How many of you married doctors?

nursejws · Jul 7, 2002

JHUnurse, I'm not married to a dr, but I like the way you think!

Specifically: "Let's face it, my nursing salary will not be enough to live in NYC, where I want to live, AND support a family."

I can't help it, I LOVE NYC!

SmilingBluEyes · Jul 7, 2002

I would NEVER marry a dr after working w/them. Their hours are beastly, they don't have time for "family lives" til they have "paid their dues", years after residency and practice.....I have overheard so many dr's talking w/kids on the phone:

"sorry sally, I cannot make that recital today, you know Daddy has to work tonite. My turn to be on call." Thing would be, daddy has never been to ONE of Sally's recitals, is often the case. To me, this is heartbreaking.

Conversations like this are so common, it makes me wonder who WOULD want a marriage like this. I would rather marry a Walmart Greeter who would be home w/the kids and there for me, with less $$$ than be w/a man and all the $$$ in the world, but no daddy or husband at home. For me, there is a lot more to life than a huge house by the fairway, fancy cars, money, and status.

Not only that but if they are as rude, nasty and short at home as they are at work would WANT them at home? I guess, In my grandmothers' nursing days, marrying a dr. was an ultimate goal. Being a self-sufficient and self-respecting type of nurse of the newer era, I would SAY NO THANK YOU! Good luck in your pursuits, if this is what you want.

fergus51 · Jul 7, 2002

I only know one nurse who married a doctor, but they are currently in the process of getting a divorce. It was a very bad thing. There is another member from NYC, her screen name is jt and she makes enough as a nurse to support herself. I think she said new grads at her hospital start at 60 000$.

If I were you I wouldn't limit myself to docs only, there are a lot of nice male nurses, resp threapists, occupational therapists, etc. If you are going for a doctor, I would go for one who is already a doc, not a student. Internships don't leave a lot of time for dating and a lot of them move around.

trueblue · Jul 7, 2002

I agree. A dad thats home, a husband in bed every night is what's important to me. More so than money. Even though the thought of being set does sound good. But then again who really is set? You or Him? I'd rather have my own riches, and prestige than to hang on to someone elses.

But thats me.

live4today, RN · Jul 7, 2002

First, jt...whoever you are...I'd like to know which hospital you work in, and if they are hiring! :chuckle I can dig $60K per year about now. Yes indeedy, I could! Yep! Uh-huh...that's talking my $$$ language. :rotfl:

Second, JHUnurse...you'll change your mind about wanting to marry a doctor after you see the kind of lifestyle they live to stay on top of the game. They also flirt with a LOT of nursing staff...wife or no wife...seen it soooooooo many times with my own brown eyes. :rolleyes: I've been hit on by docs before at the big university hospitals I use to work in during my Traveling Nurse days. Never accepted an offer from one, and glad I didn't because they no sooner got a "I don't date doctors" from me when I discovered they were either married, engaged to be married, or newly divorced on the prowl swinging from one feline to another. :rolleyes: As you go through nursing school, keep your eyes open and you'll witness for yourself that being a doc's wife aint all it's cracked up to be. :kiss

fergus51 · Jul 7, 2002

Renee, I think you would get more than 60K because they also pay more for every year of experience.

Rustyhammer · Jul 7, 2002

Ahh....Marry for money! Now thats the most romantic thing I've heard all day!

JHU, If you can't make it on your salary then you need to cut some corners or go to med school yourself. Then, when you are a Dr., you can find yourself some stud of a nurse and marry him.

But wait...then you will be making more money than him and you'd probably want to set your sights higher than just a nurse.

Perhaps if you just work on your bimbo side you don't even NEED to go to school. You can find some rich old guy and then you are set!

Good luck in your quest.

-Russell

Sleepyeyes · Jul 7, 2002

Originally posted by Rustyhammer
Ahh....Marry for money! Now thats the most romantic thing I've heard all day!
JHU, If you can't make it on your salary then you need to cut some corners or go to med school yourself. Then, when you are a Dr., you can find yourself some stud of a nurse and marry him.
But wait...then you will be making more money than him and you'd probably want to set your sights higher than just a nurse.
Perhaps if you just work on your bimbo side you don't even NEED to go to school. You can find some rich old guy and then you are set!
Good luck in your quest.
-Russell

marriage + doctor = oxy + moron

:chuckle

Sleepyeyes · Jul 7, 2002

PS keep those jokes comin'!!

live4today, RN · Jul 7, 2002

Originally posted by fergus51
Renee, I think you would get more than 60K because they also pay more for every year of experience.

Well alrighty then...tell me where I sign up! :rotfl:

MPHkatie · Jul 7, 2002

I date a resident. He's a very sweet guy, I watched him for a while (true about 6 months), never saw him flirting with anyone at all, so I guess I lucked out. True, he's busy all the time, but since I am traveling about every three months for weeks at a time, it works out well for us. However, most of the Med sutdents/interns/residents I know (I work at two teaching hospitals one PRN, one full time), are already married engaged or soon to be divorced. So there's slim pickings if you are interested in dating people, I just sort of fell into the relationship I'm in now. He's just a great guy, I have never really given much thought to his earning potential, which I think he appreciates.

WHere I work we have one RN engaged to one of our attendings, and one RN who has been married to an attending at another hospital for about 20 years. And a few former Nurses, PA students, who are also married to MD's (men and women) They seem to be fine with their lives, no divorce proceedings in progress. It does depend on the person.