After reading some of other threads, a theme of nurse-doctor dating/marrying prevails...
I thought we were past that...maybe not.
Reminds me of the throwback nurses of the 1950's and 1960's who were gah-gah over the television characters Dr. Kildare and Dr. Ben Casey...
...or the nurses of the 1970's who cooed over the television character Dr. Marcus Welby and also actor James Brolin...(Forgive I can't remember if James Brolin Performed in TV program Marcus Welby, MD or Medical Center)...
I thought we were all past that...
I can remember some women, yes women, admitting to entering the nursing profession in order "to meet and marry a doctor."...
I don't get it.
Are we still salivating the ancient fantasies of the past?
Specializes in CNA, Surgical, Pediatrics, SDS, ER.
Mine jokes about the same thing. I'm perfectly happy with my hubby and would not trade him for anything in the world.
That being said, I absolutly would not want to marry a doc. They work all the time and most of the docs in my facility are egotistical asses. Their egos are so big that I don't think a woman could compete with that. Guess they have enough love of themselves that they don't need anyone else.
Not to mention the fact that doctors have the highest divorce rate. Can't imagine why!
I don't see anything wrong with wanting to marry someone with prestige and some $$. The Nurses of today seem to be the breadwinners if their families. That's not A good thing.
Some nurses still look at Doctors as "knights in shinning Armour" and anxiously pursue them for marriage. I don t think it is worth the lonely nights , the absenteism, even broken promises in the name of love. She might be happier with someone in another occupation.
I have met several nurses that have married and supported their spouses during med school, residency, and/or established in their profession only to get burnt by divorce/separation for a another (usually new younger) partner. I only know of one nurse that was a office manager that married her boss/doctor and at least it lasted until his death at 70-something. It does not just happen in the medical field though-I see young couples stay together until they get what or where they want and then move on. Especially true is when one is supporting the other and then the "other" leaves after achieving their goals via the provided financial/provision of living quarters, etc.
The ironic thing, my sister is now dating a psychiatrist as I am about to graduate (who is, btw, 51 to her 23 which I'm not too happy about).
I told my sister that there are some women who go to nursing school with a major (if not focal) objective of meeting and marrying a doctor. When she told her psychiatrist BF about this he said "well, I suppose it happens, but a lot of nurses SLEEP with doctors..." kind of implying that it's more common for doctors and nurses to mess around on the side of their relationships rather than actually meet and marry (presumably because the nurse is hoping he will leave his wife for her, when both are already in relationships).
Going by my graduating class (granted, very small sample size of about 20-25 students, 3 of whom are males) I don't think any of us went to school to marry a doctor, lol. I'm sure a lot of us in the back of our minds might be thinking it would be nice (and I know for a fact SOME of us would leave their present boyfriends/husbands for one ha ha).
My b/f before my husband wanted to be a pediatric heart surgeon, and I totally loved that and supported him in it. It's still way different though because I would've known him before he got the big ego and hopefully could've helped prevent that.
As for marrying a doctor I worked with, only if he was Patrick Dempsey. =)
i am a volunteer for two weeks at a hospital and see enough of MD arrogance.
I was helping a secretary stamping a chart the other day andthe machine stopped working for some unknown reason. Later, A plastic surgeon used it and suddenly it worked. The secretary asked how did he fixed that, and he answered "Ten years of schooling" with his face up. So annoying.
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Mine jokes about the same thing. I'm perfectly happy with my hubby and would not trade him for anything in the world.
That being said, I absolutly would not want to marry a doc. They work all the time and most of the docs in my facility are egotistical asses. Their egos are so big that I don't think a woman could compete with that. Guess they have enough love of themselves that they don't need anyone else.
Not to mention the fact that doctors have the highest divorce rate. Can't imagine why!