Yep. Nurses do "eat their young"

cardiacfreak, ADN · Sep 7, 2016

I wont worry about my "patients disrespecting" me . They're not there to respect anyone. They're in distress, and I wouldn't expect or demand that from them.
Now, nurses who should be our mentors should mentor" us instead of telling us how "little we know" and that "respect is earned".
PS: If you have a problem with what they say, address their threads. It's all out in the open.
Are you saying they will behave differently to GNs on a hospital floor?

Patients will disrespect you and depending on where you work you should worry. A lot of nurses have been accosted by patients. But that's a whole different subject in itself.

Not all mentors are bad and disrespectful. Most mentors are on your side and will effectively teach you what you need to know and guide you on your journey. Yes, of course there are some who shouldn't be mentoring, but I believe those are few and far between. Have you heard the saying,"A few rotten apples spoil the bunch?"

If you show up eager to learn, with a learning attitude, you will be fine. Nursing has very stressful moments and yes, I'm sure someone will snap at you in the heat of the moment, but don't take offense to that. It is life and death business out there and sometimes niceties go out the window.

If you are anticipating hospital orientation to be like clinicals you are very wrong.

loriangel14, RN · Sep 7, 2016

I think it's a matter of attitude and perception. I never felt as a new grad that I was "eaten" by anyone. There are good work environments and bad. My floor is very welcoming and supportive of new grads.

Conqueror+, BSN, RN · Sep 7, 2016

There is a difference between wanting to be respected and wanting to be treated the SAME as a trusted veteran. You know, everyone gets the same size trophy?

heron, ASN, RN · Sep 7, 2016

No it is not. It's a real situation. Why would mods close the topic?? Because you don't like it?
I want to feel respected and guided as a new GN, not told I know nothing, and shouldn't participate in certain topics , even though I've spent months hands on in clinicals and practicum

What you carefully don't mention is is whether you have any respect for nurses who have spent years hands on in real life.

It's also real hard to offer guidance if I'm not allowed to mention that you might need to know something you haven't learned yet.

You provide only one side of the story and not much of that besides overly broad generalizations about your colleagues. It may well be that you work on a toxic unit and older staff really do target the kids - there's really no way for us to tell on an anonymous forum.

Tell me, do you make any attempt to treat your co-workers with the same forebearance, kindness and tact that you demand that they give to you?

roser13, ASN, RN · Sep 7, 2016

Gonna quote myself from the vent thread.

Those who choose to see negativity will see it.

Those who come here expecting NETY will find NETY.

Those who set out criteria ("I've failed NCLEX 7 times - HELP meeeeeeee pass #8. BUT only positive comments allowed!!!!") for responders will never be happy with their responses because no one gets to dictate to the internet.

Those who have been raised in an "everyone gets a trophy" atmosphere will not likely understand constructive criticism, but will instead call it negativity.

klone, MSN, RN · Sep 7, 2016

People usually find what they are looking for whether it is good or bad.

This is a great life truth that I think bears repeating.

Meeshie · Sep 7, 2016

I want to feel respected and guided as a new GN, not told I know nothing, and shouldn't participate in certain topics , even though I've spent months hands on in clinicals and practicum

Wait... is all this about someone on the internet being mean to you?

NursesRmofun, ASN, RN · Sep 7, 2016

Although we can find some humor in it, I think the constructive part is that "respect is earned is" stupid. We have the term in bold letters somewhere on our unit. No....everyone deserves some respect because we don't know what other people have been through.

I, myself, went through toughs times (get the violin) in my RN program because one of my main instructors was loony. No kidding. Needing help. Not a matter of opinion. That added additional stress to an already tough program. I had to impress and get by (pass) a loony woman.

All GN's should get some respect. I was lucky,....when I was a new nurse LPN, I worked with some great RN's that had been RN's a long time and were willing and pleasant about teaching. Thank God for them! But it was never a question of respect. I respected *them for *their knowledge! Then I graduated as an RN. There was still much to learn and I went back to the same hospital where I started out as a LPN. It was a little tougher adjustment because I was older, had more total responsibility, and more diverse patients. I got respect.

Maybe as a GN you do have to earn some respect by showing your skills and critical thinking. But it should never be a NETY situation, in all seriousness. The GN needs to listen and learn and then respect is automatic.

That said....where are the fava beans! Kidding!

AutumnApple · Sep 7, 2016

For me, the debate about whether respect is a given (a human right) or earned is a fruitless following. Semantics make constructive discussion on the topic almost impossible.

What I mean by respect is very likely nothing like what someone else means by it.......so on.......so forth.

To take it a step further, often I think we truly are not talking about respect at all anyway. Too many times people are wanting to be well liked, but they call it being respected because it sounds more ........welll......it sounds more respectable. No one is going to admit their frustration has to do with popularity so they infuse the term respect into it.

While many TCs won't say "No one seems to like me and I want it to stop", it's obvious from the start with many of them that is their complaint. It has nothing to do with respect.

I said it before, I will say it again: Not being well liked and not being popular ARE NOT being bullied or disrespected.

NursesRmofun, ASN, RN · Sep 7, 2016

For me, the debate about whether respect is a given (a human right) or earned is a fruitless following. Semantics make constructive discussion on the topic almost impossible.
What I mean by respect is very likely nothing like what someone else means by it.......so on.......so forth.
To take it a step further, often I think we truly are not talking about respect at all anyway. Too many times people are wanting to be well liked, but they call it being respected because it sounds more ........welll......it sounds more respectable. No one is going to admit their frustration has to do with popularity so they infuse the term respect into it.
While many TCs won't say "No one seems to like me and I want it to stop", it's obvious from the start with many of them that is their complaint. It has nothing to do with respect.
I said it before, I will say it again: Not being well liked and not being popular ARE NOT being bullied or disrespected.

You are right! There are different versions of respect and different takes on it. I view respect in the sense of not getting any because of NETY to be/mean that the person is disrespected or "not respected" for not having experience or for lacking some knowledge and skills. Maybe talked down to. Maybe even berated. That's how I take disrespect or lack of respect on the topic of NETY. In my opinion, you can naturally earn respect as a new GN by asking questions, listening, and learning. If a GN did something other than that, maybe some disrespect would come with that.

Columnist · Sep 7, 2016

Several off-topic posts have been removed.

Many of you mention respect. How about showing some respect to the OP. I don't believe the OP intended for this to be a humorous thread.

Farawyn · Sep 7, 2016

There is a difference between wanting to be respected and wanting to be treated the SAME as a trusted veteran. You know, everyone gets the same size trophy?

Just quoting this because, well, yea.