Would you marry a Doctor?

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Im new to this site and have been looking around. I was pretty shocked to read so many nurses saying they would never with a capital N, marry a DR? Are you kidding me? I would love nothing more to fall in love with and marry an intelligent, powerful, rich man who I have something in common with (healthcare). In fact, that would be like a dream come true for me. I dont get it???

Specializes in LTC.

It won't take you very long...you'll see. If someone was to offer me a Doc or a Cop ....I'd take the cop. Me personally, I want to marry my sweet farmer boy. We'll be poor forever, but that's ok.

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Specializes in LTC, med/surg, hospice.

If I want to marry money and power why not go for the CEO??

I have yet to meet a doc I would want to marry and many of our residents. Come in already marriecd to their college sweetheart.

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Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.
and just for curiosity's sake, op, how old are you? and how long have you been a nurse? i'm assuming you are fairly young and haven't worked with many docs yet. i could be wrong.

i am not a nurse yet, i am a nursing student. so no, i dont have alot of experience around drs. but i am also not young and naive, i am in my late 30's.

you may not be young in years, but yes, you are both young and naive.

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If I want to marry money and power why not go for the CEO??

I have yet to meet a doc I would want to marry and many of our residents. Come in already marriecd to their college sweetheart.

This is true. ALL the young docs FYI Op this means in their early 30's usually, do come married. I will also say that EVERY young doc I have met is married to another doc or doc soon to be (resident).

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Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.
This is true. ALL the young docs FYI Op this means in their early 30's usually, do come married. I will also say that EVERY young doc I have met is married to another doc or doc soon to be (resident).

This is very true, so unless the OP is looking to be a home-wrecker, she's going to have her work cut out for her finding a single doc who doesn't come with baggage.

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hmmm, very insightful. Yes, long hours stink but Cops have long hours too and theyre as arrogant and twisted as can be with a crazy high divorce rate, business men are always doing 'business dinners', pilots are gone alot and are known for their arrogance, as I can attest to, etc.. I dont see the reasons given for not marrying/dating a Dr to be deal-breakers for me personally. A little arrogance is not the biggest deal. We all have our quirks. I find intelligence sexy and add to that success, prestige and a nice bank account and it becomes very attractive. Im so tired of the nurses who act like money is a BAD thing, like its soooo horrible to say you want a man who can provide well. Money helps ladies! Thats not a 1950's attitude, thats a fact!

Here's to marrying a Doctor! Cheers! ;

The difference between 2011 and the 1950's is that women can go out and earn their own fortune now. I'm a grown woman, why on earth would I look to someone else to provide material goods for me?

I don't need to add "good provider" to my list of desirable characteristics in a mate. As a grown woman, I provide for myself. I'd be far more interested in a good partner.

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I'm sure there is probably a website for non-physician ladies seeking wealthy physician husbands out there that the OP can peruse.

Or how about a sugar-daddy matchmaking website? I've heard about those:eek:

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Specializes in L&D.

I don't have to worry about that because I married a nurse. ;) I'm also going to nursing school within the next year or two. Not bad!

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Ok....I am new to this site but feel I have to respond to this post. I have been married to my husband for almost 22 yrs now. He is a doctor. We met our freshman year in college. I was prenursing. He was premed. I was not looking for a MD / MRS degree. I happened to fall in love with a man who shared my passion for healthcare. So many of you have the standard pre misconceptions of what being married to a physician is like. Is it easy? Is marriage easy period?? lol.... It is no harder than being married to a teacher who coaches basketball. Is he married to his pager? No. Does he take call? Yes, like MANY people in other careers do. Does our phone sometimes ring at inopportune time? Yes, again tho, I have friends in MANY other fields who also deal with this. Do my kids know their father. You bet. He is an EXCELLENT father to our four children. Have I felt like a single parent? Truth....during his surgery rotation in his third year of med school, yes...that lasted for 2 months. Still much less than wives with spouses in the military deployed. Do our children resent medicine or their father? NOPE. Our oldest daughter is currently in nursing school and our second daughter is wanting to follow her father's footsteps into medicine. Are we rich? We are considered upper middle class. Our bills are paid. We live comfortably. Debt? Yes, their was some. Again, not to the level mentioned here. Prestige? Yes, if you want it. lol. It is not either me or my husband tho. Keep in mind, we are rural. My husband is in primary care and doesnt even own a lab coat, often seeing patients wearing jeans and a t shirt. I have seen nurses wanting their MD/ MRS degrees.....i laugh. Those marriages wont last. But I would not avoid dating someone in healthcare just because of of stigmas attached to their careers either. When my husband and i were dating, I made it clear that it was important that my children have a "hands on" father. Even during residency, he attended ALL parent teacher conferences, went to my OB appts when i was pregnant with our third child, and we ate supper together as a family most nights.....albeit at the hospital if he was on call. Are their affairs in hospitals with doctors and nurses?? You bet...that goes on in factories too....and in every other segment of life. Is it hard being married to someone in healthcare? I dont think so....lol. We work together side by side every day. We have for years, both in the office and the hospital. It is very much doable. My husband is my best friend. I did not marry him because he is a MD. I married a person who happened to want to become a MD and is now a DARN good one too. Lawsuits? yep, they happen. They happen to nurses too. It is part of it. Any questions? feel free to ask....many of the responses to the original post made me chuckle.......

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Specializes in Med Surge, Tele, Oncology, Wound Care.

No way!

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I think you explained the difference quite well though, you married a guy who happened to be a doc....the OP is hunting for a Doc to be her husband.

Ok....I am new to this site but feel I have to respond to this post. I have been married to my husband for almost 22 yrs now. He is a doctor. We met our freshman year in college. I was prenursing. He was premed. I was not looking for a MD / MRS degree. I happened to fall in love with a man who shared my passion for healthcare. So many of you have the standard pre misconceptions of what being married to a physician is like. Is it easy? Is marriage easy period?? lol.... It is no harder than being married to a teacher who coaches basketball. Is he married to his pager? No. Does he take call? Yes, like MANY people in other careers do. Does our phone sometimes ring at inopportune time? Yes, again tho, I have friends in MANY other fields who also deal with this. Do my kids know their father. You bet. He is an EXCELLENT father to our four children. Have I felt like a single parent? Truth....during his surgery rotation in his third year of med school, yes...that lasted for 2 months. Still much less than wives with spouses in the military deployed. Do our children resent medicine or their father? NOPE. Our oldest daughter is currently in nursing school and our second daughter is wanting to follow her father's footsteps into medicine. Are we rich? We are considered upper middle class. Our bills are paid. We live comfortably. Debt? Yes, their was some. Again, not to the level mentioned here. Prestige? Yes, if you want it. lol. It is not either me or my husband tho. Keep in mind, we are rural. My husband is in primary care and doesnt even own a lab coat, often seeing patients wearing jeans and a t shirt. I have seen nurses wanting their MD/ MRS degrees.....i laugh. Those marriages wont last. But I would not avoid dating someone in healthcare just because of of stigmas attached to their careers either. When my husband and i were dating, I made it clear that it was important that my children have a "hands on" father. Even during residency, he attended ALL parent teacher conferences, went to my OB appts when i was pregnant with our third child, and we ate supper together as a family most nights.....albeit at the hospital if he was on call. Are their affairs in hospitals with doctors and nurses?? You bet...that goes on in factories too....and in every other segment of life. Is it hard being married to someone in healthcare? I dont think so....lol. We work together side by side every day. We have for years, both in the office and the hospital. It is very much doable. My husband is my best friend. I did not marry him because he is a MD. I married a person who happened to want to become a MD and is now a DARN good one too. Lawsuits? yep, they happen. They happen to nurses too. It is part of it. Any questions? feel free to ask....many of the responses to the original post made me chuckle.......
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Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.
I think you explained the difference quite well though, you married a guy who happened to be a doc....the OP is hunting for a Doc to be her husband.

Right. In fact, he wasn't even a doctor when they met, Pre-med isn't a doc.

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