It is With Sadness I Write This

sbic56, BSN, RN · Mar 8, 2004

Conflict is part of life. I think that conflict can foster new ideas and strengthen the ability of nurses to work together. Conflict can be valuable catalysts to change and personal development. The reason I like this board is because of the passionate and spirited debates. I see more positive, than I do negative posts. The moderators do a good job of keeping people from name calling and personally attacking others. (We also get a few crazies on this board from time to time)

While I totally understand Fran's point and agree to a degree, I believe what fiestynurse says here is also very important. I come here to see what others are thinking and often disagree, but that is OK, because everyone's opinion is of equal value here. I think it is great we have this board to express ourselves. I try to temper angry responses and when I fail, I appreciate and respect our mods' intervention. They do an awesome job in allowing this board to remain stimulating enough to hold interest without squashing indvidual opinion.

orrnlori, RN · Mar 8, 2004

I'm pretty new here but I find the civility of this board amazing. I belong to another board populated by mostly men with lots of initials behind their names. You want to talk about rude, bullying behavior. It's the Saturday night fights everyday all day.

Some disagreement is normal, we are all human, and since we are intelligent and verbal and mostly female ( :chuckle ) we will from time to time disagree and say so, albeit not always properly. There are hot spots though, like a thread that was just closed. But overall, I find this board a wonderful wonderful source of fellowship and inspiration. I popped off on another thread and then apologized. I'm not sure what this particular thread is about but I'll assume it must have been heated as well. We will all survive and continue on. Thanks to everyone who contribute and make this site a small bright spot in my day now. Best wishes to everyone. Lori

FranEMTnurse, CNA, LPN, EMT-I · Mar 8, 2004

I come here to see what others are thinking and often disagree, but that is OK, because everyone's opinion is of equal value here. I think it is great we have this board to express ourselves. I try to temper angry responses and when I fail, I appreciate and respect our mods' intervention. They do an awesome job in allowing this board to remain stimulating enough to hold interest without squashing indvidual opinion.

sbic,

Just so we come to an understanding; I have no objection whatsoever to a debate. In fact another board member who we all know very well can testify to that. She and I had differences of opinion on another website we both belong to, and both appreciated the knowledge gained from it. The key is to not attack the individual. That is what was happening here, and is the reason I wrote my message in the first place.

May we all live in peace and harmony.

Written with love,

Tweety, BSN, RN · Mar 8, 2004

The key is to not attack the individual. That is what was happening here, and is the reason I wrote my message in the first place.

Sometimes it is hard to address an opinion without bringing the individual into it.

I think also different people are of different sensibilities. Personally I haven't been bothered very much at all by the "attacking" I've seen here. In fact I haven't seen that much at all, compared to the literally hundreds of posts here. But perhaps I'm too thick skinned having spent my childhood and adolences as an outcast. :) You, being the on the sensitive side are saddened.

Maybe you should look at how you are judging the board, trying to make it something it's not, are you not subtly under the guise of "love" attacking the bb and certain people in it? This bb is not, nor ever will be, a happy loving place. Too many people from diverse background, too many hot topics to discuss.

Relax. Don't be sad.

Respectfully,

Tweety

Teacher Sue · Mar 9, 2004

As a newer member, I have been reading quite a bit, but refrained from posting too much until I get to know the people here better. I have seen some negativity here, but I have seen a great deal more kindness and support. There are negative people in our lives, here, at work, and in our social circles. We cannot change these people, only the way we react to them. If I am upset by something that is said here, Iit is my choice to respond or ignore it.

jkaee · Mar 9, 2004

Fran--

You are so right. Recently I found myself being pulled into some heated debates (just couldn't help it!!!)...thanks for the reminder to step back. And please keep up your funny and thoughtful posts...I always look for your name!

Jennifer

FranEMTnurse, CNA, LPN, EMT-I · Mar 10, 2004

Sometimes it is hard to address an opinion without bringing the individual into it.
I think also different people are of different sensibilities. Personally I haven't been bothered very much at all by the "attacking" I've seen here. In fact I haven't seen that much at all, compared to the literally hundreds of posts here. But perhaps I'm too thick skinned having spent my childhood and adolences as an outcast. :) You, being the on the sensitive side are saddened.
Maybe you should look at how you are judging the board, trying to make it something it's not, are you not subtly under the guise of "love" attacking the bb and certain people in it? This bb is not, nor ever will be, a happy loving place. Too many people from diverse background, too many hot topics to discuss.
Relax. Don't be sad.
Respectfully,
Tweety

Respectfully accepted with no attack intended in any way,