How often you see your boyfriend while in nursing school

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i will start my 2nd year of nursing school and will be taking med surg 2 (the hardest course). i have 1 chance to fail, as others have 2. i have a boyfriend of 7 months and i told him that i will rarely get to see him. the only time i'll get to see him is when i have lunch with him after i take the tests. my free time will be spent studying, doing projects, clinicals, and going to the gym. my boyfriend lives 30 minutes away from me, so it's not too convenient to see him. he tells me not to worry about it, but i know he'll be sad not to see me often.

so i would like to ask you (to those who have a boyfriend and not a husband / common-law husband)... how often do you see your boyfriend / girlfriend?

Wow, I feel like the only one out here who feels like I'll see my boyfriend only like 4-5 times this entire semester and not every week. I'm gonna have to pretend I'm in a long-distance relationship when this semester starts. I guess I'm the only one who does this.

Keep in mind you will want and NEED time to see your significant other AND your friends... you will need them desperately throughout the program.

My boyfriend and friends would distract me, honestly. I'd say, "Oh, I'll just be there for 30 minutes... 30 minutes turns into 1 hour... 1 hour turns into 2 hours... 2 hours turns into 3 hours..." All that could be used for studying. After I finish studying for the day, I webcam/talk to my bf on the phone before I go to sleep at night.

Since you seem to be pretty emphatic that he's your boyfriend and not someone you consider a "significant other" at this point, here's some advice from an old married lady:

Guys come and go, but you have only one shot at completing nursing school and earning that RN. (according to your post) You can always work on your "MRS" after you finish that RN! Keep your priorities straight and everything else will either fall into place or fall off your radar screen as nonimportant.

He IS my significant other. I just want to know from people who have boyfriends. Because those who have husbands / common-law husbands see them every single day... so it's not relevant to my question. And yeah, you're right... I've got to keep my priorities straight. I've told my boyfriend from day 1 that nursing is important to me and I won't see him much during school because of it. He's supported me for 7 months and says he will continue supporting me.

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123Wannabe...

Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and you're on the right track.

Incidentally, my husband & I lived apart for one year while I was in NS -- we had been married for many years at the time -- and it was really hard on both of us. Had we been dating rather than married to each other, I'm not sure the relationship would have survived. People who aren't in nursing school with you have a difficult time understanding what you're going through, the time involved, the amount of work, and the weirdness that is nursing! But we were committed to each other and also committed to the difference nursing would make to our future together. We had a long shared history together to draw from when the whole deal seemed impossible.

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OP, then maybe you need to set an alarm on your phone, or something, so you only stay the time you want and can continue with your studies. Or have him come over and just spend supper-time together then send him on his way. I understand what you're saying, but you will figure out something that will work for you while you are in nursing school. Don't stress out so much about it now, you will figure it out along the way.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years now, and I found time to see him while I went full time to highschool, worked full time evenings, and completed two university courses. A year later, I went to school fulltime for the HCA program at my highschool and completed four days a week of clinical, and still found time to work, see my boyfriend and friends, and my parents. A lot of my friends say they have no time for anything, yet they study have the amount of hours I do, and do not work at all. Also, do you really think you're going to need to be studying EVERY single minute? :lol2: Don't worry, you will still need to take breaks, eat, and sleep.

If you don't stress it, you can do it. I think you are just nervous and/or excited about school and over thinking it. It's a lot to take on, and you may feel overwhelmed during your first few months of school, but you will eventually be able to juggle school and your life.

If you want to make it work, you can do it. Everyone's way is a little different, but you will find a way to fit them into your busy schedule.

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Specializes in PICU/Pedi.

I am about to enter my last year of NS, and so far I see my boyfriend, on average, about once or twice a week. He works night shift, so usually on Friday nights, I go over and hang out with him after he wakes up, have dinner and hang out, and then he leaves for work at 10:00 PM. I study until about 2:00 A.M. after that. Sometimes I study a little while we hang out, too. We don't get to date like REAL people because of my school and his crazy schedule - no movies or romantic get-aways.

The cool thing is that he is very supportive of me, and my education is as important to him as it is to me. If I tried to slack off and not study he would not have any part of it. He even got a nice new computer and internet partly because he knew that I needed computer access at his house. This fall is going to be a killer semester, so I'm a little worried that I may not even see him once a week. I know he would understand, but that one day every week helps me retain my sanity.

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If you want to see him see him make time you can't study all day everyday so make a day to be with him plus you can use him to work on your skills

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I know where you're coming from. When I first met my fiance, I was living just over an hour from him and we were both in school and working. We did that for a year, then he moved even farther away for a couple of months, then we moved in together, then he moved 3 hours away for 3 months (and came home every weekend) before I could follow him. When we were finally living together again, I was working evenings and weekends and he was working 9-5 so we had one evening together each week and a few hours on weekend mornings. When he got laid off, we thought we'd have more time together but it ended up being much less, since I was working tons of crazy hours. I wasn't in nursing school at any point during this but I was working 40+ hours a week and taking no less than 9 credits a semester.

Don't stress too much. If it works, it works. If it doesn't, it doesn't. He should be coming to visit you at least as much as you visit him unless there is a good reason for the difference. Talk on the phone. Use a webcam and chat online. Be clear with him about how much time he can expect from you. Schedule time with him if necessary. Make sure you are focused on him when you do see him so you can enjoy what little time you get together.

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I live with my boyfriend, otherwise I would never seen him. He works 7-3:30 and I work 3:00-11:30, and soon we will both be starting school. We share the cost of an apartment but it is well worth it. He is my other half. This October will be our 4 year anniversary :)

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I see my BF for about 2 weeks every 2-3 months, but we talk on the phone multiple times a day and webcam/chat almost every evening. He lives 1300 miles away from me right now and will for probably the next year. It's hard not getting to see him as often as I want to, but in some ways it is easier to be able to study more and know I'm working so hard now to have more time together when we do live together.

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I see my boyfriend of 5 years everyday because we live together. If we didn't, we would RARELY see each other, just on the weekends, most likely. Though you are asking about boyfriends that you don't live with, I can't offer too much insight there... BUT I can relate it to friend-time!

I value my friends so much; they are like my family. I make the time to see them and talk to them, even if it's just once a week. We text, chat on the phone and hang out on the weekends (even though I am beat and just want to sleep, I force myself to get out because it's better for me too!). The point is, if you want to make something work, you work at it. If you can see yourself with this person in the future, make the effort to keep him in the present.

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Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics.

Just a little bit of advice, I think it's important to make time for your friends and family and SELF during Nursing School. It CAN be done. Nursing school doesn't HAVE to consume every waking bit of your life. I think people will be much healthier and happier if they take time aside for the people they care about and for themselves.

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Just a little bit of advice, I think it's important to make time for your friends and family and SELF during Nursing School. It CAN be done. Nursing school doesn't HAVE to consume every waking bit of your life. I think people will be much healthier and happier if they take time aside for the people they care about and for themselves.

This is true; regardless of how great of a student you are, you won't be studying all the time. You shouldn't need to study all the time, and if you are studying *ALL* the time and struggling with class, you need to get some assistance with a tutor.

It's very important to make time to see your friends and do little things for yourself. You will be much happier and enjoy the program.. If you spend all day and night studying, you'll grow tired of that routine very fast!

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Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics.
This is true; regardless of how great of a student you are, you won't be studying all the time. You shouldn't need to study all the time, and if you are studying *ALL* the time and struggling with class, you need to get some assistance with a tutor.

It's very important to make time to see your friends and do little things for yourself. You will be much happier and enjoy the program.. If you spend all day and night studying, you'll grow tired of that routine very fast!

Exactly, you see countless posts on here of people hating nursing school because it takes every minute of their free time and this and that. It doesn't have to. Study smart and you will have enough free time for friends and family and yourself. I didn't let nursing school control my life. Now I did learn that I can't read book series for fun during school. But that's because I am a obsessive reader and won't put the books down until I finish the series. So starting a series of 10 books that were good at the beggining of my med/surge class = no bueno :|

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