How often you see your boyfriend while in nursing school

[CaliforniaRNnow]

i will start my 2nd year of nursing school and will be taking med surg 2 (the hardest course). i have 1 chance to fail, as others have 2. i have a boyfriend of 7 months and i told him that i will rarely get to see him. the only time i'll get to see him is when i have lunch with him after i take the tests. my free time will be spent studying, doing projects, clinicals, and going to the gym. my boyfriend lives 30 minutes away from me, so it's not too convenient to see him. he tells me not to worry about it, but i know he'll be sad not to see me often.

so i would like to ask you (to those who have a boyfriend and not a husband / common-law husband)... how often do you see your boyfriend / girlfriend?

[chezakat2]

Are there any ways you can help a significant other who is having trouble dealing with her bf in nursing school. I support him but it's hard when you dont get to talk a lot. Im trying to be a better and supportive girlfriend and im doing my best are there ways you can help me with helping him feel better and to help myself feel better about this. It's not easy for him and it's not easy for me and you all seem to have done great. I feel i can do it but i wondered if there were supports for families to help them deal with the changes too. Ive been looking for help on coping with this and the time apart. My main thing is knowing the goals we had made and what we were working for. I love him a lot and support him but I dont feel like im doing enough. Can you guys help me out since i cant find any where else where people have been through both sides of this. thank you for any help you can give me.

[BrigidG]

The biggest thing you can do is be there. There's probably a lot of stuff he can only talk to his classmates about, and to be completely honest, theres not too much you can do to help him with school itself but even if you don't talk a lot, just knowing that you're there to listen and support him 100% means the world to him. But please don't ever feel like you're not doing enough, or like you're being ignored for school. Make the time you do get to spend with him awesome. And sometimes awesome is just sitting on the couch and watching tv together. If he's anything like me he's always stressed out of his mind lol. bake him cookies or something if that's up your alley. The guys in my class always bring in cookies from their girlfriends lol. Or stick post-it's with "ily" on his textbooks. Little things that remind him youre thinking about him mean a lot. So just be his rock and his support. And it doesn't hurt to every once and a while remind him how proud you are of him and what he's doing. :)I hope that helps, or at least encourages you a little :)

[♑ Capricorn ♑]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Or, out of sight out of mind. If he indeed truly loves you, he stick by your side and be supportive.

[CaptScrubs13]

It is what you make of it... I am finishing up my BSN program this May, and will also celebrate 2 year with my boyfriend. It has been very hard to make time for school and studying, and also to be with him. But we live right down the street from each other, and our schedules have luckily been very compatible (he works most of the time I do class/clinicals) so we have made it work.

I know everyone has different studying styles, but I am personally not one that can study every waking hour I am not driving/in class/in clinicals. I schedule my day with blocks of study time when needed, and make time for him as well. It also doesn't hurt, he is very understanding of the rigors of school, and does not mind when I can't see him as often as we'd like because of a big test or whatever.

If both are important to you, you can find a way to make it work. School is only temporary !

[symphie]

Personally, I think "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is a piece of crap. Really, "absence breaks the heart down to the point of thinking we can only go up from here" is more like it. But that might be my 2.5-years-of-doing-long-distance attitude talking.

Whenever someone asks my advice going into nursing school, I always tell them the same thing. Take one day, one WHOLE day, out of your week and devote it to the things that mean the most to you. See your family, take your dog to the park, spend the day watching movies with your significant other, whatever the case may be. Do not think about school or study for the whole day. The other 6 days of the week, study as much as you want. Make yourself crazy. But take that one day. For me, that one day is devoted to my boyfriend. For others, it may be different. But I promise this is the one thing that has kept me sane through nursing school. Your degree won't mean anything if you're burnt out and hating it by the end. If the difference between an A on the test and a B on the test is a day to spend on yourself and those you love, do it. And don't feel guilty about it. It's worth it.

[Wrench Party]

I've lived with mine for over 4 years now and there are some nights I only see him as I get out of bed

early in the morning. He understands the commitment we have to make to get me through this,

and he helps out by cooking dinner and doing some basic chores.

We talked about this before I started, and he understood the expectation. He knows it's only 2 years

of our lives, and I've got barely a year left.

I'm counting down the months!