Cursing A Good Samaritan???

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I seem to be a poo-poo magnet some days, and this past Friday was no exception. I was in noon traffic running an errand, and noted there was a wreck on the other side of the median. 3 vehicles involved, good bit of damage, but there were already 2 police cars, 2 fire/rescue trucks, and 3 ambulances on the scene. I did not stop, because it was apparent that I wasn't needed.

Within 100 yards, of course there was another wreck, a car of rubber-neckers gawking while they were driving. At this scene, 1 fire truck and 1 police motorcycle. The officer was talking to one of the firemen, and the victim was moving, but sitting up. I decided that I would stop, I never like to just pass by, even if all I can do if hold an umbrella over a victim while the EMT does his thing.

So, anyway, I top, pull over out of the way of traffic, and get out of the car. I had taken about 2 or 3 steps and the motoycle cop starts to yell and scream obscentities. When he first saw me, he yelled for me to stop and already had his hand on his FRIGGIN gun! When I got out his first words were "Who are you!What the ______ are you doing?!!! He yelled it 3 or 4 times. Now when he started hollering, I had just started trying to id myself as an ER RN. I quickly tried to explain that I was offering help. I even had my work t shirt on that says big as Dallas ____ _____ emergency Room. So then i have frozen, because he acted like I was about to get a body part shot off or something. So then he commences cursing me again, stating, "the only thing you can do is get the f________ out of here. If I wanted your f____ help, I would have f____ asked for it.!!" "So get the h___ out of here before I get nasty!" GET NASTY??!!! He got nasty about the time I exited my vehicle.

I'm just very glad we don't live in the city where they patrol! Who knows, maybe I was just hormonal. Maybe just me, but I think he could have gotten th point across with only 1 or 2 f_____ and a few h____!:bluecry1: Anne

Cudos to you for calling his supervisor!! I pity the accident victims that had to deal with this behavior! And cudos to you for stopping and I hope this does not deter you from stopping at other times!

MANY officers and also Corrections Officers get so stressed they start acting like this without even knowing it and need to be checked on this so hopefully his supervisor needs to remind him that he works with the general law abiding public as much as with the criminal element.

I have a neighbor (he's VP of our condo board) who was a former CO and he aproached me very defensively one day and was all in my face. I calmly backed off- the guy is HUGE- and remained calm and once he was down to earth I talked to him of his behavior saying he had no right to do that. He did apologize and after a few minutes I really understood where he was coming from. He was so used to dealing with the prisoners and their non compliance and where if you showed weakness they would go after it, that that style of communication became part of who he was and spilled over to his personal life. We had a great talk and he really truly is a great guy. I hope this is the case with the officer you spoke of and if it isn't maybe he needs to find another line of work.

Specializes in Nursing Ed, Ob/GYN, AD, LTC, Rehab.
You should have said "Fine, Officer. I'll move along. But, before I do, why don't you comply with the law and tell me your name and badge number so I can report your appalling behavior to Internal Affairs?"

A few cops think they are God's gift and can get away with anything. Show this particular azzhat that such thinking is dead wrong.

:yeahthat:

You should have said "Fine, Officer. I'll move along. But, before I do, why don't you comply with the law and tell me your name and badge number so I can report your appalling behavior to Internal Affairs?"

A few cops think they are God's gift and can get away with anything. Show this particular azzhat that such thinking is dead wrong.

I would have done the same thing...and I also would wager if you called the local police department and gave the date and time of the incident, they would probably narry down very quickly who that officer is.

Police Officers, whom I have a TON of respect for, are still public servants and law-abiding citizens do not deserve to get yelled at, cursed at, especially when a healthcare professional stops to help out.

What if that indivdual had been more critically injured than was currently obvious?

I had a friend of mine, which she was in college, her boyfriend and her were arguing and he took a Fierro at over 100 MPH...CRASHED...he was critically injured, and she walked away from the accident...apparrently unscaved...the rescue workers were working on her boyfriend, she was walking around...feeling a little dizzy from the shock, passed out...and woke up 3 days later in the hospital.

Her spleen had burst, her walking shifted one of 8 broken ribs she had and punctured her lung and she had a major concussion that caused bleeding on her brain. The only explanation they gave is she probably had so much adrenalin running through her system from the accident, she didn't feel any pain when she got up.

The cop was on a huge power trip.

How do you know that? How do you know it wasn't mental illness, stress over his personal/job/family/other life?

Nevermind. I just saw your second post.

Specializes in nursery, L and D.

What a jerk. I always try to stop if there are no EMS on the scene yet. One police officer at a scene I stopped at with no EMS refused my offer to assess and try to render what ever first aid I could. EMS arrived 20 min. later and women died in route to ER. Bet he felt like an azz. But he was in no way rude, like the guy you describe. I think he was worried about policy, ya know. In this situation I think you did the right thing in calling the supervisor and would try to make sure something was done. That guy is not stable!

Specializes in ICU, CVICU.

Ok...I agree with what you guys have said so far but you CANNOT approach cops like that. It freaks them out and rightly so- for all they know you are some crazy person that is going to shoot them. That is why I don't stop if cops are on the scene. Granted, this guy may have been a bit over the top but I do believe in seeing their side of the situation.

now please don't flame me:sofahider

Specializes in nursery, L and D.
Ok...I agree with what you guys have said so far but you CANNOT approach cops like that. It freaks them out and rightly so- for all they know you are some crazy person that is going to shoot them. That is why I don't stop if cops are on the scene. Granted, this guy may have been a bit over the top but I do believe in seeing their side of the situation.

now please don't flame me:sofahider

I see what you are saying, but come on, people are people. If we don't start yelling and cursing at people approaching us, then they shouldn't either! I don't think, in this particular situation, a cops first thought would be a homicidal maniac is coming to get them:lol2: I can see that in an unstable criminal situation a cop might think that, but at a wreck? I almost always have found that the police I offer to help are grateful, around here they don't even have to be BLCS certed (most are though), so they are thankful when someone who knows a little more first aid stuff arrives on scene. Anyway, just my :twocents: .

I really think his mama needs to take him to the bathroom with a bar of Ivory soap and deal with that filthy mouth of his!:angryfire

I've stopped a few times and offered help and never been treated in that manner! That jerk was WAY out of line. He gives a bad name to the legions of good and decent police that try to do their job.

At the risk of sounding like a cocky, ungrateful,*****...if fire/rescue was already on scene, I wouldn’t have stopped. In a chaotic scene, with multiple victims, the last thing we need is one more person entering into the fray. Most departments have protocols for what to do if the incident overwhelms their resources. It can be very frustrating to have someone we don’t know and who doesn’t know our protocols trying to get out and help. Our protocols also mandate that everyone on scene is to wear protecting gear, which a normal citizen wouldn’t have, so there is a definite safety issue there that we don’t want to have to worry about in addition to everything else we are trying to do.

The police officer was WAY out of line in the way he handled it though...no one should ever talk like that to anyone!!!

Specializes in med/surg, telemetry, IV therapy, mgmt.

busyrnandmom. . .write a nicely written respectful letter describing what happened exactly like you did here with all the expletives included. i hope you got the officer's badge number or name, but the date, time and location of the incident should identify this officer. send the letter and copies of it to the mayor of the town that this occurred in and all the councilmen. someone will do something about addressing this with this officer who is supposed to serve the public. if he's done this with you, it's likely that he's done it with others. at least help to get some documentation in his work file. an alternative would be to go to a city council meeting when they have open mike and speak your complaint. the chief of police or his representative are usually at the council meetings. that way it will get documented publicly in the minutes.

Specializes in Lie detection.
Ok...I agree with what you guys have said so far but you CANNOT approach cops like that. It freaks them out and rightly so- for all they know you are some crazy person that is going to shoot them. That is why I don't stop if cops are on the scene. Granted, this guy may have been a bit over the top but I do believe in seeing their side of the situation.

now please don't flame me:sofahider

I understand what you're saying but oy the cursin' he did! He in NO way, shape or form had to do that! And come on, she had a big ole' hospital ID on! So, in my eyes, he was wrong, wrong, wrong. he could have respectfully told her to stop and no thanks miss, get back in your car.

He didn't and was a jerk.

Specializes in ED, ICU, PSYCH, PP, CEN.

The cop was waaayyy out of line, and I'm glad you reported him. Some people in that line of work do get so immeshed in the bad aspects that they don't know how to communicate with normal people anymore.

I however do not stop at any accidents unless I am the first on the scene. Once cops or other agencies are there it is better to let them handle it with their own departments. If you stop you have no way of knowing what you are getting into. What if the accident victim is someone the cops were chasing down, and they are afraid you are an accomplice.

There is always the chance that you might be able to save a life, like the girl with the broken ribs mentioned earlier, but there is always the chance that you are walking into a dangerous situation that you know nothing about as well, and your safety needs to be addressed as well. We don't want to be short one more ER nurse.

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