Would you marry a Doctor?

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Im new to this site and have been looking around. I was pretty shocked to read so many nurses saying they would never with a capital N, marry a DR? Are you kidding me? I would love nothing more to fall in love with and marry an intelligent, powerful, rich man who I have something in common with (healthcare). In fact, that would be like a dream come true for me. I dont get it???

I don't think I'd marry a doctor. I've met some who were very nice and some who were pains in the neck -- but I don't think they're all arrogant jerks. It's just that I wouldn't want the stress of long hours and frequent nights on call. And I don't want to talk about medical/health care-related topics any more than I absolutely have to.

Anyway, this whole topic doesn't affect me much -- I married the environmental services guy! ^_^

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Don't think I would marry a doctor. I didn't become a nurse to snag a doctor. If I happen to meet one that wasn't obnoxious and generally nice then yes. Oh and his student loans were paid off.

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Specializes in Oncology/hematology.

I have to say no, because I don't think my husband would appreciate it! ;)

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Specializes in Critical Care.

They say the grass is always greener on the other side..... After being in a 4 year relationship with someone who is almost always home, I would welcome the long hours of a MD. I find myself envying my friends who have spouses who travel or have long hours.

Also, I don't think there is anything wrong with considering money or financial comfort as part of looking for a mate. I was blinded by love and let the money thing slide... big mistake. To me, there is nothing sexy about a guy who can't get approved to buy a house.

By the way, I am 30 now and I felt completely different about this at the age of 25.

I use to be a love over money person; now I am a love AND money person:D

Live & learn!

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Specializes in ortho, hospice volunteer, psych,.

Marry someone just because he's an MD? HECK no!

My family is heavily laced with MDs of various types, lots of attorneys, and some who graduated from both law school and med school. My dad was one of those.

I live on the same block as four MDs, two dentists, and two PhDs. To quote Garfield the cat, "Big fat hairy deal!" In fact, one of those PhDs is upstairs right now cleaning cat litter pans! Don't get hung up by a bunch

of initials after someone's name.

If I had fallen in love with an MD before I married my husband, maybe. But NOT because he was a MD. Because I loved him and we were planning a future together. Our 26th anniversary is less than three weeks away and I feel that same internal rush I felt then, whenever he walks through the door or when I hear his voice.

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Your husband is RARE! I was involved with an orthopedic surgeon for five years. I'm a very well established executive with a prominent leadership position at a technology firm. I found out just prior to marrying the louse that he was cheating on me with a gold digging nurse who was married and having an extramarital affair with my boyfriend. This lowlife had the nerve to call me and tell me she had been cheating on her husband with my boyfriend and that now that she left her husband, they were going to be married. That woman was nothing but an opportunistic gold digger and I am sure your husband has come across hussies like that in the workplace.

Fortunately, I know several respectable RNs and doctors so I can recognize this as nothing more than one sleazebag and a gold digging hussy. I attack the individual, not the profession because the truth is, there are bad apples in every field.

I've since moved on with someone who ironically, is an executive in my industry. But shortly after that awful mess, I vowed never to get involved with a doctor after all of the nonsense he and she put me through. I guess at this point I just hope the Karma bus cruises down their street twice and flattens them both good!

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Specializes in SICU/CVICU.
Your husband is RARE! I was involved with an orthopedic surgeon for five years. I'm a very well established executive with a prominent leadership position at a technology firm. I found out just prior to marrying the louse that he was cheating on me with a gold digging nurse who was married and having an extramarital affair with my boyfriend. This lowlife had the nerve to call me and tell me she had been cheating on her husband with my boyfriend and that now that she left her husband, they were going to be married. That woman was nothing but an opportunistic gold digger and I am sure your husband has come across hussies like that in the workplace.

Fortunately, I know several respectable RNs and doctors so I can recognize this as nothing more than one sleazebag and a gold digging hussy. I attack the individual, not the profession because the truth is, there are bad apples in every field.

I've since moved on with someone who ironically, is an executive in my industry. But shortly after that awful mess, I vowed never to get involved with a doctor after all of the nonsense he and she put me through. I guess at this point I just hope the Karma bus cruises down their street twice and flattens them both good!

Why don't you tell us how you really feel about this. You seem way too upset to have truly moved on.

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This is a very interesting thread. I almost married an orthopedic surgeon. We were together for 5 years, were living together and were practically engaged. He had an extramarital affair with a nurse that he worked with. This gold digging hussy was married and had a young child. When she left her husband, he left me for her. I was reeling and stunned when this happened. Guess what so many of his doctor and nurse friends that were part of our circle of friends told me? "This is more common than you think in our profession." I had no idea. I work in a completely different industry as a communications executive for a multi-billion dollar technology company.

Within months, while the ink was not even dry on her divorce papers, this gold digging hussy was already expecting my ex-boyfriend/almost fiancee's child. A few years have passed, she finally divorced the first husband. They are married and she has had another baby. Well...guess who the sleazebag is cheating on and has served with divorce papers? You guessed it, HER. Doesn't really surprise me because if you think about it, if he cheats with you, he cheats on you.

Now I know that every profession has bad apples and stereotypes so I don't think this of all nurses and doctors. I will likely never have kind words for either her or him. Who do I feel sad for in this mess? The kids. The poor daughter from the first marriage is not even 7 and she must be confused as all get out seeing mommy's latest conquest leave them. And that's not to mention the boys from the second marriage. Two families broken apart because two people can't honor their vows. That's what's sad.

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I wouldn't. I dated a med resident and he drove me nuts. Granted we were from different cultures, but I think the idea of dating a nurse appealed to him more than dating me. He always joked about how after I graduate, I'll have to call him for orders and we can have little fights on the floor over our jobs. Hence why I had a rule that whatever residency he took, I would not work for that healthcare system. We have two major systems an a teaching hospital so I could find a job out of the other two. He also wanted me to goto med school or go for my NP so I could help him later on. It really was annoying.

Thankfully, I convinced him to go out of state and break up with me. I am now dating another guy who is in some kind of electrical energy field. I don't understand his work and he doesn't understand mine.

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