"ASKholes"

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In light of a couple of recent threads where someone has asked a question or asked if their opinion might be wrong - only to return with ugly responses to well- intentioned advice or experience - I did some research into the question why do people ask for advice they have no intention of following. What I discovered was a new term called Askholes.

In essence when someone asks for advice/opinions from others they are doing one of three things. !: they are genuinely seeking input, advice or an objective opinion. 2. They are looking for approval for a course of action they have already embarked on. 3. They are seeking validation for an opinion they have that they have no intention of changing.

In the millennial age where feelings are more important than facts and opinions are always right if they make the person who has them happy we see way to much of this.

When someone asks "Am I wrong? when they clearly think they are right and have no intention of hearing out responses I believe all answers should be qualified with the proviso: "Do you really want an answer?"

I am a person of strong conviction and opinion - and yet I have often times learned a lot from people when I ask for an opinion/advice and am open to all answers.

So I guess what I am saying is don't ask if you don't want answers.

Hppy

Specializes in Pediatrics Retired.
3 minutes ago, Wuzzie said:

Regarding TP. Does anybody else go through it so fast they don't even bother putting it in the holder???

My Sweet Petunia bought what I refer to as a shotgun toilet paper device; you have one roll on the dispenser and it holds 3 rolls in the magazine ready to reload.

Specializes in Med-surg, school nursing..
5 minutes ago, Wuzzie said:

Regarding TP. Does anybody else go through it so fast they don't even bother putting it in the holder???

Yup. I just stack it on the empty holder. Drives my husband crazy! I'm like "I'll just have to change it in a day anyway!!!"

Hubs has IBS and I just like a clean tushy. (TMI, I don't care ?‍♀️)

6 minutes ago, OyWithThePoodles said:

Yup. I just stack it on the empty holder. Drives my husband crazy! I'm like "I'll just have to change it in a day anyway!!!"

Hubs has IBS and I just like a clean tushy. (TMI, I don't care ?‍♀️)

We found in my house if we have one of the toilet paper holders where the roll slides on, rather than dealing with the spring-loaded bar, it actually ends up on the holder. I highly recommend it!

Also, I once bought 1-ply toilet paper and my husband banned me from toilet paper shopping. ?‍♀️

Specializes in Med-surg, school nursing..
Just now, BiscuitRN said:

We found in my house if we have one of the toilet paper holders where the roll slides on, rather than dealing with the spring-loaded bar, it actually ends up on the holder. I highly recommend it!

Also, I once bought 1-ply toilet paper and my husband banned me from toilet paper shopping. ?‍♀️

This is a great idea, except I just built a house and those stupid toilet paper holders were $54 a piece!!! And they are super hard to get off the thing because they are new. That and I'm lazy.

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
33 minutes ago, Wuzzie said:

Regarding TP. Does anybody else go through it so fast they don't even bother putting it in the holder???

That's why I buy the extra big 4X rolls. I still put it on the roller because if I don't, it falls in the sink. Or the tub.

Specializes in school nurse.
24 minutes ago, Ruby Vee said:

That's why I buy the extra big 4X rolls. I still put it on the roller because if I don't, it falls in the sink. Or the tub.

Has any initial post been more thoroughly hijacked than this thread...? ?

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.

Yes -- this one is only 3 pages long so far. We've got LOTS longer ones!

Specializes in ICU.
6 minutes ago, Jedrnurse said:

Has any initial post been more thoroughly hijacked than this thread...? ?

Lol, sorry, I think I opened this can of worms (or bag of toilet paper..) ?

Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.
1 hour ago, Wuzzie said:

Regarding TP. Does anybody else go through it so fast they don't even bother putting it in the holder???

Not that I go through it that fast but rather that I buy the mega rolls and they can’t fit in the holder ??‍♀️??‍♀️

Specializes in Med/Surg.

Back in my day, I walked 3 miles to school in the snow, barefoot, uphill. Both ways.

Specializes in Pediatrics Retired.
10 minutes ago, ThatChickOmi said:

Back in my day, I walked 3 miles to school in the snow, barefoot, uphill. Both ways.

Yea, yea...we all did that...whatever...but more importantly, do you keep you toilet paper holder properly stocked? ?️☃️...?

Specializes in Pediatrics Retired.
1 hour ago, Jedrnurse said:

Has any initial post been more thoroughly hijacked than this thread...? ?

I guess you could say it kinda went down the toilet...that's ok, hppy still loves us ❤️

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