How many of you married doctors?

[JHUnurse]

Hi all!

I'm currently a student at Johns Hopkins SON, just starting, and I'm wondering how hard it will be to meet and date some of the male med students here to seek out future husbands. Don't get me wrong, marrying a doctor is NOT the reason I want to be a nurse, it's just an added benefit. :) Let's face it, my nursing salary will not be enough to live in NYC, where I want to live, AND support a family.

So how many of you managed to score doctor husbands, and how'd you do it? Any suggestions on how I can meet some of them?

Thanks!

[KarafromPhilly]

I think that if you marry for money, you should be aware that your husband will think he bought himself a wife.

[leesonlpn]

Excellent response! You turned the tables around beautifully.

JHUNurse-

you must not have experienced life much to even consider marrying for money. Your thread is an embarrassment to other nurses. Rustyhammer is so correct, - if you can't manage on your salary- never mind, - it's a pathetic search on your part. Keep this thread near you, and twenty years from now you'll see how shallow it is.

ps/we had a "christian" doctor who worked emerg- a strong member of his congregation etc etc. Starting sleeping with my neighbour (emerg switchboard operator) also a strong member of the congregation. Guess they both wanted to strengthen their own congregation. He is married and has three cute little girls. She is divorced and has two teenagers.(She is known to be on the search for a doctor). Sickening.

[JHUnurse]

Wow! I come back to find this thread has become 4 pages! I want to explain a few things....first, I may be young (19), but obviously I would never marry someone I didn't love. BUT, if I happened to meet someone who was perfect for me, AND made enough so that we could both move to NYC and start a family, well that would be my dream. Is that wrong? I just wanted some advice as to how I could go about meeting people so I can find *Mr. Right*. My classmates and I always joke about marrying doctors, I never thought this thread would get so serious.

To all those people who shared their advice, *thank you*. I don't have much experience working yet, so I didn't realize that a lot of doctors might not make ideal husbands.

To those who discouraged me from entering nursing, well....that really saddens me. I entered the nursing program here because I honestly want to help people, and I have a strong interest in health care. I could have gone on the pre-med track, but I knew about the nursing shortage and decided that this is what I wanted to do. So far I love everything about it, except for any nurses who judge me or discourage me from being a nurse. Maybe in the future if you see a post like mine you can try to offer some constructive criticism and help guide others down the right path.

As for me, I will be continuing in nursing school, and I think I'll start looking for a nice engineer.......anyone know where I can find some?

[ScoobyRoo]

Well, I came to this site to do a bit of research. I didn't know I was in store for a "roflmao" session. I haven't laughed so hard in a loooooonnnngggg time. :chuckle

Obviously JHUNurse has watched "Jerry McGuire" one too many times. It seems "Show me the MONEY!!!" has become her life's motto. :)

I can't believe that in this "day and age" someone would actually think this way but I guess old habits die hard. Since I was a child I have always promised myself that I would be self-supporting not matter what it took. I refuse to have to depend on someone else for my existence. I adopted this line of thinking as I watched a friends mother go through a divorce. She had 5 kids and no education. He left her for the seceratary. She was so totally dependent on him it wasn't funny. After seeing her "scrape the barrel" to get by - I promised myself to never be in her situation.

Anyhow, thanks for the laugh. I may put up a post or two - questions about nursing in general as I need as much info as possible before I determine "what I want to be when I grow up"!

Maybe sometime I will tell ya'll of my story with a resident. Kinda funny :)

[jschut, BSN, RN]

Can't look for a doctor.....already got myself a Minister, a good husband and a good dad to the kids....all rolled into one!

Besides, the docs I know aren't usually worth spit to know, much less marry!

[bestblondRN]

Originally posted by JHUnurse

Wow! I come back to find this thread has become 4 pages! I want to explain a few things....first, I may be young (19), but obviously I would never marry someone I didn't love. BUT, if I happened to meet someone who was perfect for me, AND made enough so that we could both move to NYC and start a family, well that would be my dream. Is that wrong? I just wanted some advice as to how I could go about meeting people so I can find *Mr. Right*. My classmates and I always joke about marrying doctors, I never thought this thread would get so serious.

To all those people who shared their advice, *thank you*. I don't have much experience working yet, so I didn't realize that a lot of doctors might not make ideal husbands.

To those who discouraged me from entering nursing, well....that really saddens me. I entered the nursing program here because I honestly want to help people, and I have a strong interest in health care. I could have gone on the pre-med track, but I knew about the nursing shortage and decided that this is what I wanted to do. So far I love everything about it, except for any nurses who judge me or discourage me from being a nurse. Maybe in the future if you see a post like mine you can try to offer some constructive criticism and help guide others down the right path.

As for me, I will be continuing in nursing school, and I think I'll start looking for a nice engineer.......anyone know where I can find some?

JHU,

You are still so young......you will have much more to bring to a relationship with Mr. Right if you have gotten out in the world and done some things for yourself.

Try NOT looking for Mr. Right right now--in fact, just be open to new experiences and see what (or who) comes your way. It's usually when we're not looking for it that we find someone special anyhow!

Keep your focus on the goal of getting through school, and then see where you end up--you might find that you can work in NYC on your own without any help from anyone!

Good luck!

Suzanne

[Sleepyeyes]

Originally posted by JHUnurse

Wow! I come back to find this thread has become 4 pages! I want to explain a few things....first, I may be young (19), but obviously I would never marry someone I didn't love. BUT, if I happened to meet someone who was perfect for me, AND made enough so that we could both move to NYC and start a family, well that would be my dream. Is that wrong? I just wanted some advice as to how I could go about meeting people so I can find *Mr. Right*. My classmates and I always joke about marrying doctors, I never thought this thread would get so serious.

To all those people who shared their advice, *thank you*. I don't have much experience working yet, so I didn't realize that a lot of doctors might not make ideal husbands.

To those who discouraged me from entering nursing, well....that really saddens me. I entered the nursing program here because I honestly want to help people, and I have a strong interest in health care. I could have gone on the pre-med track, but I knew about the nursing shortage and decided that this is what I wanted to do. So far I love everything about it, except for any nurses who judge me or discourage me from being a nurse. Maybe in the future if you see a post like mine you can try to offer some constructive criticism and help guide others down the right path.

As for me, I will be continuing in nursing school, and I think I'll start looking for a nice engineer.......anyone know where I can find some?

I said what I did because most nursing students who come to the board are freaking out about courses, grades, about the job, about how to manage their personal lives along with nursing school..... and along comes your Post #1, to wit:

Where do I go to land a dr. husband? Nothing about personal qualities, just "male, rich & dr."

So forgive me if the true intent of your pursuing a nursing career escaped me. Please go over to the Student Nurse's Lounge and read the posts there, and you'll see what I mean.

The "usual" first post is like "Hi, I'm new and I'm asking for help with my studies or organizing my life," not, "Hi, I need money, how about I marry a doc, and you good nurses should help me find one."

I have never told a student not to pursue a nursing career, until that post. My first thought was, What chutzpah! Of all the dumbass reasons to be a nurse!! She's wasting her time and her money--and ours. Our profession has enough problems, thank you very much.

I'm not saying that you should not have any fun at all while you're in school, but nursing school will test the best relationships, and it's quite taxing on your psyche. Oh, and did I mention, challenging?

How are you doing in your classes? How much are you studying? What are you having real problems with (besides money)? Where are you now, and what's so attractive about NYC? We are a friendly and helpful group here, by and large, and we WANT TO HELP YOU in your nursing ambition.

But if you think the nursing program is easy, and you can just breeze through without hassle, you need to know you've targeted yourself for way worse than I could deliver. If you don't want to be picked on incessantly from the 'nursing instructor from he**, hang around here, learn, ask questions, and share all you want; we're happy to support you.

And please know this: there will be many times as a nursing student and as a nurse, that you will question your choice. So will others. If you're here for the right reasons, nothing on this earth is going to stop you, not having to repeat courses, or the program, or the "nursing instructor from hell" or any of that stuff, and there are a few of us here who can tell you about that.....

For now...

sorry we got off to a shaky start, but Welcome to the Board. :)

PS I'm not really as mean as I sound.

[trueblue]

Sounds Good. I'm married to an Engineer for 10 fun and wonderful years. Okay not all wonderful all the time, but fun none the less. Although I endure the occassional "on calls", he's still home at night where he belongs. You can't say that for alot of DOCs.

I admit there are some very attractive DOCs out there with one thing in mind.

Good to look at, conversate with, but not good for me.

More power to you if you can handle it, thread starter. But you should think of the BIGGGG picture here.

All that is gold does not glitter.

But thats just me.

[trueblue]

What did I miss here.

A whole lot. LOL

I'm still replying to married to engineer thing dating service thing...... Whatever.

I like the goute from Kara,"Bought himself a wife", If thats not food for thought what is.

So think twice.

[OBNURSEHEATHER]

:chuckle :roll :rotfl: What a riot!

I'm gone for 2 days and look what happens! Everyone has already said what I would have said!

Seriously, the fact that your first concerns as a nursing student were those that pertained to nabbing yourself a rich doctor seriously alert me to your true motives as a nurse. Have you spent any time here reading what the other student's concerns are? What their priorities are? WE know their priorities. And now we know yours.

I know some great doctors, none of which are good husbands. IMHO, if you do nab yourself one, you deserve everything you get.

Good luck in nursing and finding a man - whichever is more important to you.

Heather

[RNIAM, BSN, RN]

I do not reccomend finding an engineer.....I have yet to find one with a sense of humor??? Now don't beat me up for that one..tee hee I think i will keep my aircraft engine mechanic...He cute and has nice buns:rotfl:

[NurseDennie, BSN, RN]

C'mon guys - let's cut her some slack. I think this was her first post and everything!!

I don't think I would recommend marrying a bureaucrat - that's what my hubby does.

I don't know what the perfect job for the SO of a nurse would be --- oh WAIT!!! It just came to me! FOOT MASSEUR/MASSEUS (okay, I spelled it wrong). But it should be someone who KNOWS that he/she should worship at the feet of his/her nurse AND RUB AND MASSAGE THEM WHILE THEY'RE AT IT!!

Love

Dennie