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  1. SleeepyRN

    Leaving Bedside Nursing

    Well, when something is sucking the life out of you and turning your soul char black, it can affect your marriage. It certainly is affecting mine.
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    An open letter to the #NursesUnite movement

    EXACTLY!!! I internally laugh every time I clock out, punching the button, "clock out, full meal break taken." Lol....um no. Most likely I did not get a break, but report that I did. Otherwise, they would come after me and tell me it's my fault for poor time management.
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    An open letter to the #NursesUnite movement

    God forbid we want our message to be that we are talented, knowledgeable, life changing nurses who want to be viewed by society as such. The people IN society are our patients. I personally want my patients to view me as professional and comforting instead of a servant to fluff pillows, take food orders, and make their room and belongings "just so." A member of the panel of the view said a certain nurse was funny. THAT was her perception of what a good nurse is. Much of society thinks the same. To be funny and overtly sweet. I want to be viewed as a knowledgeable healthcare provider who is complemented on competence. Not for being "funny" (as stated on The View) or sweet. A platform has been created for those of us who DO want to unite. By all means, stand by, let the rest of us do the work to get the perception of nurses as knowledgeable and competent. Maybe with more talk we can get administrator's to understand this and get safe ratios, proper equipment...etc. Therefore it DOES directory affect us us.
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    An open letter to the #NursesUnite movement

    YOU may not, but I am seeing thousands from social media unite after this. I don't understand why you sound offended. I'm happily uniting with other nurses, and discussions are developing over action we can take for changes.
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    An open letter to the #NursesUnite movement

    Very well worded. I love your post. However, my explanation for this talk show issue getting under my skin is this: The comments on the View are part of a larger picture going on where society views us as servants. Press Ganey anyone? We're medical professionals with TALENT. The View and the general public don't view us as talented medical professionals who NEED proper staffing, safe ratios, proper equipment... The general public has no clue the knowledge base we nurses have nor the difference we make in the world. We have to kiss butt and take orders for Diet Coke (view article) to get good....grrrr I hate this word, let me choke it out....customer service ratings. In summary the comments on The View are part of a much bigger picture/problem going on which is serving as a platform to finally speak out about what we REALLY do as nurses. Or really SHOULD be doing anyway instead of being servants to patients and family.
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    Com'on, you got one...What is your heart wrenching moment?

    "Or maybe not." Did he tell the story? It's one thing to make a thread where we can share our "gut wrenching" stories. But to pry and insist a person who basically said "peds, flight nurse, nuff said" share his "gut wrenching" story is just....wrong. And in my opinion twisted.
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    Com'on, you got one...What is your heart wrenching moment?

    He may not really want to tell it. Put the pieces together. Peds + flight nurse (sounds to me a kid in critical condition) = a situation you may not wish to re-live as a nurse. Analogy. Think of a soldier returning home from war where he lost men and women close to him, and someone insists that he tell those stories. I think what he wrote was enough said.
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    The Wicked Politics of Clinical Practicum in Nursing School

    Clinical portion was difficult for me. Typically there were 6 to 8 of us students per clinical. I was quiet in school. Most of the students in my small program were part of a clique. It should be noted that most were hispanic. I'm white but I speak Spanish well. I can't count how many times I heard "this white girl this" "this white girl that." That did not help me want to make friends. (Oh the surprised looks on their faces when they saw I understood them when they spoke spanish) I was about a decade older, so they were young. Most very gossipy. I despise gossip. I remember watching students laughing and talking to each other, to then see one of them walk away, and the remaining girls laugh behind her back. Bottom line, I stayed out of it. I remained cordial, smiled at my class mates, laughed when appropriate, Participated in group conversations. But, staying out of gossip made me an out cast. During clinical the other students cliqued up while I focused on the work. I still made sure I worked as part of a team. We didn't have to like each other, but I respected them on the job and offered and accepted assistance when needed. I recall during one of my clinical reviews, my instructor saying that I did not act as part of the group. I wanted to say, "your point?" But, she herself being young and gossipy even with the students, apparently judged me by this. Not by my clinical skills, judgement, paper assignments, presentations...I don't believe she even noticed how frequently I offered my assistance to both classmates and staff; she had already made her mind up about me. I wasn't trying to be buddy buddy, and that really affected how 2 of my instructors viewed me. It wasn't til a year after I graduated that I met up with an old clinical instructor who then admitted to me that when I came to her clinical rotation the other instructors "warned" her about me. She told me that all during clinical, she could not see what those instructors meant AT ALL. This instructor gave me an incredible letter of recommendation and allowed me to take her NRP class for free. ***SOME**** instructors have preconceived notions about students, and it meant the world to me that my OB clinical instructor said to me in reference to those other instructors, "screw 'em."
  9. Have you ever tried to tell HER any of this, or does she refuse constructive criticism?
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    Shockingly Humbled

    I very much enjoyed your style of writing. I felt as if I were there in the middle of the chaos. Well done. I'd love to hear more "stories. "
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    We Are ALL On The Same Team

    Very true, but being overly stressed doesn't give us carte blanche to be disrespectful to reach other. Therefore, until we can find solutions to being overworked, we need to work on our coping skills and control ourselves when we want to snap at, talk sarcastically to, or gossip about our coworkers. I responded to a post here the other day where I had to say sorry, I'm overly stressed/tired at the moment. So I still have slip ups, but we all need to keep working on our coping skills.
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    We Are ALL On The Same Team

    Most of us have found our selves add to the negativity at some point or other. So kudos to you for recognizing it. Now next time you can stop for a moment and be mindful as you stated. These small steps can make a difference. :)
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    We Are ALL On The Same Team

    This should be posted on every unit. Someone recently posted "are nurses respected?" And one reply was "no, because we don't even respect each other." And the messed up thing is that we all want the same thing. We want our patients cared for, and we want to go home and love our family. I don't know the solution. All I can do is try to be an example by not engaging when I hear complaining about someone. My cousin and I have been doing this thing together, where we catch ourselves when we are thinking negative thoughts of someone and turn it around. We used to call each other and gossip and complain about our MILs. We've stopped. We started biting our tongues. And now I'm actually having more positive thoughts. I don't even feel like complaining about my MIL anymore. We're trying to be better people, and it's working. To change everyone needs to self reflect and MAKE a change. Lately when I catch myself starting to judge, I think "am I perfect? Have I not made really dumb mistakes and poor choices? Then I have no room to judge." I'm retraining my thought process, and slowly, its working. My compassion and tolerance are coming back. I can't retrain someone else's thought process, but I CAN control my actions and what I say. I wish we could all ban together and fight the root of the problem instead of each other. But I think so many are scared to fight the root of the problem, because then they are seen as trouble makers and are given the boot out the door, their shoes being filled gladly by someone else looking for a job. Then the cycle starts all over with that new employee. At first they are happy they got the job. Then the crappy reality sets in, and they start adding to the negative environment themselves. Sigh....
  14. Thank you for sharing! I've read and enjoyed some of your other posts regarding this issue. When I was in nursing school, a classmate overheard another individual and I discuss my taking Lexapro. She said to me, I think people need to just work through their problems, not take pills to feel numb." It worried me knowing she was entering the healthcare field with this mentality. First, Lexapro does not numb my feelings. In nursing school I experienced 2 deaths in my family, and I grieved. However, I was able to grieve in a healthy way. Also, I was in counseling weekly for 4 years. I work/worked very hard to retrain my thought processes through depressive phases. However, no matter how much therapy I get, I will always have to take Lexapro because I have a chemical imbalance, not because I am not equipped to handle stress. Its sad that fellow nurses who should know better have this belief. I am suicidal when I don't take my Lexapro, no matter how much therapy I am getting. In fact 2 years ago I swallowed 120 mg xanax along with 2 full bottles of Lexapro. I wasn't trying to get attention. I was trying to die. When the xanax started kicking in, I vaguely remember getting a carving knife and trying to slit my wrists. Luckily I was too stupored to accomplish this. Apparently the knife was on the kitchen floor with blood when my husband got home. Anyway, counseling helps me cope with things and live enough to function, but I need it in combination with Lexapro. Thank you for opening this discussion. I've gone a month again without taking my medication, and I'm starting to feel the effects. I've been laying in bed all day I don't even want to go to the store. I keep thinking over and over and over that I'm useless and there is no point in my life. I find myself wishing I didn't have family who would be devastated so I could just kill myself already. I continuously think "I just don't want to be alive." Very scary thoughts huh? So it ****** me off that a nurse who should know better can think "you shouldn't rely on meds, you need to learn how to deal." Anyway, I'm very open with my psychiatrist and my husband about these feelings and thoughts nowadays. Because I know when the Lexapro kicks in again, I love life and don't want to miss any of it. So, I'm off to finally refill my Lexapro. Thanks again for the post.
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    Sitters/CNAs: Thank You For "Doing Nothing"

    First and foremost, I'm sorry for what you and your family are going through. Second, this post brought tears to my eyes as I remembered the hundreds of people I "sat" for as a sitter before I became a nurse. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for saying thank you to sitters. Boy do I have stories of my own from my sitter days. The one that comes to mind first was the lady I cared for on a neuro unit. I came in the morning at start of shift. Everyone thought the patient was still sleeping. I knew this was unusual for her. She didn't wake when I took her BP. I called out her name, over and over. She didn't wake, I began to call out for a nurse when one walked in. Rapid response followed by a CT of the brain. It turns out she had a hemorrhage. And everyone thought she was just sleeping. Many others saved her life, but I've always silently known that it was I, a lowly sitter, who caught it to begin with. I had another patient as a sitter who began seizing while eating, sitting up at the edge of his bed. I cleared the food and lay him in in a safe position as to not aspirate. I know I've prevented countless injuries and falls from confused patients trying to get out of bed. I know I've eased anxiety in countless patients. Thank you for reminding me of all I've done. And thank you for being appreciative. Being a sitter is one TOUGH job.