Would you marry a Doctor?

[fleurafor]

Im new to this site and have been looking around. I was pretty shocked to read so many nurses saying they would never with a capital N, marry a DR? Are you kidding me? I would love nothing more to fall in love with and marry an intelligent, powerful, rich man who I have something in common with (healthcare). In fact, that would be like a dream come true for me. I dont get it???

[lsk40]

TonieRN you were not looking for a doctor it just happened this woman is hunting for one so yeah her life with a doctor might be hard because its not for love

[kakamegamama]

If we were both single and had common interests and respect for each other as a person and he asked me out--sure. But, to go hunting for one just seems to play into the stereotype many in nursing fight against.

[netglow, ASN, RN]

Oh Gawd, the OP reminds me of one of these girls (albeit she's a little too old).

I remember seeing this commercial when I was a little girl. I remember sitting in my pink pajamas and slippers on the carpet in the family room with my sisters watching TV one evening. We were having our hair done by our neighbor babysitter who was going to school to be a hairstylist. :)

[metal_m0nk, BSN, RN]

Would you marry a Doctor?

No, I would not.

[ssloan44706]

fluuraflor I may be jaded . . . but . . . in my experience there is NO way I would EVER want to be involved with a doctor! Do you currently work as a nurse? If so, I'm wondering if your docs are better than ours. I have been in the OR and heard docs inappropriately discussing the anatomy of patinet's (both male and female), I have done rounds with docs and seen how they treat their patient (not always well), I have also seen many docs marriages crumble. Cheating, on-call demands, as well as regular time spent at work have often been cited as contributors. I have found A LOT of docs DO have the God complex. They are big boys with responsibility and let it go to their heads. NO WAY!

[DoGoodThenGo]

Advice given ages ago by a wise older woman:

"You'll never know where he is, or how much money he has".

Applies to men in quite a few professions/careers. Just a bit of advice, do with it what you wish.

[eCCU]

:uhoh3:

All that Nursing sch education to waste on looking for a Doc? Just look for a corporate exec or internet millionare! LOL:smokin::smokin:

[JRN72]

Yes, if he was the right person, I'd forgive him for being a doc, lol. My only "requirement" regarding employment is that there IS employment, lol! Having been married to someone who decided, the minute we were married, that he no longer really needed to have a job, this is important to me. However, I'm not *looking for* a doc, I'm just looking for someone who has a brain, makes me feel comfortable, safe, valued, etc. Who knows what package that may come in, regarding career choice.

Regarding money and marriage, if I ever hear another man say, "All we neeeeed is looooove", I will be sure to run far, far away. I earn my money and support myself, and I expect a man to be able to do the same, and it's hard to be in "love" when someone is running you into the poorhouse.

Regarding emotion, if I ever hear another man say, "But i neeeeed yoouuuu", I will also run far far away. I want to be with someone because I want to be, not because I *need* to be (emotionally and financially), and I want someone who is with me because they want to be, not because they *need* to be (emotionally and financially).

I see enough people married to docs who are happy, some who are not, some who have ended it (including docs who were married to other docs). The same as I see in every other profession.

Which reminds me, though, of a girl I was in nursing school with. We were hanging in L&D, and some male resident came through...her response when he left- "Cute, no ring..." as well as some other assessements. I just though, you gotta be kidding me...I would never ever look for one specifically, I know that.

[shoegalRN, RN]

I am dating one now. We do NOT work at the same hospital.

I was not looking for him. He found me. We met online out of all places.

It's different. We don't get to spend alot of time together because of our hectic work schedules. But when we do, our cell phones are turned off and it's all about each other.

Don't know how far this will go, but it's good for right now.

[nursel56]

I see so much stereotyping going on! Maybe I am biased because most of the doctors I worked with were interns/residents and hadn't had enough time to develop into obnoxious *-*****s at that point? I felt I could tell right then whether or not that individual was someone I would want to take care of me and my family at some point in time. There were a good share of spoiled skirt-chasers related to the Family That Gave the Big Bucks For the New -----whatever . . . but some were sweet and humble and easy to talk to as well.

Medicine isn't the only profession that requires long work hours, either. I can think of many all up and down the economic scale who fit into that category. Many times a young person who wants to succeed in whatever profession they are in will take on a second job or take classes that are time consuming.

As for the "rich" part of it. N-O. You are paid well as a doctor for sure, but the truly "rich" have usually done that by becoming a subspecialist doing a common surgery by the bucketload per day in their own office "surgical center" they invest well, they start a chain of urgent care centers or some other entrepreneurial venture. Before that can even happen their student loan debts are usually $100,000+ In the coming years doctor=rich will be becoming less and less true.

[regularRN]

I can think of a zillion professions that involve long hours and time away from home, regardless... for both males and females.

Let's turn this around, if the OP was a male, what would we have to say about him dating/marrying a female MD?

[Katie5]

Wow-I have a feeling you are a doctor chaser.

And you inferred this from her post?