble handling your emotions, you will find help and understanding at these meetings. I wish you were close by but I am sending you a virtual hug. I really am genuinely worried about you, so I hope you will come back and post again soon.
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    Lice found, but not on head

    Judge Judy's new hairdo looks good but she needs to retire. She is so mean and impatient. She thinks like a wealthy person and seems to have little empathy with commoners. That said, I would need to ask about itching, think about scabies, sensitivity to things that can cause contact dermatitis, sexual ativity. And I'd settle for one nit or louse.
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    The Stigma of Men in Nursing

    Male nurses are generally able to advance quickly as Managers and CRNA's for example. We don't need time off for child-related matters the way women do. And bosses tend to see this as a good thing. Generally speaking.
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    New Nurse Venting

    You probably won't be able to do much good as a Manager because you will have to answer to Admin, who will set the budget and the rules. How about being a union organizer? you could also begin educating your family, friends, and community groups about the things you have seen and experienced so they know what's going on in their hospitals. Inform your elected representatives, too. Work to change laws, make laws about staffing. Don't ever, ever, ever let anyone grab you again, without reporting them to police. In fact, depending on how long it's been, you could possibly still report that physical violence. If a doctor yells at you or is rude, set him or her straight - nicely but firmly. Tell the truth - you didn't know the number or who to call and you are sorry, but tell them to never yell at you or be rude to you again. The rules of a civil society are not set aside for doctors. You stand up for yourself. No one else will do it. How does the doctor at your current job make you feel incompetent and untrustworthy every waking moment of his life? You really need to have a talk with him. Privately, calmly. Tell him how you feel and why. Give concrete examples. Ask him what you can do to improve your relationship and gain his confidence and respect. He might be an arrogant, egotistical madman, maybe he doesn't realize how he comes across. Who knows what his problem is? But you need to stand up for yourself all through life. Start now. Good luck. And stop gossiping and listening to gossip. Where did you hear about the Manager who was a bully? What are you studying? Your friends might be happy today but you don't know how things might go tomorrow. I don't wish them evil, but we just don't know the future. Again, good luck.
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    She still has to pass the class, right, if it's a requirement? This opportunity could come again if you are not ready to take it now, OP.
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    School nurse questions.

    I can see it on the 1 day per week that she is there. But not the rest of the time. She does not make the job description or policies.
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    The rules apply...until they don't...

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    I’m in a toxic relationship with the ER

    If you do get punched, call the police. The hell with being compassionate and docile. you are not a punching bag and no one is allowed to assault you without consequences - patient, family, nobody.
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    I’m in a toxic relationship with the ER

    You need a decent amount of deep sleep. Night shift is really destructive for most people. It is totally unnatural, unless you are the rare person who is a natural night owl. You can't afford to lose your shift differential, but you think you can afford to lose your health and joy. Wrong. I'm sorry you are having difficulties and I do hope you find what you are looking for. Make the needed change. Good luck to you.
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    How Mindfulness Saved My Career

    It's one thing to be stuck in traffic sometimes, or have an ugly encounter with someone in a store or wherever on a rare occasion. It's quite another to have to work in seriously messed up work settings day in and day out. I know you meant well with this article, or it was therapeutic for you to write it. And you should continue to find ways to make peace within yourself. But such is not a reason to not work toward eliminating the major cause of misery and stress in your life - namely, your bedside job. When will nurses unite? Blessings upon us all.
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    The rules apply...until they don't...

    OK, I have to ask. FAPE? NTX? mow the lawn?
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    Any Advice?

    Lots of good info Many thanks!
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    Increase in bad student behavior.

    What have you tried beyond complaining to the school officials? how about the TV newspeople? Senators and other elected officials? You can do it anonymously if needed.