I Hate People (my rant)

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Why I hate people in general (reasons why):

*When they stare at me for over 3 seconds for no apparent reason! Especially, when I'm trying to eat a subway sandwich or something and they just feel the need to watch me eat. Or when I'm trying to fix my hair in a portable mirror and they just feel the need to glance at me more then twice. Once should be enough because it's rude!

*When they walk so slowww in front of me to the point where I just want to push them. Because I am a very impatient person to the point where the littlest things tick me off if it's not fast enough.

*I hate when people tries to start a conversation with me! So I just smile and nod my head and hope that they get the jist that I don't want to talk. And it's not even people in general, it's actually because I'm a bad conversationalist!

Why I dislike kids:

* I don't necessarily hate them but I do force myself to be nice as possible to them. However, I really don't like interacting with children unless it's to hold a baby.

*I don't want kids until my late 30s. Go figure. And I especially don't want to get married because every relationship I get into it only lasts for about 3 months because I love being a loner. If I'm going to work seeing people then I would like to come home and see no people.

But I love animals (I have 4 dogs)! However, I just don't see myself working with animals in the future because I would love to keep my hands in tact.

And no guys I am not trolling. This is really an everything for me and it's the reasons why it is so hard for me to commit to nursing. And I actually have an appointment set up with a therapist July 18 before I go off to nursing school and it's to find out why I really act this way.

So I just wanted to make this thread because after scrolling Allnurses for the last two days I find that threads like these are not common but their are people out there who is just like me and wants to go into nursing. I want to be a nurse because I find that I really like helping people and kids at their weakest points but other than that I hate people.

Specializes in critical care.
You're right. OP just falls into the "people I wouldn't want as a coworker, nurse, patient, or anyone I would have to interact with on a regular basis" category for me. It's not jab to the OP; I'm sure the feeling is mutual.

This really bums me out, that you would judge someone for having less altruistic motives than you. Wanting a paycheck doesn't mean a person wouldn't be a good nurse, or heck, a good person. I see by your profile that you are an LPN becoming an RN. What is your motivation? Money?

When we've had society telling us that there is a nursing shortage and there is good money in nursing, is there any wonder why people would consider nursing? Face it - survival requires money, and nursing has been painted as a safe bet to earn it. Wanting to pay your way through life in an honorable profession is a perfectly valid reason to go into nursing and does not speak AT ALL to the quality of the person or the care they provide.

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You're right. OP just falls into the "people I wouldn't want as a coworker, nurse, patient, or anyone I would have to interact with on a regular basis" category for me. It's not jab to the OP; I'm sure the feeling is mutual.

I was talking about you LOL. Who are you to judge why people choose nursing? We all have our motives and we are not all "called" to the profession.

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I agree, but it is also my observation that this OP is undeservedly getting way TOO MUCH of our attention in this forum, but I think that is the goal. This OP may hate people but not his/herself. Obviously the OP thinks some poor mental health therapist should care enough to listen to the whining, and focus on her/his anti-social feelings. It is unbelievable that this OP who admittedly hates people, is able to feed the narcissism, by seeking out human interaction in treatment and in this forum.

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Specializes in Emergency & Trauma/Adult ICU.
I agree, but it is also my observation that this OP is undeservedly getting way TOO MUCH of our attention in this forum, but I think that is the goal. This OP may hate people but not his/herself. Obviously the OP thinks some poor mental health therapist should care enough to listen to the whining, and focus on her/his anti-social feelings. It is unbelievable that this OP who admittedly hates people, is able to feed the narcissism, by seeking out human interaction in treatment and in this forum.

Post of the day, right there. Let's hope the OP's mental health provider is as insightful.

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Some people see "great nursing" as all about skills and critical thinking. Oh, she's great at IVs, or she really knows her open hearts.

But I disagree that someone who truly hates people is a great nurse. I'm not talking introversion or occasional impatience by the end of a long day. I'm talking about genuine misanthropy.

Patients aren't stupid. They know a nurse who is totally lacking in compassion and empathy the minute she walks into their room, and they know it isn't good for them. I'm not talking angelic or perfect or pollyanna or any of those hyperboles. I'm talking compassion and empathy, and what that does bring to a patient who is sick, vulnerable, and scared.

If you've ever experienced a "bad nurse," you probably aren't thinking so much in terms of their skills. You're talking about that other element: the one that is sorely lacking in a nurse who truly "hates people."

This post should be permanently on the front page.

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Specializes in Geriatrics, Mental Health, Community.

Why is it okay for OP to outwardly claim she hates people -you describe it as "less altruistic" well I guess that's one way to put it. But that's not how the OP put it. I can understand going into nursing for money but critical thinking, heart, skill and an attitude. As long as she's talking to a professional and not just putting it up anonymously on a forum then that's to her benefit. As for your other comment...I went to LPN school at 23, before that I was a CNA for 2 years. I wouldn't say that I am scrambling to get money ... If that were the case I would've went straight from high school to college for RN.. Instead I took general education courses and nursing pre-reqs from 18-23, LPN school from 23-24, practicing LPN for 4 years and beginning an RN program at 28... So this is no mad dash for money. I made pretty good money and wasn't hurting for it. I did this because I want to; it allows growth. I don't hate people...I want to help.

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Specializes in critical care.
Why is it okay for OP to outwardly claim she hates people -you describe it as "less altruistic" well I guess that's one way to put it. But that's not how the OP put it. I can understand going into nursing for money but critical thinking, heart, skill and an attitude. As long as she's talking to a professional and not just putting it up anonymously on a forum then that's to her benefit. As for your other comment...I went to LPN school at 23, before that I was a CNA for 2 years. I wouldn't say that I am scrambling to get money ... If that were the case I would've went straight from high school to college for RN.. Instead I took general education courses and nursing pre-reqs from 18-23, LPN school from 23-24, practicing LPN for 4 years and beginning an RN program at 28... So this is no mad dash for money. I made pretty good money and wasn't hurting for it. I did this because I want to; it allows growth. I don't hate people...I want to help.

I'll comment to your first sentence - if you reread my post, I wasn't calling "hating people" less altruistic. I was calling *becoming a nurse for the money* less altruistic. And yes, going into it for the money is valid. That was in direct response to your post, not the OP.

The rest, genuinely, good luck in your program and I hope you do find continued success.

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Haha! I must say, I like your moxie! It is very difficult to admit something like that; I feel much the same way about most people, but I try to control it, and do my job, anyway. It helps if you select an option where you can choose to work with only less active PTs (perhaps a ICU?) As for families, if you want to work with them - become a Hospice nurse...Most find that families only complicate things, and anyone who say differently, is..... a rare individual. Most pay homage to the idea that nursing is about liking and helping people in need. That may be true, usually, but these professionals have their (I-hate-people-days, too!) They are just not discussed or not openly, at least. That being said, you may not need a psychiatrist to "change your ways" (thinking,) but I strongly suggest some "Anger Management" intervention. You need not like people to work with them, but when you want to shove someone out of your way because they don't move fast enough for you - THAT IS ANGRY! If your family knows and accepts you this way, you are probably a spoiled BRAT, and you become a BULLY for allowing them to continue this way - they can't sincerely like you this way; they are afraid to say NO! Rather than laying it all on a "shrink" to "fix" you..(with your attitude that is exactly what you will expect,) GROW UP, spend time in anger management classes/workshops and groups - put off college for one more semester, and try living in the world before you waste time & (yours or your parents'?) money on what you "think" you want! Good Luck!

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
I'm starting my ASN program 8/24.. I don't respect people that go into nursing JUST for the paycheck. OP, why can't you study another other profession? Honestly, it sounds like the most ill-conceived idea to go into nursing if you hate people. That's ridiculous. I can understand people that are introverted, awkward, socially stunted...but it sounds like the OP has a mental health issue and is on the right track by seeing a professional.

You had better LEARN to respect people who went into nursing just for the paycheck. There's a lot of us out there and some of them may be your instructors, preceptors, fellow students and colleagues. There are plenty of threads on here about people's reasons for going into nursing, and "for the money" is just as valid a reason as any other.

Although hating people sounds like a very good reason NOT to go into nursing.

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Specializes in Geriatrics, Mental Health, Community.

Ok thanks for the input.

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Exactly why I'm going to see a pyschiatrist to help me change my ways... I actually prefer the unconscious patients and night shift so I see no families.

Hating people and wanting to be a nurse...... Might not be the best profession to choose for your career. My job pretty much fits that profile and I still speak to coworkers and family on a regular basis.

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