I'm currently a student at Johns Hopkins SON, just starting, and I'm wondering how hard it will be to meet and date some of the male med students here to seek out future husbands. Don't get me wrong, marrying a doctor is NOT the reason I want to be a nurse, it's just an added benefit. :) Let's face it, my nursing salary will not be enough to live in NYC, where I want to live, AND support a family.
So how many of you managed to score doctor husbands, and how'd you do it? Any suggestions on how I can meet some of them?
I always hate it when people ask if I am going to marry a Dr./resident! Like I went to school looking for a hubby! Who cares about money, if you can't stand them what is the point! I am not saying that I would never marry doctor, but it wouldn't be for the $$$ in the bank or the initials after his name.
As a student myself, however, I should tell you this. Pleae be prepared for some of the guys to view you as:
1) a ready-to-roll trollop with whom to toy,
2) an intellectually-inferior underling, or
3) completely below them, because you won't understand a word they're saying.
Ha. Sad, but sometimes very true. They're not all like that, but stereotypes DO form for reason, after all...
Donna :)
Good points! Nurses make great 'caretakers' for baby docs, so they like to latch onto one to 'help them through' school, residencies, and the first few rough years...and of course your nurses income and loving companionship will get him through his lean residency years.
So...I will add #4: his meal ticket/ caretaker through school...and maybe for awhile longer if you have what it takes.
That's what it's all about. Every response from the nurses has been truthfull and wise. It is obvious in JHUnurse's response she still doesn't get it She wants to marry for money. What happens if a few years down the road, the money disappears? Does she? Still on the endless trek to find a doctor smuck to open his wallet for her. Like I said before, such a request as hers on tips to land a doctor, is an embarrassment for nurses everywhere. There are Mr. Rights out there who aren't rich. I have one. We don't have much but we love each other dearly. I know he is always there for me, and I am for him. Money can't buy you love, sweetheart. Pursue nursing because you have the heart for it, and you want to be the best for your patients and make a difference; not because you're down to your last quarter.
Maybe a "do not disturb" sign should be kept handy.
This thread got a lot of action. I think it's because we KNOW how hard it is to work hard to try to keep and maintain a professional and respected image. I still get shocked looks of disbelief when I tell someone I'm a nurse but I DO say it with pride. Long gone (and good riddance) are the days when nursing was a single womans "job" (spinster even?), when it was a requirement to stand when the Dr. came on the floor and heaven forbid that you would question an order or even (shudder) make a suggestion.
I think that this young poster being new as she is may have a rude awakening ahead of her. The caps are gone honey...along with all those old stereotypes!
Nursing is a helluva hard job but if your heart is in it there is none finer!!
Anyone who thinks of another person in terms of "scoring" him/her is more shallow than a puddle.
This person has the privilege of going to Hopkins for her education, yet she seems to be primarily concerned with her social life...this is such a waste. There are so many people who would love to have the opportunity to study in such a challenging and stimulating enviroment; how sad that it seems to be wasted on someone who obviously has little appreciation for it.
JHUstudent: I have had the misfortune of working with nurses who had your mind set. Sometimes, the only way I stayed sane was to remind myself that no one is immune to the effects of aging and gravity.
Oh, and BTW, would anyone make apologies/excuses for a male who posted the following: "I'm a medical student a Johns Hopkins Univertiy, and I am wondering what is the best way to go about meeting and scoring female nursing students."
they like to latch onto one to 'help them through' school
Hee hee....made me think of nothing but breastfeeding....hee hee. Okay, that being said.........
I offer my humble opinion. One of my very dear friends (who is a nurse) is married to *gasp!* a surgeon. Yes, the devil himself in medicine. HOWEVER, before he was a doc, he was a cop and an EMT, and paid his own way through med school. He is a real live grown-up and a real live man, not just in the anatomical sense. Both my friend and I agree, HE IS THE EXCEPTION TO THE RULE. Plus, when she married him, she did so with her eyes open, knowing she will do the child-rearing alone, the housekeeping alone, and spend a lot of time...well...alone. They are ttc now, and it is very difficult, mind you, as HE IS NEVER HOME.
Now....a couple of posters mentioned the fact that JHU docs leave LOTS to be desired in the ego arena, and BOY are they right. Oh, man, give me ANYTHING but a JHU or God forbid Harvard educated doc. They think they poop gold bricks and are infallible. The ones that I have worked with were major 'anal openings' if you get my drift.
JHUnurse, I just think you are still quite young. You may not feel like it, but you have your whole life ahead of you. You may find as you pursue your nursing career that you want to travel, go to new and exotic locales, and that you can live anywhere in the world you want to if you are smart with your money. Don't rely on anyone but you to take care of you. Men die and salaries decline, but if you learn to rely on yourself first you know you will always be okay no matter what.
Welcome to the board, I hope you have more than 2 posts.
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A couple of our docs married nurses they met at our hospital. The nurses worked up until engagement, I'm told, and then were 'encouraged' by dear fiance to be 'kept'. Appearances, you know.
That was years before my time there, and they are actually still happily together, although wife's still non-working even after kids gone (volunteer work only). Both very nice ladies actually.
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