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I have been a nurse for almost 20 years, first an LPN, now an RN. I have worked in long term care for the bulk of my career with a 6 month tour in an ob/gynecology office and 3 months in acute care Cardiology. Now that I have been a nurse for so long I can't seem to keep a job for more than just a few months. This last job I was buying dressing change supplies and bread and necessary items for meals on weekends. My heart is broken because I had such close relationships with so many of my residents and I am worried about their care and basic needs. But all that aside I am a good nurse, I was taught to develop good relationships with CNA'S because they can make you or break you.

When I was terminated the boss said that maybe I was burned out from being a nurse for so long and because I care for my father in law at home. I do not feel burned out. I absolutely love what I do. When I am not nursing I am lost, but my care goes deeper than just the nurse for these folks. I visit with them, I buy things for them, I do activities with them and encourage them, on top of the nursing portion. Why do I keep getting fired? Am I burnt out and just don't feel it? How do I regain control of my career and stop losing my job? Am I the only one out there with this problem? Please help, anyone!

You'll have give us your former boss' phone number. We can ask why you got fired.

Or, call them yourself?

Davey Do specializes in Psych, CD, HH, Admin, LTC, OR, ER, Med Surge.

Why do I keep getting fired? Am I burnt out and just don't feel it? How do I regain control of my career and stop losing my job? Am I the only one out there with this problem? Please help, anyone!

Hi dburkhart.

I was confused by your post, regarding specifics, so I did a little search, attempting to find more information in which to help.

I found one other thread from last July where you spoke of being discouraged with nursing and were considering leaving the profession. Ruby Vee gave you this advice:

Querying random strangers on the Internet isn't going to solve your problems or answer your questions. If this has happened more than once to you, you probably already have the answers. You just need to do some self-reflection and figure out what the commonalities between situations could be. Not to be insulting or hurtful, but if you keep ended up being terminated, it probably isn't THEM. It's YOU. The good news is that you have the power to change that.

As Ruby Vee stated, we all have the power to change ourselves; I like to call it a change of consciousness due to illuminating revelations. It's a long rough haul, but the payoffs are priceless.

Self-examination is a good place to start, with a close friend, therapist, Emotions Anonymous, self-help books, etc.

Let us know how we can help you, and we can be stepping stones and give advice. However, we cannot be not the whole enchilada.

The very best to you, dburkhart.

If you are getting fired over and over after just a couple months, there may be a huge disconnect between how you see yourself as a nurse and how others see you. I agree with the above that some self-reflection is in order. Have you become too involved with your patients? Are you the only nurse who cares, does the "right" thing, or goes above and beyond? Do you have an identity beyond "nurse"? It sounds like you never get to take off that hat, even at home.

This last job I was buying dressing change supplies and bread and necessary items for meals on weekends. My heart is broken because I had such close relationships with so many of my residents and I am worried about their care and basic needs!

Is this normal in home health care?!

By you buying supplies and food, there are definite boundary issues. You are enabling the clients, instead of directing them to appropriate resources. You're instilling too high of expectations and contributing to a sense of entitlement.

You're also making your colleagues look bad if they don't do the same.

Pepper The Cat specializes in Gerontology.

I agree with Emergent.

Boundary issues was first thought too. While we all want what's best for our pts, buying them food is too much.

Ruby Vee specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.

If you are getting fired over and over after just a couple months, there may be a huge disconnect between how you see yourself as a nurse and how others see you. I agree with the above that some self-reflection is in order. Have you become too involved with your patients? Are you the only nurse who cares, does the "right" thing, or goes above and beyond? Do you have an identity beyond "nurse"? It sounds like you never get to take off that hat, even at home.

I think my previous advice is still valid, and would encourage the OP to spend some time in self-reflection now. Reading this new post, I suspect that you are having issues setting appropriate boundaries with your patients. Not only are you too involved, but you are making your colleagues, who have more appropriate boundaries, look bad.

Perhaps some counseling would help you with the self reflection process and encourage you to develop boundaries. There may be some counseling available on a sliding scale fee through Catholic Family Services, Lutheran Family Services or through some other faith based ministry. Others may have more helpful suggestions for finding counseling in your area. Please take the time and make the effort to figure out where your sabatoging yourself at work NOW, before it gets any worse and before you have burned through all of the employers in your area. YOU are worth spending the time and the money to figure this out.

JustBeachyNurse specializes in Complex pediatrics turned LTC/subacute geriatrics.

Is this normal in home health care?!

No and it's strongly discouraged. Social service referrals can be made for these issues

Buyer beware specializes in GENERAL.

Is this normal in home health care?!

OP:

Far be it for me to kick you when you're down, but listen to what the folks are saying here.

Like an old girlfriend of mine in high school once told me "Buyer beware, you're being too--

Clingy...Clingy...Clingy....!!!"

That was right before she dumped me. But she sure was Purdy though.

Sometimes you just gotta save yourself from yourself before someone else does it for you my colleague.

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CrunchRN specializes in Clinical Research, Outpt Women's Health.

Your heart is in the right place, but you get too involved. You need to develop healthy boundaries. I really hope you turn it around. I am rooting for you.

middleagednurse specializes in nurseline,med surg, PD.

Apparently you work long term care. Forget about buying things for people. Do you do your job properly? Are you doing what you were hired to do? Do you follow your job description? Are you following nurse practice guidelines? Are you completing everything you're supposed to complete? How is your documentation? LTCs don't hire nurses to be "nice".

In different circumstances one could quickly say that you are trying to "buy" love or acceptance. Explore this avenue with a counselor and you may be able to change at least one area of your behavior that is getting you into trouble.

TheCommuter specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.

When I was terminated the boss said that maybe I was burned out from being a nurse for so long and because I care for my father in law at home.
How does the boss know you care for your father-in-law at home?

If you divulged this information, perhaps it is time to refrain from discussing your personal home life with coworkers and management until you have built a solid rapport with them.

Sharing aspects of your personal life too early in the coworker relationship is known as oversharing, a.k.a. boundaryless sharing. Coworkers who do not really know you all that well can and will use anything you say against you, as evidenced by your former boss mentioning your home caregiving duties with your father-in-law at the same time your employment was being terminated.

Loose lips sink ships. Learn to be tight-lipped. Good luck to you.

BSNbeDONE specializes in Med/Surg, LTACH, LTC, Home Health.

What area of nursing have you been employed in as an RN? Did you have these same issues when you were an LPN? The reason I ask is that it is possible that even though you're an RN, you might be still practicing with an LPN train-of-thought. As a former longtime (24 years) LPN myself, I once believed that I was doing the exact same job in acute care as an RN. But there was a difference, especially in the area of documentation...specifically the care plans (creating, revising, resolving). There were other 'tasks', too, that I completed on a regular basis that LPNs were not allowed to do, which made the difference.

i used to ask myself why did becoming an RN seem to slow my pace. Why couldn't I complete the same job now in the same timeframe as before? Self-reflection revealed that my pace had not slowed; the workload/job responsibility had actually increased. I was fulfilling the duties of the job, not realizing the additional responsibilities and tasks I'd been completing...until I did the self-reflection. It really was not 'totally' the same job.

I say all that to say this. The repeated terminations may be a result of continued performance on an LPN level, meaning that you've yet to demonstrate the professional performance that is expected of an RN. All the things that you described were nice 'touches'. But where did that leave your RN responsibilities? The things you described (a lot of them) does/did not require an RN to do.

In my experience, it is rare that licensed nurses have the time to do what you described above. In fact, the only time I have ever had the time to "visit with the patients" is when I was doing in-home, 8-hour shift assignments in home health as an LPN. No choice but to visit with that.

If these terminations were happening during your LPN years as well, then it is possible that you subconsciously resent the responsibilities that nurses (LPNs and RNs) have, and just really enjoy the practical aspect of simply being a caregiver. We all have those moments. I would love to go in to work tonight and be asked to take on the role of the tech....would love it!!! Has it ever happened to me? No!! I've had to be the tech, nurse, housekeeper, waitress...all on the same shift. Pleeeeease don't get me started!!

Just something to think about.....since you did ask.

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