How often you see your boyfriend while in nursing school

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i will start my 2nd year of nursing school and will be taking med surg 2 (the hardest course). i have 1 chance to fail, as others have 2. i have a boyfriend of 7 months and i told him that i will rarely get to see him. the only time i'll get to see him is when i have lunch with him after i take the tests. my free time will be spent studying, doing projects, clinicals, and going to the gym. my boyfriend lives 30 minutes away from me, so it's not too convenient to see him. he tells me not to worry about it, but i know he'll be sad not to see me often.

so i would like to ask you (to those who have a boyfriend and not a husband / common-law husband)... how often do you see your boyfriend / girlfriend?

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My BF of 18 months is a baseball player so time is limited. Best chances of a good amount of time together is 2 days max. We might have a few other days in the week where we will have lunch inbetween class. He goes to a different school, but it's just on the other side of the city.

Junior year we plan on living together, but it's awhile away. We're used to eachother being busy so it shouldn't be too big of a struggle.

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Specializes in Neuro ICU.
to those who have a boyfriend and not a husband / common-law husband

what are you getting at in the distinction? i'm guessing what you're trying to ask is "people who don't live with their so" - because my boyfriend of 3 years and i live together and have for 2 years, so we see each other every day. ;) but that doesn't help you.

everyone's situation is different, honestly... some people need to sink more time into their studies than others, some people need more 1-on-1 contact time with their so to have a happy relationship than others, etc etc...

that said, good luck! if it's a good relationship, meant to be, y'all will survive. :) one semester is nothing in the long run. and once you've faced the big struggles, the little ones seem like nothing!

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Specializes in Operating Room.

Last semester was the toughest out of all the semesters of the program and I was just starting up a relationship... got to see him once a week, on the weekend. Its sad not being to see him more since the university and my clinicals were down the street from his place. However we text during the day and talk on the phone before I go to bed every night. Somehow he was okay with that haha.

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I see my boyfriend Friday/Saturday nights virtually every weekend. I make sure to take the time to see him then. He is out of college and travels literally almost every week to various locations around the country. Thus he is gone when I'm really doing the brunt of my school work during the week. I spend Friday and Saturday during the day doing whatever needs to be done during the weekend as well so that I feel better about not doing anything those nights. We also talk off and on during the days via Gchat while he's gone too. We started dating about 3 months (been together now for almost a year and a half) before I started nursing school and he's been a great support for me...especially when I get super stressed about a test.

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Specializes in Emergency/Cath Lab.

When I was dating my ex right before we broke up not too long ago, we made it to where we saw each other every night if not for just a little bit to just help each other unwind, vent, relax etc etc. It really does wonders to have someone you care about right there to go through this with.

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Since you seem to be pretty emphatic that he's your boyfriend and not someone you consider a "significant other" at this point, here's some advice from an old married lady:

Guys come and go, but you have only one shot at completing nursing school and earning that RN. (according to your post) You can always work on your "MRS" after you finish that RN! Keep your priorities straight and everything else will either fall into place or fall off your radar screen as nonimportant.

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Specializes in ER, progressive care.

My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years. I was lucky because he lived 5-10 minutes from me. I actually saw him quite a bit - I would just study at his house. He was busy with school-stuff too so it wasn't that bad and if I *REALLY* needed to study, he respected that - he would play video games or something while I studied. He was understanding when I couldn't see him - if I had a project to work on or if I had clinical or something. It will work out!

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I know nursing school is very hard and it doesn't allow you to have free time--but taking 20-30 mins break doesn't kill you and it won't make you fail nursing either. You don't have to go party, to a restaurant, or to the movies etc---you can simply see him/her and have 15-20 min conversation( better than nothing).If you really love her/him you will be happy just seeing their face; and if he really loves you he will understand that school is important and you need to study. If it takes 20-30 mins to drive to see your boyfriend just ask if he is free and he might drive to come and see you. At least that's what I did.

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Specializes in Neuro ICU.
my boyfriend lives 30 minutes away from me, so it's not too convenient to see him. he tells me not to worry about it, but i know he'll be sad not to see me often.

also...

sounds like that's 30 minutes each way to listen to class lecture or your own voice-recorded notes in the car! ;)

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my boyfriend and i have been together for nearly 3 years. i was lucky because he lived 5-10 minutes from me. i actually saw him quite a bit - i would just study at his house. he was busy with school-stuff too so it wasn't that bad and if i *really* needed to study he respected that - he would play video games or something while i studied. he was understanding when i couldn't see him - if i had a project to work on or if i had clinical or something. it will work out![/quote']

"i actually saw him quite a bit - i would just study at his house"

really? wow. that doesn't work for me at alll...and i have tried. it only works if i am over my friend's house.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years. I was lucky because he lived 5-10 minutes from me. I actually saw him quite a bit - I would just study at his house. He was busy with school-stuff too so it wasn't that bad and if I *REALLY* needed to study he respected that - he would play video games or something while I studied. He was understanding when I couldn't see him - if I had a project to work on or if I had clinical or something. It will work out![/quote']

Yup, this is pretty much identical to my situation! I will usually be studying while my boyfriend is watching a movie or playing video games. As long as I tell him to shush for a little while and keep quiet... I get my time to study. ;)

I have my own study area set up at his house too, because we spend the nights at eachothers houses on a daly basis. While I was taking A&P, he would always be on the comp and I'd have to sit and study my books on the bed as he only had one desk.. Arg!! As long as you have an area to study, you'll do fine. Just make sure he knows how important school is to you, and to your future together, and you can spend more quality time with him AFTER the studying! I also found it was fun to include my bf in my study sessions. Before finals he would quiz me on questions I wrote out for him to ask me, and I would share interesting articles and information from school with him. If he's interested in your subjects, get him to help you out with it! He helped me refresh my brain with simple math for med calculations, too!

Keep in mind you will want and NEED time to see your significant other AND your friends... you will need them desperately throughout the program.

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