I'm currently a student at Johns Hopkins SON, just starting, and I'm wondering how hard it will be to meet and date some of the male med students here to seek out future husbands. Don't get me wrong, marrying a doctor is NOT the reason I want to be a nurse, it's just an added benefit. :) Let's face it, my nursing salary will not be enough to live in NYC, where I want to live, AND support a family.
So how many of you managed to score doctor husbands, and how'd you do it? Any suggestions on how I can meet some of them?
I don't think this is the place to come for a "candy-coated" response. She wanted a real answer - it was given, several times by several different people in several different ways. If she can't handle honest responses here, she certainly won't be able to handle real life.
What happened to being nonjudgemental? Could it be she is 19 and being appropriately naive
uhh....that's not naive...that's dumb. I am 19 and did not go to nursing school, work my a$$ off, lose touch with all my friends from HS, to end up with the ultimate goal of marrying a dr.! If she is old enough/mature enough to think she is ready to handle being in nursing school, she is old enough/mature enough to realize she will NOT HAVE TIME TO DATE MED STUDENTS!!
uhh....that's not naive...that's dumb. I am 19 and did not go to nursing school, work my a$$ off, lose touch with all my friends from HS, to end up with the ultimate goal of marrying a dr.! If she is old enough/mature enough to think she is ready to handle being in nursing school, she is old enough/mature enough to realize she will NOT HAVE TIME TO DATE MED STUDENTS!!
:rotfl: See? No candy coating around here! :rotfl:
Sorry, some of you, I still don't cater to your thinking. She deserved better than she got. Very few here would have ganged up on her like that in real life (thank goodness); it's so much easier on these boards, though. We can be so critical of our own. I get really pissed at myself sometimes, as I know I am guilty of it, too. I'm trying to quit, though!! We are eating our young and starving the profession.
walmart, i would much rather work w/ you than the slightly more self-absorbed jhu! it's called priorities. some people never move beyond themselves when it comes to priorities and that is not age dependent, i do agree. sometimes it gets better. often not.
i think as far as doc's and med students go, those at jhu consider themselves elite and have had their egos super-sized several times, as a rule. many would not bother w/ a lowly nursing student. this not to mention that those students and residents are in a very rigorous program and also would not have a lot of time to date anyway. if you want a dr's income, why not become one yourself, hmmm?
OK, here goes another nasty, unsupportive post. If I had this young woman as one of my "young", I probably would eat her! As I said, I could be the Nursing Instructor from Hell, and I have had 19-year-olds in my office with an attitude like this. I would then proceed to tell them to get their act and priorities straight or get out! I think my attitude came because the majority of 19 year olds I deal with are mature, intelligent and motivated like WalMart_ADN, and make me proud to welcome them into my profession. I've had single parents, students working their way through at McDonalds, and students caring for sick family members while going to school. I've given my pager # to GNs and accepted calls at all hours, because I felt that if they were motivated enough to call me, then they deserved help.
If this young woman has what it takes to enter this profession, this message board will have helped her to wake up and turn around. I sincerely hope that the maturity she manifested in her second post is more indicative of her capabilities than the tone of her first. Allnurses are a great, supportive and patient-advocating group of nurses, and we should be proud of our exacting standards. JeannieM
Um...if you really want to be "set" maybe you should marry a guy in finance or something. MDs do earn a good living, but with resident salaries, med school loans, and malpractice insurance, it takes a while to finally be living the good life, and they pay their dues with all those long hours and draining work conditions.
plus...nurses are usually really self sufficient strong people i think. the question you posted just sounds like it's feeding into the myth of what america percieves as nurses. i think if you met someone at work and fell in love, you could make it work out IN SPITE OF the fact of your professions.
Okay, I have to put in my two cents. Believe me, I am not a good judge of character (married 13 years, divorced for 7). Reading this post made me think of the first speech I heard in my first trip to nursing school. In our orientation, the first speaker was the dean of the school of nursing. The first words out of her mouth were, "If you are here to get your MRS, you need to look for another profession." I thought that was the best line I'd ever heard, and I still do.
You've struck a nerve deep inside most nurses. We have worked very hard to be recognized as professionals. We do NOT want to be portrayed as gold-digging bimbos who are into nursing to snatch a rich hubby/MD.
i do not reccomend finding an engineer.....i have yet to find one with a sense of humor??? now don't beat me up for that one..tee hee i think i will keep my aircraft engine mechanic...he cute and has nice buns:rotfl:
On second thought, I see a linen closet in someone's future...
I shared the one about catching two "colleagues" in the linen closet. I didn't share the one (until now) about the doctor who propositioned me in same said linen closet!!! I turned him down; we were always short of linen and I didn't want to get any of it dirty. :imbar
now don't beat me up for that one..tee hee i think i will keep my aircraft engine mechanic...he cute and has nice buns:rotfl: 
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Or real Codes....