I Hate People (my rant)

[AlyaMF]

The Sum Up:

Why I hate people in general (reasons why):

*When they stare at me for over 3 seconds for no apparent reason! Especially, when I'm trying to eat a subway sandwich or something and they just feel the need to watch me eat. Or when I'm trying to fix my hair in a portable mirror and they just feel the need to glance at me more then twice. Once should be enough because it's rude!

*When they walk so slowww in front of me to the point where I just want to push them. Because I am a very impatient person to the point where the littlest things tick me off if it's not fast enough.

*I hate when people tries to start a conversation with me! So I just smile and nod my head and hope that they get the jist that I don't want to talk. And it's not even people in general, it's actually because I'm a bad conversationalist!

Why I dislike kids:

* I don't necessarily hate them but I do force myself to be nice as possible to them. However, I really don't like interacting with children unless it's to hold a baby.

*I don't want kids until my late 30s. Go figure. And I especially don't want to get married because every relationship I get into it only lasts for about 3 months because I love being a loner. If I'm going to work seeing people then I would like to come home and see no people.

But I love animals (I have 4 dogs)! However, I just don't see myself working with animals in the future because I would love to keep my hands in tact.

And no guys I am not trolling. This is really an everything for me and it's the reasons why it is so hard for me to commit to nursing. And I actually have an appointment set up with a therapist July 18 before I go off to nursing school and it's to find out why I really act this way.

So I just wanted to make this thread because after scrolling Allnurses for the last two days I find that threads like these are not common but their are people out there who is just like me and wants to go into nursing. I want to be a nurse because I find that I really like helping people and kids at their weakest points but other than that I hate people.

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

I most certainly am not on a high horse. The OP was off the charts ridiculous. It's one thing if you have pet peeves. You can make it in nursing with some pet peeves. But, yes, I will absolutely say in no uncertain terms that if you TRULY HATE people, then stay away from this career. I will even repeat it. There is no way in hell you will make it in nursing if someone walking in front of you makes you actually want to PUSH them. I found many aspects of her post to be outright mean.

Someone looking at you for THREE seconds is not staring!!! If you're in scrubs, and walk the floor, you're going to have patients practically clawing at you to get your attention. She said she HATES it. While there are many areas of nursing that do not include floor nursing, you still have to make it through nursing school for one. Second, you have to start somewhere before you eventually get a job you could really like. It is most likely that she will have to have physical people- interacting jobs at first.

I never said anything about having to LOVE the job.

Her extremely blunt way of stating how much she despises people absolutely provoked me to speak as equally bluntly.

Emphasis is mine. I agree with you on that, but at least the OP has noted that she probably needs to seek out professional help for her feelings. Perhaps she will get it.

[tearingmicrobe]

As I mentioned, this profession broke me of my shyness.

Did it really? I'm so hoping it does that for me!

[explorereb96, ADN, BSN]

I have a 27 year old son with Asperger's Syndrome, Dogen. Sorry you may not agree, but that may be something she might want to look into.

[SleeepyRN]

Oh "Felicia",

Where is this magical place where you work, where nurses are NEVER mistreated? Because I'm pretty sure everyone here would like to work there asap! I love when management Nurses like you come on here and pontificate as if they are this era's Florence Nightingale. Abuse is (unfortunately) common at the bedside. What's next, are you going to tell me that racism does not exist. Get a clue!

For you to be a Nurse that long and to have NEVER experienced any form of abuse (verbal, physical, psychological, etc...) is highly suspicious. You must work in management (ex. Patient care manager) or in an administration capacity.

The rate of abuse increases for Nurses who A)work at the bedside, B) work with patients who have cognitive issues, C) for Nurses who are young, female, and visible ethnic minorities. I work as a bedside Nurse and am in-touch with the realities and struggles of bedside nurses.

Your experience is not the norm, and most certainly is not the norm for nurses of colour. Bye Felicia!

She didn't say she NEVER experienced abuse. She said she hasn't spent her career being abused. Per chance, due to an ability to create boundaries with patients and family? Maybe she learned very early on to not stand for it, and learned to have thick skin while balancing that with the ability to empathize?

[SleeepyRN]

No, you are not allowed to have your own truth. You clearly MUST be trying to "bury the truth" about nursing. You must be trying to fool all the nursing students into believing that not every bedside nurse spends their entire career being abused by everyone (s)he meets.

Let's add a bunch of "Oh, Felicia's" and "bless your hearts" to complete the condescension and make sure everyone knows that anyone who claims to have a different experience is not to be believed.

Was this sarcasm? If not,

these are your exact words from another comment of yours. So which is it?

"Well, sorry you have "no other option" but to work in a hell hole of abuse. It's clearly made you very angry and bitter and it's a real shame you can't walk away and discover that not every place is like that for the bedside nurse."

[tinbon434]

Why did you become a nurse if you like animals better that humans? Maybe you should have been a vet or an vet assistant. Then you'd be in a field and be around and environment that's more comfortable for you.

But I see your point. I like helping people but sometimes they can get on ones nerve. However, their culture tends to influence the way some of them act.

The rich or well to do patient seem to be much nicer. While the poorer ones are non-complaint and sometimes more demanding. Also, I found prefer to work with the elderly. They are more respectful and grateful for the assistance.

[noelly10]

Why did you become a nurse if you like animals better that humans? Maybe you should have been a vet or an vet assistant. Then you'd be in a field and be around and environment that's more comfortable for you.

But I see your point. I like helping people but sometimes they can get on ones nerve. However, their culture tends to influence the way some of them act.

The rich or well to do patient seem to be much nicer. While the poorer ones are non-complaint and sometimes more demanding. Also, I found prefer to work with the elderly. They are more respectful and grateful for the assistance.

The OP isn't a nurse. She said she is about to start nursing school.

[Dogen]

I have a 27 year old son with Asperger's Syndrome, Dogen. Sorry you may not agree, but that may be something she might want to look into.

I find trying to diagnose people over the internet is neither helpful nor respectful. People don't join AN looking for armchair psychiatrists to tell them what's wrong with them. They come here to vent, to seek advice, to learn, to relax... but not to be diagnosed by random strangers. It's just not cool.

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

Was this sarcasm? If not,

these are your exact words from another comment of yours. So which is it?

"Well, sorry you have "no other option" but to work in a hell hole of abuse. It's clearly made you very angry and bitter and it's a real shame you can't walk away and discover that not every place is like that for the bedside nurse."

Yes, I was being facetious.

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

She didn't say she NEVER experienced abuse. She said she hasn't spent her career being abused. Per chance, due to an ability to create boundaries with patients and family? Maybe she learned very early on to not stand for it, and learned to have thick skin while balancing that with the ability to empathize?

You said it so much better than I did.

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

Why did you become a nurse if you like animals better that humans? Maybe you should have been a vet or an vet assistant. Then you'd be in a field and be around and environment that's more comfortable for you.

But I see your point. I like helping people but sometimes they can get on ones nerve. However, their culture tends to influence the way some of them act.

The rich or well to do patient seem to be much nicer. While the poorer ones are non-complaint and sometimes more demanding. Also, I found prefer to work with the elderly. They are more respectful and grateful for the assistance.

I'm curious as to where you work that you've formed the opinion that the rich patients are much nicer.

[toomuchbaloney]

Where I work, Code White is a postpartum hemorrhage.

Who is Felicia?

Where I work Code WHITE is an armed intruder/active shooter. Seems appropriate given that white is the skin color of the person most likely to come into a building with a loaded gun and begin shooting random people (in this country).