No Good Deed Goes Unpunished - page 7

I thought those words earlier today after reading another thread that started to go sideways because some had an issue with the OP. This seems to be happening frequently; the OP will start a thread... Read More

  1. by   ßåߥ
    Would it be okay to suggest that allnurses create a designated forum category for bullying? I thought there was once one but I can't seem to find it; all of the bullying topics are in the 'General Nursing Discussion' category. It may clear the 'General Nursing Discussion' of topics that some get tired of seeing day-to-day when browsing the most popular category on allnurses.

    Edit: Maybe the category can encompass all relation problems in the workplace.

    Edit (3rd times a charm): I do see Nurse Colleague/Patient Relations but many of the topics dealing with bullying are often not moved to this one.

    I don't know, just a suggestion.
  2. by   traumaRUs
    Colleague and Patient Relations

    Nurse Colleague / Patient Relations
  3. by   Been there,done that
    Quote from la_chica_suerte85
    I think the general idea is that, since this is a site devoted to the most trusted profession (and, emphasis on the "profession"), the discourse would be elevated beyond what is typical of "teh innerwebz." But, no, like the above post stated, it's still the internet. People go bonkers sometimes beyond reason.
    Agreed!

    Now stop sticking your tongue out at me.
  4. by   Lev <3
    I think members of AN have to put their preconceived notions of nurses or students in certain generations aside. Don't make such a big deal about generational differences. There is something to learn from everyone. Also, NOONE should be ridiculed for feeling or thinking a certain way, even if you don't agree. There is a way to respectfully disagree without making someone feel stupid or isolated or less of a person for feeling a certain way. Even if life is tough for you as a nurse and you are strong enough to put up with it, that doesn't mean someone else is able to put up with it. If they need certain basic conditions to be met in order to succeed and they manage to get it.. All the power to them. Easier said than done.
  5. by   Wheels28
    Quote from Lev <3
    I think members of AN have to put their preconceived notions of nurses or students in certain generations aside. Don't make such a big deal about generational differences. There is something to learn from everyone. Also, NOONE should be ridiculed for feeling or thinking a certain way, even if you don't agree. There is a way to respectfully disagree without making someone feel stupid or isolated or less of a person for feeling a certain way. Even if life is tough for you as a nurse and you are strong enough to put up with it, that doesn't mean someone else is able to put up with it. If they need certain basic conditions to be met in order to succeed and they manage to get it.. All the power to them. Easier said than done.
    I wish I could like this 100x. Well said.
  6. by   nursel56
    Quote from NurseQT
    I would just like to add that the snarky/snide comments suck. There is a difference between constructive criticism and plain ole criticism. I started a thread this past week and received A LOT of supportive comments as well as suggestions, I also got one where the poster told me to "grow up", and let me tell you that one comment hit me like a ton of bricks. It was completely insensitive and unnecessary. And I've seen similar comments and attacks on other threads. People don't post on here looking to be attacked and it's sad it happens.
    It does happen. It seems to happen no matter what someone writes. Sometimes I'm truly surprised at how much pretzel-twisting someone would have to do to see something negative in certain posts, but they almost always do.

    It helps to know yourself. I'm like you. I could get 50 wonderful replies and the one snarky or snide comment would hit like a ton of bricks. I don't mind that when we're talking about ideas or concepts, or book learnin' stuff. When it's personal I do. So I don't share very much personal stuff on the public boards. I like to say it's "enlightened self-interest" but even if it's just over-sensitivity I don't put myself in a position to have it happen.

    Sometimes it happens anyway because some AN members feel they can give you a personality test and a long-distance psych eval right through their keyboards!
  7. by   RNsRWe
    Quote from nursel56
    .... some AN members feel they can give you a personality test and a long-distance psych eval right through their keyboards!
    Oh, SING it! Sometimes I have to read and re-read and read yet again when someone gets bent out of shape about something I've posted (or someone else, for that matter) that isn't even CLOSE to the offense taken.

    Sometimes, I think people WANT to find an offense, as it then allows them to have an online tantrum and call it "justified".

    Cheaper than therapy, I guess.
  8. by   Muser69
    But how would anyone get to eat popcorn if everyone agreed with each other? Just asking.
  9. by   Ruby Vee
    I absolutely defend everyone's right to make the occaisional snarky, cranky post. None of us is perfect, we all make snarky posts from time to time. (Except for those of you who are perfect, and you can cast the first stone . . . er report the first post.)

    But don't make a snarky, nasty post attacking someone personally and then "report" the post where that poster snaps back. And if the moderators see fit to "moderate" a post where someone quotes a snarky comment, perhaps the original snarky comment should be "moderated" as well. And folks who gang up on other posters to pile on the personal attacks are the bullies they're always spotting coming out of the woodwork.
  10. by   LadyFree28
    Quote from Ruby Vee
    I absolutely defend everyone's right to make the occaisional snarky, cranky post. None of us is perfect, we all make snarky posts from time to time. (Except for those of you who are perfect, and you can cast the first stone . . . er report the first post.)

    But don't make a snarky, nasty post attacking someone personally and then "report" the post where that poster snaps back. And if the moderators see fit to "moderate" a post where someone quotes a snarky comment, perhaps the original snarky comment should be "moderated" as well. And folks who gang up on other posters to pile on the personal attacks are the bullies they're always spotting coming out of the woodwork.
    TRUTH.

    Missed you!!!
  11. by   BrandonLPN
    Quote from scottaprn
    The irony is rich since the entire post with this quote is written from a victim mentality.
    But Ruby wasn't the one running to the little yellow-triangle thingie when people disagreed with her.... and Lord knows plenty of posters disagreed with her. And some have been pretty rude about it, too.

    Of course, people have the right to report whoever they want to the moderators for any reason they want. That's why that button's there. It's just sad so many posters apparently do not understand the difference between a post that is truly offensive... and one they simply do not agree with.
  12. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from LadyFree28
    TRUTH.

    Missed you!!!
    Out of town for a family situation. The timing was really excellent to step away from the keyboard for awhile.
  13. by   BrandonLPN
    Quote from NurseQT
    I would just like to add that the snarky/snide comments suck.
    Oh, I don't know. Some of them are pretty funny.

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