People think you are rich because you are a nurse

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First I had to loan my in-laws 1500.00 to keep the bank from foreclosing on their home (never got it back). Then 2 other people borrowed 20.00 and never paid me back. Now I have this so-called "friend" who calls me about 2-3 times per month to borrow money. She has 5 kids and uses the line "the baby needs milk" or "we have no food". Now, neither work and they draw checks, foodstamps, plus the kids draw checks as well, they get assistance with utilities, and free medical care and free medicines. I used to loan them money, never to get it back. I felt sorry for them. Well, I wont loan them money anymore, but they still try it constantly. She called me 4 times today WHILE I WAS WORKING...hinting for money. I work all day 5 days a week while they lay on their butts all day and do nothing (there is more physically wrong with me than either of them). Im working, they can too. But they honestly think Im rich because Im a nurse and I can just shell out money at a moment's notice. Do any of you experience this with people? I get tired of watching lazy people (not the people who actually need help) get so much help and still expect more from people who WORK. Im tired of lines like "you are a nurse and make the big bucks", etc. grrrrrrrrr.

And yes, the doors to "chenoaspirit national bank" are now closed. lol, but I just find it so frustrating. I will no longer allow anyone to make me feel sorry for them. I feel bad when I say no, but dang.

"People think you are rich because you are a nurse"

LOL... maybe in the 'old days'!? Wha? Ha ha :) Nursing used to be a stable job... Now, it's more like -- Just be thankful, YOU HAVE A JOB! :clown: What are people thinking?

This thread reminds me to send my mom to a cruise someday (with shopping money), I've owed her enough. Yes, I intend to pay her back.

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Phone should be off when one is at work anyway.

At least on vibrate. My phone is on, but all sounds are off.

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Every one of you are right and I appreciate your responses. I did call the cellphone carrier and they told me that I can not block certain numbers, but thats been a while back. I'll call them tomorrow and check on it again. I did once buy groceries and take it to them, they didnt even meet me at the door to get them. The kids got them. I didnt even get a thank you.

I got another phonecall today from them and I did tell them no. Deep down, it made me feel bad. I dont know why, I mean, it angers me, but at the same time I have a hard time saying "no". But I have a feeling it will get easier and easier to say. :) There are SO MANY people around me who owe me money. One girl, I gave in to her sob story and found out later she used the money for drugs and is now in jail. I'll never get my money back from her, I just count that as a loss.

And yes, these people are MORE than able to work. Nothing at all wrong with them. THAT's what makes me MAD!!! I bust my hump all day and they dont even get out of bed til noon.

You know their number. Don't answer if you don't want to talk. Eventually they'll get the point.

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Home Health.

I agree! She called me again today asking for 220.00 to pay her electric bill. I was in a staff meeting when she called. I had just got a dirty needle stick and really didnt care what she needed/wanted at that moment. she didnt care that I had just been exposed to possible HIV or Hep, all she wanted was money. She even had the gall to ask me for my credit card when I told her I didnt have it to give to her. She even asked me if I would post date a check! Im LIVID. Someone told me how to request the service to block numbers and Im calling tomorrow to get it.

I called her once I got home and told her that I dont appreciate her calling me and asking me for loans, that if she wanted to remain friends then stop asking. So I am figuring I may not hear from her again. Which is fine! lol

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Specializes in ICU.
A cell phone is a luxury. Heck, a phone is a luxury.... if it comes down to the choice between a phone and food for the kids, I know which I would go with.

A home phone is a necessity for a few reasons, chiefly among them as a means to call for emergency assistance in the event of accident, fire, or injury.

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Specializes in Family Nurse Practitioner.
A home phone is a necessity for a few reasons, chiefly among them as a means to call for emergency assistance in the event of accident, fire, or injury.

Sorry but I think it is only a necessity if you can afford to pay the bill.

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Specializes in Peri-Op.

cut them off like a black crunchy toe..... dont look back. you need to leave the bottom feeders on the bottom. float up to the top and dont let them drag you down.

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Specializes in ICU.
Sorry but I think it is only a necessity if you can afford to pay the bill.

Most basic home telephone plans are affordable to most people. For those cannot afford one, there is assistance available. I'm not talking about cell phones here. I'm not talking about 3 way calling, caller ID, and call waiting. I'm talking about a land line from which someone can phone 911 in case their kid is choking.

To say it is strictly a luxury is a bit off the mark in my opinion. It is a necessity, whether or not someone can afford it.

If you're wanting to go so far as to say that people who can't afford a $9/month phone bill should not have the luxury of being able to get emergency medical assistance for a dying child (just as one example), then that's a whole different conversation. However, on that note, not all people who are unable to afford a $9/month phone bill are morally defunct freeloaders as the OP of this thread describes.

That's a pretty broad stroke to paint.

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Specializes in ICU/Critical Care.
I agree! She called me again today asking for 220.00 to pay her electric bill. I was in a staff meeting when she called. I had just got a dirty needle stick and really didnt care what she needed/wanted at that moment. she didnt care that I had just been exposed to possible HIV or Hep, all she wanted was money. She even had the gall to ask me for my credit card when I told her I didnt have it to give to her. She even asked me if I would post date a check! Im LIVID. Someone told me how to request the service to block numbers and Im calling tomorrow to get it.

I called her once I got home and told her that I dont appreciate her calling me and asking me for loans, that if she wanted to remain friends then stop asking. So I am figuring I may not hear from her again. Which is fine! lol

What did she say in return?

I cut my so-called friend off completely, took her off my facebook, blocked her phone calls but she only ever texted me so I can't block them. She even requested to be my friend again on FB and I ignored it.

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When I worked the floor, I did have to turn it off because of them. It was stressful because that was how my daughter got hold of me when something was wrong. So it was frustrating knowing that my daughter couldnt get hold of me because of them. So then I just pushed the "ignore" button, but then they would show up at my WORK!

Wow, what you said about their feelings of entitlement to your attention and money was bad enough... but coming to your workplace? Especially when your workplace is a hospital floor? That crosses a whole new line.

It this has happened more than once - or if you're not sure they got the message the first time that this was unacceptable - I would seriously consider talking to your hospital's security. Tell them that you're being harassed and that they should keep an eye out for these individuals and prevent them from entering the hospital. After all, security would take an interest if you had a creepy ex-boyfriend who was repeatedly calling you when you told him not to, and showing up at your work if you don't answer. Why should it be any different with leechy friends?

Edit: I reread your post and see that you're now in home care, so maybe you have no security to inform. However, I still encourage you to consider that this behaviour (repeated unwelcome calls, and especially showing up at your job) could be construed as stalking .... and if it were your ex-boyfriend doing it, I think almost anybody would call it stalking. If they didn't get the message when you told them recently to knock it off, I don't think it would be out of order for you to bring this up with the police.

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Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics.

I'm not even a nurse yet but I get the comments all the time about how I will be swimming in money once I am done. I just roll my eyes. My husband makes more than I will ever make as a nurse and so people will comment about when I have an income too. But he is self employed and you have a lot of added expenses with that.

People also just assume if you have a nice car or something you must have a lot of money. I have a nice looking car, it's an 02 and while yes it does look really nice on the outside and people think it's much newer than it is, it's not, it has a lot of miles, the inside shows plenty of wear and tear, but we needed a bigger vehicle and we saved up and paid cash for it. My husband got an awesome deal on it in Cali because a lot of people owned them for "show" and when the economy tanked people were trying to get rid of their big SUV's so we snagged it for a great price and living where I live it's a lot more practical in the winter.

But in school the first time I offered to car pool and we walked to my car I had one girl start making the comments about how much money we must have.

Hardly, I always joke that we are the richest poor folks I know. We always had a lot more extra money when we were living off of 450 dollars a week 11 years ago.

I am the type that would help if I could and I have a hard time saying no. But people are so quick to take advantage it's sad. I recently loaned out a vehicle we have to my sons friends mom to help them out. I wasn't getting the pay I was promised and after a month got the car back but I tried so hard to be really nice about it and when I mentioned the payment I was supposed to get I could tell in her reply it would get dragged out so we finally just said to make trade, she was trying to get a spa going and so I will get services to work off the payment.

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When I first started school a person in my class asked me (not very nicely either) where all my money came from. She was in my study group and couldn't fathom how I can afford a 4 bedroom house in a nice part of town, being a single mom with no child support, having a nice car and not having to work while in school. I just looked at her like, did you seriously just ask me that? The nerve of some people!!!

Now, everytime money conversation comes up, I will either leave or change the subject. She once stated that she paid $1500/month on cell phone bills for her, her husband and three teenagers. Um, yeah, that's more than my mortgage payment!!!

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