People think you are rich because you are a nurse

[chenoaspirit]

First I had to loan my in-laws 1500.00 to keep the bank from foreclosing on their home (never got it back). Then 2 other people borrowed 20.00 and never paid me back. Now I have this so-called "friend" who calls me about 2-3 times per month to borrow money. She has 5 kids and uses the line "the baby needs milk" or "we have no food". Now, neither work and they draw checks, foodstamps, plus the kids draw checks as well, they get assistance with utilities, and free medical care and free medicines. I used to loan them money, never to get it back. I felt sorry for them. Well, I wont loan them money anymore, but they still try it constantly. She called me 4 times today WHILE I WAS WORKING...hinting for money. I work all day 5 days a week while they lay on their butts all day and do nothing (there is more physically wrong with me than either of them). Im working, they can too. But they honestly think Im rich because Im a nurse and I can just shell out money at a moment's notice. Do any of you experience this with people? I get tired of watching lazy people (not the people who actually need help) get so much help and still expect more from people who WORK. Im tired of lines like "you are a nurse and make the big bucks", etc. grrrrrrrrr.

And yes, the doors to "chenoaspirit national bank" are now closed. lol, but I just find it so frustrating. I will no longer allow anyone to make me feel sorry for them. I feel bad when I say no, but dang.

[~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN]

When I first started school a person in my class asked me (not very nicely either) where all my money came from. She was in my study group and couldn't fathom how I can afford a 4 bedroom house in a nice part of town, being a single mom with no child support, having a nice car and not having to work while in school. I just looked at her like, did you seriously just ask me that? The nerve of some people!!!

Now, everytime money conversation comes up, I will either leave or change the subject. She once stated that she paid $1500/month on cell phone bills for her, her husband and three teenagers. Um, yeah, that's more than my mortgage payment!!!

Yeah the funny thing about the girl that made the snarky comment about my car, she is mid 30's, went to a very good 4 year engineering school that her parents paid for, she lived in the same part of town as I do but her house was in an even more expensive sub division that they own. We rent, we sold our house in WA and secured a house to rent here before our house sold. We live in such a good spot that it makes no sense to move until I am done with school, anyway, so now she is in nursing school because she decided she didn't want to be an engineer which is all fine, until one day she was complaining about her parents telling her they might not be able to pay for her last semester of school. My jaw dropped, I mean really? Your parents are paying for this also!!!! She failed out and is currently trying to get back in. But after hearing that and seeing where she lived I could not believe she was making comments about how much money I must have because of my car and where my daughter was going to school. (which student loans were paying for and I rather spend an extra 50 a week to ensure my daughter is in a good safe daycare that I feel good about)

Some people just seemed to have not been built with the part of the brain that controls tact :|

[Pongoo]

I had to this this to so called friends when I was younger. I learned the lesson then, I will give you $20.00. Don't want it back. If they ask again I may give to again. Next time I tell them how it is. If they won't help themselvs, then I won't help them. I had a fulltime job and a part time job once. They can do that as well or learn to live in your means.

[~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN]

The post dated check can be a good thing but it can also come back to bite you in the rear. My Bio mother was a con and queen of bad checks. She would send checks for a birthday and I would call the bank and see if funds were in to cover it and go to her bank to cash if they were. I have had a couple times where I deposited a check, paid bills or what not, 1 week later I am overdrawn and bounced my own checks (back when I used to write checks before you could use cards for everything) and was getting a gazillion fees because the persons checks bounced.

[Jules A, MSN]

Most basic home telephone plans are affordable to most people. For those cannot afford one, there is assistance available. I'm not talking about cell phones here. I'm not talking about 3 way calling, caller ID, and call waiting. I'm talking about a land line from which someone can phone 911 in case their kid is choking.

To say it is strictly a luxury is a bit off the mark in my opinion. It is a necessity, whether or not someone can afford it.

If you're wanting to go so far as to say that people who can't afford a $9/month phone bill should not have the luxury of being able to get emergency medical assistance for a dying child (just as one example), then that's a whole different conversation. However, on that note, not all people who are unable to afford a $9/month phone bill are morally defunct freeloaders as the OP of this thread describes.

That's a pretty broad stroke to paint.

Talk about painting broad strokes. Don't recall saying I'm in favor of dying children but fwiw for years many people lived without a phone and none of their children choked to death without assistance. BTW where is that $9 a month phone service? I'd like that myself around here $35 a month is the cheapest service.

[metal_m0nk, BSN, RN]

Talk about painting broad strokes. Don't recall saying I'm in favor of dying children but fwiw for years many people lived without a phone and none of their children choked to death without assistance.

Just trying to identify the rationale for your statement that a home phone is only a necessity for those who can afford it, taking into consideration that it was your direct response to the notion that a home phone might be necessary for calling for assistance in the event of an emergency. I don't think it was an unreasonable conclusion to draw.

What did you really mean in that context?

BTW where is that $9 a month phone service? I'd like that myself around here $35 a month is the cheapest service.

Wherever CBsMommy lives:

I do have a land line that costs $9/month. No call waiting, no caller ID, just a land line.