Co Worker and snide comments

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So this is like a vent/help I've got here. So I have a co worker that I feel has crossed the line with her remarks and I'm not entirely sure how to handle it. She was only hired about a month ago and it seems as if she took an immediate disliking to me, and in all honesty due to the nature of her comments I believe her disliking comes from the fact that I'm male.

Within her first week on the job she point blank asked me, in front of other co workers some of whom are very good friends of mine, if I hit women. This was after she had walked in on me and a female coworker who's also a good friend horsing around during a break. I answered the question and my friend took up for my defense, however she refused to drop the issue for weeks. I have never hit a women in my life and didn't like being accused of such especially by someone I barely know.

That was the first comment but today I feel as if she really crossed the line. My best friend and his family were in town visiting this weekend and stopped by the hospital on their way out to say goodbye. My best friend has three beautiful children, two girls and a boy to which I'm the God father. Well apparently this woman saw me with them and used it as another way to attack me. When I came back in she passed a comment in front of several coworkers and my supervisor that I 'seemed a bit too close with that little girl' which must have been a reference to me carrying my oldest God daughter outside.

Now that comment really set me off because I'd die for those kids, I love them dearly and I also have my own child on the way so for anyone to imply I'd hurt a child really upsets me. Another thing is her making a comment like this in front of co workers and my supervisor could very well hurt me professionally. I work in ER now but have worked in Peds ER and I'm currently in school to get my NP in Pediatrics.

Maybe I'm over reacting by being so upset but it seems as if she's trying to professionally sabotage me. Now I've dealt with hostile co workers but never like this woman, has anyone else every dealt with a hostile co worker of this nature? How do you handle it while maintaining a civil working environment?

I promised I'd come back and give you guys yet another update. And while I still don't know why Nurse Nasty got fired, if I find that out I'll let you know. My girlfriend is now my fiancee. She said yes. I proposed last night. She almost threw a monkey wrench in my plan by leaving early to try and surprise me. But her best friend tipped me off. She pulled up at my house around 2am and I met her in the driveway (where I'd been standing freezing to death for half an hour) with 'Teri will you marry me?' blinking in Christmas lights on the roof (not as easy task thank it took two hours to do in the Lexington cold Thank God for good friends to help out). It didn't really register to her until she got out on the car and I got down on one knee in the driveway. But there were happy tears involved and she said yes which is the most important part. I couldn't be happier. Now I have the rest of the weekend with her before she leaves and I have to go back to work.

congrats, and you do know, you "owe" that best friend, right? lololol

Congratulations!

Specializes in LTC, case mgmt, agency.

wow! what a nice romantic proposal. congradulations . :yeah: i am so happy to hear things are working out so well for you. keep us posted.

have a wonderful holiday season.:D

Specializes in ER, Peds ER.

Okay one last update for this thread and then it should be all done. Thank you all for the congrats and well wishes.

To whoever made the comment that I owe my fiancee's best friend, you're right and she's made it very clear that next time I'm in town she will be collecting her free dinner. I had a very wonderful weekend with my fiancee and can't wait to see her again already. We're almost 14 weeks pregnant now and locking down our names (It's Nash Cooper, or Cooper Nash for a boy and Lilliana Grace for a little girl) and we've decided that we're going to go a head and find out what we're having next month.

Now onto the real dirt I went back to work last night and found out why Nurse Nasty was fired and I'm now certain that my being male had something to do with her hatred of me. A female patient came into the ER to be treated for a broken wrist due to a fall, Nurse Nasty then proceeded to make accusing remarks against the patients boyfriend. Kicker is the patient's boyfriend was the nephew of one our doctors, and said doctor and his nephew didn't take too kindly to her remarks. So being as she already had my complaint on file the second complaint was enough to get her fired on the spot. I really feel sorry for the next hospital that takes her on, now a part of me doesn't wonder if she already had a history of this type of behavior on the job. However it is no longer my problem and my coworkers have now seemed to make it a running joke. At least with our sick senses of humor we can laugh about it. Once again Thank you all.

Specializes in Emergency Medicine, Dr. Office, Psych.
I promised I'd come back and give you guys yet another update. And while I still don't know why Nurse Nasty got fired, if I find that out I'll let you know. My girlfriend is now my fiancee. She said yes. I proposed last night. She almost threw a monkey wrench in my plan by leaving early to try and surprise me. But her best friend tipped me off. She pulled up at my house around 2am and I met her in the driveway (where I'd been standing freezing to death for half an hour) with 'Teri will you marry me?' blinking in Christmas lights on the roof (not as easy task thank it took two hours to do in the Lexington cold Thank God for good friends to help out). It didn't really register to her until she got out on the car and I got down on one knee in the driveway. But there were happy tears involved and she said yes which is the most important part. I couldn't be happier. Now I have the rest of the weekend with her before she leaves and I have to go back to work.

CONGRATS!!!! WHAT A GREAT WAY TO POP THE QUESTION!!! :yeah:

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