BrnEyedGirl, BSN, MSN, RN, APRN 1,236 Posts Specializes in Cardiac, ER. Has 18 years experience. Nov 18, 2008 As a fellow ER nurse, I know that we tend to have a real warped sense of humor sometimes,.....any chance this is a misplaced attempt at being funny? If not, I agree with the others, keep track of what was said, when and where and say something to your supervisor.
FireStarterRN, BSN, RN 3,823 Posts Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele. Has 15 years experience. Nov 18, 2008 Do something right away, before she's done with her probationary period!
leslie :-D 11,191 Posts Nov 18, 2008 i agree w/all others who have suggested a supervised meeting w/the nm.long time ago, there was a colleague who butted heads w/me.i mean, she just didn't like me and attempted to belittle me professionally and personally.i jotted down her comments then arranged a meeting w/our nm.i also assured the nm that he wouldn't have to say anything...that i was more than willing to confront this person and i just wanted it on record.the 3 of us convened, where i told this nurse that i didn't care why she was saying what she was, but she'd best knock it off NOW.our nm didn't say a word.i said what i had to, and left the office.she never bothered me again.actually, she quit shortly thereafter.anyways, take this to your mgr.there should be zero tolerance for this b.s.leslie
caliotter3 38,333 Posts Nov 18, 2008 Do something right away, before she's done with her probationary period!Good advice. Don't delay.
RN1982 3,362 Posts Specializes in ICU/Critical Care. Nov 18, 2008 She sounds like an evil, jealous woman. I would talk to your supervisor about her comments. They are much more than snide remarks. These are remarks that can ruin your reputation and your career. It sounds as if you've confronted her.By the way, what did you supervisor say when she made comments to you in from of your supervisor?
medsurgrnco, BSN, RN 539 Posts Specializes in Med-Surg, Psych. Nov 18, 2008 You need to deal with this ASAP - before she manipulates others into joining her against you or gets really nasty in trying to take you down. Avoid her as much as possible and try to have a witness to all interactions. Arrange a meeting with your supervisor and take your documented notes. Ask to not be scheduled for the same shifts. Then maybe the two of you should meet with her and HR.
THAT Nurse., MSN, RN, APRN 163 Posts Specializes in Family Practice/Primary Care. Has 16 years experience. Nov 18, 2008 Within her first week on the job she point blank asked me, in front of other co workers some of whom are very good friends of mine, if I hit women.Yah, get your boss involved. After all, what if new hires/floats AFTER her hear her first, you just got tarred for life buddy. As a man, I never answer no to the "Do you hit women" question. I don't even answer it. I return fire with a full broadside, I ask her if she is still in the whoring business. Used it twice, first one shut up and never spoke to me again, which I was fine with, other completely exploded and went way wayyy off the deep end.
ShayRN 1,046 Posts Specializes in Corrections, Cardiac, Hospice. Has 18 years experience. Nov 18, 2008 I return fire with a full broadside, I ask her if she is still in the whoring business. Seems like an appropriate response to me. I can't imagine asking a man a question like that! The one where she basically tells people he is a child molester is so far over the top, I think as a co-worker I would have gone off on her. I have many dear male friends. Can't bear the thought that someone would treat them like this and others would sit by and let it happen. To me that is just as bad.
Batman24 1,975 Posts Nov 18, 2008 Just to echo the others...deal with this TODAY. Write everything down and get a meeting with your boss as well as their superior. I would also get HR involved as this needs immediate attention. I would start a paper trail on this as well. Keep track of what was said along with date and time and who witnsessed the comments. This isn't a petty comment...this is slander. It needs to stop NOW. She has created a hostile working environment and you need to say just that in your meeting. Please leep us posted. I'm sorry this is happening to you.
Straydandelion 630 Posts Nov 18, 2008 Well, it seems a solid consensus. you need to stop her. I would talk to the NM. She could be socially inept and not understand her remarks, though if only you then there is something else going on. Beside all that however it is extremely unprofessional.
BlueBug 57 Posts Nov 18, 2008 It's time to put an end to this before it somehow turns into an accusation of you doing something to her.This is what I was going to say:yeahthat: You need to go to your management so the issue is out in the open and they know what is going on. This goes beyond snide, it could ruin your career. You don't want to be accused and try to defend yourself from this woman. Bringing up these comments after the fact won't be as effective for your defense than if management already knows of the problem.The patients also need to be protected from her. I don't know how many kids come through your floor, but God forbid a loving father shows affection or concern for his daughter, and she reports him as being "too friendly." ~BlueBug
moonchild20002000 288 Posts Specializes in OB/GYN,L&D,FP office,LTC. Has 36 years experience. Nov 18, 2008 I would immediately ask her what she means by the remark.It puts her in the positionof having to explain herself in front of your co-workers,supervisor.I also would keep documentation about each incident. Try not to put yourself in a position of being alone with her. You may need a witness in the future.If this person continues with the remarks then I might take it up the chain.If you confront her each time I'm thinking she will back off and find another victim
