How many of you married doctors?

MQ Edna · Jul 9, 2002

Originally posted by shay
Welcome to the board, I hope you have more than 2 posts.

I'll agree with Shay on this and other sentiments, and like Mattsmom, I feel my maternal side coming out as well. JHU, I've spoken pretty bluntly in my posts to you but, like my "flocks", I'm eager to see your future, and see you grow and develop in this role. Pleae be aware that you are not alone in being issued a "wakeup call" by these intelligent Allnurses; I have also been called to task for a post that may have been inappropriate, and I appreciated very much being told how my words could be misconstrued. We come here to laugh, cry, agree, disagree, vent and most of all, LEARN. Welcome to the fold, and I'll be looking eagerly for your future posts. :kiss JeannieM

Christel2Rn · Jul 10, 2002

Originally posted by JHUnurse
Wow! I come back to find this thread has become 4 pages! I want to explain a few things....first, I may be young (19), but obviously I would never marry someone I didn't love. BUT, if I happened to meet someone who was perfect for me, AND made enough so that we could both move to NYC and start a family, well that would be my dream. Is that wrong? I just wanted some advice as to how I could go about meeting people so I can find *Mr. Right*. My classmates and I always joke about marrying doctors, I never thought this thread would get so serious.

To all those people who shared their advice, *thank you*. I don't have much experience working yet, so I didn't realize that a lot of doctors might not make ideal husbands.
To those who discouraged me from entering nursing, well....that really saddens me. I entered the nursing program here because I honestly want to help people, and I have a strong interest in health care. I could have gone on the pre-med track, but I knew about the nursing shortage and decided that this is what I wanted to do. So far I love everything about it, except for any nurses who judge me or discourage me from being a nurse. Maybe in the future if you see a post like mine you can try to offer some constructive criticism and help guide others down the right path.

As for me, I will be continuing in nursing school, and I think I'll start looking for a nice engineer.......anyone know where I can find some?

JHUNurse,

Good for you!!! You are the one who knows if you are meant to be a nurse. I think at some point, all nursing students joke around about marrying a Dr. You are still young and definetly do not need to worry about meeting "Mr. Right". Concentrate on your nursing studies and GOOD LUCK!!!

mattsmom81 · Jul 10, 2002

You guys are so right....a young woman meets "Mr. Right" when she has growna bit into the person she was meant to be and is comfortable there.

It will come...don't rush it....hunting for a man rarely bags us happiness.....and will lead to heartache if it's not meant to be, so take your time, sweetie.

Good luck with nursing school...focus on YOU first. :)

mother/babyRN, RN · Jul 10, 2002

Money isn't everything and if you can't make it on your own why bother? I dated a doc long ago and we are still friends. However, I would rather, being a married person, have him able to be home being a good dad and husband than a good provider...To me, thats the most important thing. Hope you "catch" one if thats what you want, but recall, his needs will most likely come first and personally, many docs are into control. If thats what you want and are willing to settle for, more power to you! I'm happy I achieved everything on my own...Anything else might be icing on the cake but I am GRATEFUL GRATEFUL GRATEFUL that I didn't take the opportunity to mess things up by marrying a doctor early on ( unless, of course, he was a great guy who also happened to love me and WASN"T a work a holic)...All the big houses , nice cars ad luxurious trips in the world can't substitute the footrubs, love letters or sparkle I see in my husbands eyes when he sees the kids and I everyday......But, as they say, be careful what you wish for.....Hope it works out to the good for you and you get not only the wealthy doctor but the great guy too....

Furball · Jul 10, 2002

My best friend entered nursing school after a VERY nasty divorce...thank heavens no kids. I used to tease her about marrying a doctor and she would get furious!!

Guess what? 3 years after graduation she married a very nice, handsome, sweet, intelligent doc. Here's a paper bag for you all to barf in!!!:chuckle

I rolled my eyes also when I first read this thread....many docs are arrogant SOB's. Oh well....live and let live......

mattsmom81 · Jul 10, 2002

Yeah, but there ARE good ones out there too....so good for your girlfriend, Furball! I wish her much happiness...as I do our young thread starter....just hate to see anyone burned by false expectations that money and prestige can buy happiness....as those of us who have been 'round the block have learned the hard way.....LOL!

ERNurse752, RN · Jul 16, 2002

There's a doc in my hospital with quite the track record...

I was a GN and he came up and introduced himself to me. My preceptor said, "Stay away. Stay far, far away!"

mattsmom81 · Jul 16, 2002

Yah, Tricia....there's always the 'nice doc' who wants to make the sweet young things welcome...while he's eyeing her up and down...I remember those days and still see the sleazes doing this to our pretty young nurses....they literally drool over them...

After I turned 36 or so the docs slowed down....younger models were available to chase.... and I was glad!! I was happily married all along (not that that fact mattered to the docs...in fact a married lover is 'safer' I was told)

And no...I never did cheat with one of the docs either! Altho plenty of my coworkers did...

donmurray · Jul 16, 2002

I nearly married one, but she wasn't good enough for me!

puddlesrn · Jul 17, 2002

OMG.... A doctor...i can hardly stand to work with them....single is the only way to go babe.

live4today, RN · Jul 17, 2002

The only type of doctor I would marry would be a Nurse with a PhD. :kiss

stevierae · Jul 17, 2002

OK, I did not marry a doctor--I married a guy I met in Navy Hospital Corpsman school in 1973, and we are still married, and have 2 grown daughters and one 16 year old boy. He is still the love of my life.

Doctors are all so dysfunctional, and they all seem so socially inept, anyway--it's like, when we were all teenagers and college kids and DATING, they were all nerds who could not GET dates. Well, that's true for the American ones at least!!

I even know a couple who, literally, are an embarassment due to their atrocious table manners!

BUT--let me make a confession here--some (definitely not all) of the Middle Eastern guys, especially the Arabic ones, are soooo smooth and soooooo gorgeous, I have been tempted a time or two--NOT to say I have had an affair, but, boy, there was one, from Lebanon--literally, my heart used to pound when he entered the room, and he was a MASTER at the art of flirtation. We used to call him "Gorgeous George." And the way he dressed----soooo elegantly; very GQ.

So, anyway, here is my confession--one day, I was standing out in the hall at the hospital where I worked, talking to my husband (who had stopped by to meet up for lunch.)

The gorgeous brown eyed (velvety, liquidy brown eyed) doctor came by and said hello to me, in this VERY sexy voice, and gave my husband a once-over, then continued on his way. My husband said, "Who was that?" and I said, "Just some jerk."

Later on, I was working alongside the doctor. He asked, "Who was that guy I saw you talking to in the hallway?" (meaning my husband.)

I replied--God, I still can't believe I did this--"Oh, just some jerk."

This was over 20 years ago, and just recalling that doctor's face STILL makes my heart pound. Men do not DESERVE to be that good-looking. The song "Smooth" HAD to have been written with him in mind.