Fran, I love you madly, but I must be reading a different board than you, or just from a different perspective. Yes, often a flame gets through, and since several other people are saying it it must be true that it's on the rise.
But why let it cause you sadness? Just the be the light that you are, continuing to shine and brighten this board. You make so many people happy and bring so much joy, don't let the negative shine too brightly my sweet friend.
This is a moderated board and they do a fairly good job.
People are people and people are mean and nasty sometimes. This hasn't changed in the entire time I've been on this board. I don't know what I'm trying to say other than negative exists, it always has and always will. But a nice reminder helps too.
Just don't be sad. Keep on keeping on being yourself.