I Hate People (my rant)

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Why I hate people in general (reasons why):

*When they stare at me for over 3 seconds for no apparent reason! Especially, when I'm trying to eat a subway sandwich or something and they just feel the need to watch me eat. Or when I'm trying to fix my hair in a portable mirror and they just feel the need to glance at me more then twice. Once should be enough because it's rude!

*When they walk so slowww in front of me to the point where I just want to push them. Because I am a very impatient person to the point where the littlest things tick me off if it's not fast enough.

*I hate when people tries to start a conversation with me! So I just smile and nod my head and hope that they get the jist that I don't want to talk. And it's not even people in general, it's actually because I'm a bad conversationalist!

Why I dislike kids:

* I don't necessarily hate them but I do force myself to be nice as possible to them. However, I really don't like interacting with children unless it's to hold a baby.

*I don't want kids until my late 30s. Go figure. And I especially don't want to get married because every relationship I get into it only lasts for about 3 months because I love being a loner. If I'm going to work seeing people then I would like to come home and see no people.

But I love animals (I have 4 dogs)! However, I just don't see myself working with animals in the future because I would love to keep my hands in tact.

And no guys I am not trolling. This is really an everything for me and it's the reasons why it is so hard for me to commit to nursing. And I actually have an appointment set up with a therapist July 18 before I go off to nursing school and it's to find out why I really act this way.

So I just wanted to make this thread because after scrolling Allnurses for the last two days I find that threads like these are not common but their are people out there who is just like me and wants to go into nursing. I want to be a nurse because I find that I really like helping people and kids at their weakest points but other than that I hate people.

I don't see any way in hell how you could be a nurse. I highly doubt you would even make it past first semester of school.

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I am happy to hear you are going to see someone to help you with self reflection. Perhaps you are an introvert, and just have limited social skills from being home schooled. Hate may be harsher than you truly feel, maybe it is more of an uncertainty of how to communicate with others. I am an introvert, and I am totally exhausted when I get home and do not want any interaction even music can be too much for me. I have often said to myself maybe I should have worked in a morgue, but you still have to deal and communicate with people during very difficult times in their lives. There are many jobs in nursing where you can work that can have more limited contact with family and people.It can be difficult for others to hear the word hate and nursing placed in the same sentence. In our eyes they just don't seem to fit together. I hope your counseling will help you see inside yourself as to the reasons you feel the way you do. To me you sound like you have limited social skills, insecurity within yourself, and because of this, you have limited coping skills. Good luck. If you find nursing is not your fit, do not feel like a failure, find the career that will fit and make you happy. Do not force yourself into a future that you will be miserable in. It will only cause you more heartache as well as those who are around you. Good Luck

I don't see any way in hell how you could be a nurse. I highly doubt you would even make it past first semester of school.

That's not very nice. Take a step off your high and mighty horse.

Honestly, I don't know a single nurse who LOVES people, especially after years of being abused by patients/families/management.

My advice to the OP. Consider maybe going into research. A friend of mine was an ER nurse but went back to school and is now a cell biologist in a research lab and 1-milion times happier with her career and healthier work-life balance; she treated with respect and feels very fulfilled. I'm considering this route myself (going back to school for a degree in purse science). Patients will suck the life out of you, and I would only discourage you from becoming a nurse to safeguard your own well-being and happiness.

If you hate people this much, don't go into nursing. You really do need a therapist, because this is extremely strange. Do you hate old people too? If not, then after nursing school work in a nursing home. Even nursing home, you interact with family a lot. Girl, nursing is definitely not for you. Good luck to you.

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
That's not very nice. Take a step off your high and mighty horse.

Honestly, I don't know a single nurse who LOVES people, especially after years of being abused by patients/families/management.

My advice to the OP. Consider maybe going into research. A friend of mine was an ER nurse but went back to school and is now a cell biologist in a research lab and 1-milion times happier with her career and healthier work-life balance; she treated with respect and feels very fulfilled. I'm considering this route myself (going back to school for a degree in purse science). Patients will suck the life out of you, and I would only discourage you from becoming a nurse to safeguard your own well-being and happiness.

I've never heard of purse science. What is it about?

That's not very nice. Take a step off your high and mighty horse.

Honestly, I don't know a single nurse who LOVES people, especially after years of being abused by patients/families/management.

My advice to the OP. Consider maybe going into research. A friend of mine was an ER nurse but went back to school and is now a cell biologist in a research lab and 1-milion times happier with her career and healthier work-life balance; she treated with respect and feels very fulfilled. I'm considering this route myself (going back to school for a degree in purse science). Patients will suck the life out of you, and I would only discourage you from becoming a nurse to safeguard your own well-being and happiness.

I've been a nurse since 1996 and don't hate people. I also haven't spent my career being "abused" by patients, families, and management. No one has sucked the life out of me, and I still enjoy nursing. I don't work full time, but I didn't feel any differently about people when I was working full time.

It's patently false that there are no nurses who love people.

Specializes in TCU, Post-surgical, Infection Prevention.
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Meither... No gremins, ET, Fast times, American Pie, Saw (series) and *gasp* Titanic...

Babe is awesome!

That's not very nice. Take a step off your high and mighty horse.

Honestly, I don't know a single nurse who LOVES people, especially after years of being abused by patients/families/management.

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I most certainly am not on a high horse. The OP was off the charts ridiculous. It's one thing if you have pet peeves. You can make it in nursing with some pet peeves. But, yes, I will absolutely say in no uncertain terms that if you TRULY HATE people, then stay away from this career. I will even repeat it. There is no way in hell you will make it in nursing if someone walking in front of you makes you actually want to PUSH them. I found many aspects of her post to be outright mean.

Someone looking at you for THREE seconds is not staring!!! If you're in scrubs, and walk the floor, you're going to have patients practically clawing at you to get your attention. She said she HATES it. While there are many areas of nursing that do not include floor nursing, you still have to make it through nursing school for one. Second, you have to start somewhere before you eventually get a job you could really like. It is most likely that she will have to have physical people- interacting jobs at first.

I never said anything about having to LOVE the job.

Her extremely blunt way of stating how much she despises people absolutely provoked me to speak as equally bluntly.

I've been a nurse since 1996 and don't hate people. I also haven't spent my career being "abused" by patients, families, and management. No one has sucked the life out of me, and I still enjoy nursing. I don't work full time, but I didn't feel any differently about people when I was working full time.

It's patently false that there are no nurses who love people.

Oh "Felicia",

Where is this magical place where you work, where nurses are NEVER mistreated? Because I'm pretty sure everyone here would like to work there asap! I love when management Nurses like you come on here and pontificate as if they are this era's Florence Nightingale. Abuse is (unfortunately) common at the bedside. What's next, are you going to tell me that racism does not exist. Get a clue!

For you to be a Nurse that long and to have NEVER experienced any form of abuse (verbal, physical, psychological, etc...) is highly suspicious. You must work in management (ex. Patient care manager) or in an administration capacity.

The rate of abuse increases for Nurses who A)work at the bedside, B) work with patients who have cognitive issues, C) for Nurses who are young, female, and visible ethnic minorities. I work as a bedside Nurse and am in-touch with the realities and struggles of bedside nurses.

Your experience is not the norm, and most certainly is not the norm for nurses of colour. Bye Felicia!

Autocorrect. I meant pure science. I'm starting a new degree in biochemistry in September.

Fair enough, agreed, and sometimes it is better to not mince words... But the OP could still survive her clinicals and move into graduate studies. Besides think the OP's post should be taken with a grain of salt.

I know lots of Nurses who never set foot on the floor, but instead jumped right into a nursing masters/research/administration position and are exceptionally happy. Also, I've also seen many a so-called, self-processed "people-person" nurse wannabes... They're all shiny and peppy and tout holistic care models and all sorts of unrealistic ambitions that do not translate into the realities of bedaide nursing... And for all their spirit, energy,and enthusiasm they can't hack it. They can't hack it, for example when they are made primary for the racist, naked, old, confused guy who kicks, punches and bites. Starting off a nursing career as a COB might better prepare the OP for the realities of dealing with very difficult people. I do agree that Nursing is definitely not for people who aren't a people-person... But the OP is clearly suffering from some kind of anxiety/emotional distress. Maybe all the OP needs is proper counselling to succeed.

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