Dont you just HATE some of your classmates?

MQ Edna · Oct 4, 2006

When you think of the big picture in nursing school, you'll find out what you have to do when dealing with these types of difficult situations. Let me explain an approach to these situations, first. Above all, be assertive and practice you're ability to say "no" and not get led into things such as arguments, grudge matches, or staredowns. Second, imagine that your professors are watching your interactions with these people. Doing this, you'll get an idea of what's considered appropriate behavior, because you'll realize when you're not acting politely and appropriately. The trick is to not break your professionalism. Now that you're being assertive and acting professional, forget about how they're making you feel and focus on staying in the moment, and getting your job done. Above all, practice being "fake," as bad as it might sound. If you're phony and polite, you won't get led into bad situations as easily, and you'll be able to more carefully monitor your personal reactions to these types of situations. And last, write down every dirty look, negative comment, and insult you ever get from these people and then present it to the professor if you have to. You can do a lot more harm to someone, if you want to, by not acting out directly against them... but going above them with proof of their behavior. Then, you an cite in the college's policies their breach of the rules and have them punished accordingly. Keep that little tidbit in the back of your mind, and don't let them get you down. If you look at these types of situations psychoanalytically, you'll see that people's motives are usually pretty clear when you look at them closely enough. You'll see that they're trying to disrupt your concentration, interfere with your learning, single you out, drive you away from the group, and make themselves look better. What you have to do is be prepared to deal with this and then take steps to ensure that it doesn't happen. You can also see that people who act like this are usually trying to compensate or get ahead, because they have no consideration for others... a skill nurses really should have. Realize that these people are beneath you and that they're scum... liken them to racists and sexists. Above all, beat them and study harder. If it doesn't kill you it will make you stronger.

NaomieRN · Oct 4, 2006

I would not use the word "HATE", maybe disagreement on some issues with classmates. I actually have no problem with any student in my class. There is one girl who likes to talk everytime the instructor is talking about somethings. I would stop my digital recorder and re-record when she is done. I learned how nurse should collaborate with others, so I do my best to get along with everyone. I would walk in the class and say hello to everyone. I have so much readings to do, often times, I dont even pay attention to whose saying this and that. I have a way to block out what I dont want to hear and I am good at it. I just focus on learning all the important stuff.

smurfy · Oct 4, 2006

I'm in an accelerated program and the big issue I'm having with some of my classmates is the lack of common sense and the overall stupidity I have to deal with on a daily basis. It's really horrible because we all are in the same class everyday and I have to deal with these people day in and day out for the next year and a half. It concerns me on just how unknowledgeable some of them are. For instance, some of them didn't know that we have to pass the NCLEX to become a RN, matter of fact some of them didn't even know what the NCLEX was. It seems like they just happened to stumble into nursing as a second career as oppose to really researching and deciding on nursing for reason more than just money. It's really bad when people who already have degrees are unmotivated and lazy; it's to the point that one of my professors is teaching the class in slow motion because he knows that many aren't doing the assigned reading and they will be the one raising their hand for him to spell simple words like "primary" or "lesions".

Thank you! I am in a two year program (second semester) and have the same problem with classmates. Not doing the work, always whining that test questions are unfair because they missed it, changing test schedules to accomidate their lives. How do these people function in the real world, since they are so clueless in the classroom? Not only did these people not know about the NCLEX, but they expected it to be free (no testing fees). They always want to be spoon fed information and can never except that the answers to their questions are not always simple and straight forward. They always ask the same questions over and over (some are from the first semester!).

I can sympathise with you and feel your frustration. Just hang on and soon these morons will be long behind you.

Jules A, MSN · Oct 4, 2006

Just hang on and soon these morons will be long behind you.

Yup until you start your first job and there are different morons just like them! :uhoh21:

Seriously though I am so thankful that nursing school showed me in no uncertain terms just how particular one must be when choosing the team they will work with because sad to say but lazy people are everywhere.

scaredofshots · Oct 4, 2006

We have the same stuff going on in our class too. Its called PLAYING HIGH SCHOOL and these girls need to grow up. Life is going to slap them in the face when they get into the real world. It would be funny to watch them get an attitude with some of my patients!! lol

StudentNurseSteph, BSN, RN · Oct 4, 2006

yeah i especially hate the loud obnoxious girls that act like they're still in highschool..i think to myself wow i'd just LOVE for them to be MY nurses lol..:smiley_ab

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · Oct 5, 2006

Yup until you start your first job and there are different morons just like them! :uhoh21:

LOL!!!!!!!

MJJFan1, BSN, RN · Oct 5, 2006

These people that you speak of..........Do they pay your bills? Do they take the tests for you? Do they help you write those careplans late nights? Do you honestly think they care about you? NO????? Then forget about it!! Who cares? You must remember, you are not there to make friends and if you are, just know that they cannot pass nursing school for you. Also, know that they cannot fail you. You can only do that yourself!! Damn them!!

GadgetRN71, ASN, RN · Sep 15, 2007

I'll be honest- I do hate some of my former co-workers and one person in my family! :devil: LOL, that sounds awful but you have to be a really nasty piece of work to get me to hate you. I don't do anything about this hate, just so no one thinks I'm a danger to society or anything.

To the OP, it's OK to "hate" some of your classmates. Just take the classy way out and ignore them. Focus on your own studies and do well. You know what they say: Living well is the best revenge.

diapason05 · Oct 9, 2007

Thank you! I am in a two year program (second semester) and have the same problem with classmates. Not doing the work, always whining that test questions are unfair because they missed it, changing test schedules to accomidate their lives. How do these people function in the real world, since they are so clueless in the classroom? Not only did these people not know about the NCLEX, but they expected it to be free (no testing fees). They always want to be spoon fed information and can never except that the answers to their questions are not always simple and straight forward. They always ask the same questions over and over (some are from the first semester!).
I can sympathise with you and feel your frustration. Just hang on and soon these morons will be long behind you.

I'm a bit scared now. My husband is older than me (29) and has been in the navy for almost 7 years- he's always telling me I'm going to have to learn some patience because there are a lot of morons out there. I tend to get frustrated with stupidity. I've been known to tear up in class (college!!) because the other students were slow to pick up easy concepts. I went to my guidance counselor out of frustration and asked him if he thought classes would become more difficult once I hit the university level. He said, no, the classes are pretty much the same. I became really depressed. I know that it is not nice (or gracious) to get frustrated with people who don't catch on as quickly as I usually do (since I am sure there are going to be times where *I* am the slow one), but I can't help it. Nowadays, EVERYONE goes to college. Many of these people should not be there. Thats just the way it is. I believe that our colleges have lowered academic standards to accomodate the average person who is not smart enough to be there. It brings all of the people who should be there DOWN!

jla623 · Oct 9, 2007

Yeah, but you will encounter that everywhere you go. I get annoyed with lots of people as well, but over the years I have learned not to care as much. Most importantly, I have learned to be careful what you say to people...there are some scandalous people out there. It just seems like sometimes no matter how nice you are, there are some people that are so unhappy that they will find a reason to dislike you anyway. I usually just steer clear of people like that and try to make another friend in the class that is "normal" like I am. Try talking to the quiet people in the class because you will probably find that they feel exactly the same way that you do about the annoying ones in the class.

I don't understand why some people are so mean and hateful!! It irritates the hell out of me too!

LMRN10 · Oct 9, 2007

I know this is an old post, but thought I would respond anyway.

There are people, believe it or not, in this world that I DO hate (strong word, yes, but true...dislike is not a strong enough word in these cases). None of them have been my classmates though. Have not started clinicals, but I am expecting to in the Spring. I will be taking night classes. In my experience, those who have taken all of my pre-req night classes with me are people basically in the same situation as me. Married, working, kids, etc... Not all of them, but most of them. I just feel like those that go at night (at least to my school) seem to be more mature...whether they are older or younger. Yes, there are a select few (old or young) who didn't seem to make it far past high school, but some people are just like that.

I tend to tune that sort of stuff out as much as I can. I agree with many of the previous posters that your energy should be applied to better things! Such as your school work...and there is plenty of it.

I will say, in high-school, I always worried about people talking about me, what they thought, blah blah blah. When I started college at the age of 27, I realized quickly that had changed. I didn't care anymore. And I will say, it changed even MORE when I had my daughter at the age of 29! Life experiences WILL help you get past these things. I have learned to speak up if I think it's necessary (mainly after I had my daughter, I learned to do that). I am a much different person than I was in my teens/early 20's.

You will have those who are just cruel for no reason (and no, it is not always something you said or did that causes it), but you just need to learn to look past that. I am hoping I won't have to deal with that with the night classes, but who knows. I think it's something that can happen anywhere...not just at school.

I'm more concerned with getting a good education and meeting others who want to get to know me and work to help each other...not dealing with those who like to make others lives as miserable as possible...I have no room for that in my life!

Lori