Okay ya'll, tell me what you think about this. One male nurse at LTC facility, involved with 4 female staff members who all work the same shift. The supervisor (RN), the LPN that assists him on his hall, and 2 CNA's. Usually, I'm pretty much one to think "to each his own". However, I think think this situation is going to end up with someone hurt. :chair: So many crazy things happen at this place, I don't even know why it fazes me. But his relationship with the CNA that works my hall is screwing up her job performance. She is so worried about what he's doing and who he's interacting with she can't get her job done. She left today without getting any vital signs or charting input/output. She's frequently talking about how she's gonna beat the supervisor's a@# if she catches them together. She knows about him and the supervisor, but none of the others know about each other (if that makes any sense). I don't know what this man has that is so good. But to get to the point, it's like going to a soap opera every weekend instead of work. I still love my job; it's kind of interesting to watch this all unfold. There is no professionalism anywhere. Today was one of those days where I just didn't feel like a nurse at all. It amazes me what people are willing to sacrifice in order to get their groove on. I can't tell the supervisor about this CNA's job peformance because he's seeing her too. I think this matter is going to have to go to the administrator, it's too much for me to handle anymore:confused: . Any advice?
Specializes in ER, ICU, Infusion, peds, informatics.
i think that first, you need to talk to your cna. let her know that her job performance has not been up to par, and that if the omissions continue, you will have no choice but to go to her supervisor about it. tell her that while you are sorry that she is having problems in her personal life, she still has a job to do, her patients still need to be taken care of. given the situation between her and the supervisor, the thought of being reprimanded by the supervisor should be enough to get her to be more alert about doing her job. then you need to follow through if she doesn't improve, and speak to the supervisor about what is not being done; sticking to only the facts and leaving out the "whys" of course.
as for going to the administration, i'd be reluctant to get involved. how long has it all been going on? what are the chances that it will all blow over? if it seems like it is going to be a long-term situation, i think you might be wise to give them a heads-up. i'm not sure there is anything they can do, and you don't want to look like a gossip, but the whole situation has the potential to blow up at work. and the longer it all goes on the worse the blow-up will be. how many others are on that shift? is it just the six of you? i'd hate to see you as the only one left standing in the middle of a shift (and theses things never happen at the end of a shift), but i would also hate to see you leave a job that you love over someone else's drama.
Specializes in jack of all trades, master of none.
Hoooo Boy... the ONLY reason I would touch this one with a ten foot pole, is b/c obviously, the one CNA is slacking, BIG TIME.... pull her aside & mention that you noticed she seems distracted, & that her work is suffering & as a result, so are her residents. Maybe, just maybe, that will help. If all else fails, start writing up as assignments are not accomplished. But make NO MENTION of the debauchery going on....
why is it that the "other woman" is always the one the wife or girlfriend wants to beat up? The other woman isn't the one breaing commitments and promises, the lousy, poor excuse for a boyfriend is. I know if my husband cheated on me i'd be gunning for his @ss not the woman he was cheating with.
Good point smkoep!!! But in this case it doesnt sound as if any of them have any claims on the other. No way of knowing which is the "other" woman. I'd bet they both are,, he's probly married.
i would go along with tracy on this one...write up a cna if the work is not being done..that is what she is there for..if there is a confronation between her and the suprevisor then the situation willl solve itself with cna being dismissed...at any point the welfare of the residents have to be your #1 priority.
meantime if you have a good relationship (not that kind of relationship lol) talk with horny nurse and suggest in a friendly kind of way that he find romance among the entire world beyond the confines of the facility
Yeah, this guy is married (however separated) from his wife, who does not work in this facility. And the CNA that's on my hall is the same age as his daughter. They went to school together.
Okay ya'll, tell me what you think about this. One male nurse at LTC facility, involved with 4 female staff members who all work the same shift. The supervisor (RN), the LPN that assists him on his hall, and 2 CNA's. Usually, I'm pretty much one to think "to each his own". However, I think think this situation is going to end up with someone hurt. :chair: So many crazy things happen at this place, I don't even know why it fazes me. But his relationship with the CNA that works my hall is screwing up her job performance. She is so worried about what he's doing and who he's interacting with she can't get her job done. She left today without getting any vital signs or charting input/output. She's frequently talking about how she's gonna beat the supervisor's a@# if she catches them together. She knows about him and the supervisor, but none of the others know about each other (if that makes any sense). I don't know what this man has that is so good. But to get to the point, it's like going to a soap opera every weekend instead of work. I still love my job; it's kind of interesting to watch this all unfold. There is no professionalism anywhere. Today was one of those days where I just didn't feel like a nurse at all. It amazes me what people are willing to sacrifice in order to get their groove on. I can't tell the supervisor about this CNA's job peformance because he's seeing her too. I think this matter is going to have to go to the administrator, it's too much for me to handle anymore:confused: . Any advice?
maybe your facility should add a new policy to the employee handbook: DON'T GET YOUR HONEY, WHERE YOU MAKE YOUR MONEY!!!!!
Arrrrgh!! I HATE working in situations like this! :angryfire
The patient always suffers. Thankfully, I wasn't licensed when I had a work situation like this, so I just complained loud and long about having to pick up the slack.
The "lovebirds" were NEVER anywhere to be found, NEVER out of sight of one another, and their patient care was NEVER done right.
The (oh-so-prego) wife of the philanderer came to the facility one day, and I just LOVED seeing him paying attention to HER. The look on the "O.W.'s" face really was priceless.
He quit soon after.
She became a lap dancer, and last I heard, was engaged to a doc she met at the club.
The supervisor (RN), the LPN that assists him on his hall, and 2 CNA's. Usually, I'm pretty much one to think "to each his own". However, I think think this situation is going to end up with someone hurt. :chair: So many crazy things happen at this place, I don't even know why it fazes me. But his relationship with the CNA that works my hall is screwing up her job performance. She is so worried about what he's doing and who he's interacting with she can't get her job done. She left today without getting any vital signs or charting input/output. She's frequently talking about how she's gonna beat the supervisor's a@# if she catches them together. She knows about him and the supervisor, but none of the others know about each other (if that makes any sense). I don't know what this man has that is so good. But to get to the point, it's like going to a soap opera every weekend instead of work. I still love my job; it's kind of interesting to watch this all unfold. There is no professionalism anywhere. Today was one of those days where I just didn't feel like a nurse at all. It amazes me what people are willing to sacrifice in order to get their groove on. I can't tell the supervisor about this CNA's job peformance because he's seeing her too. I think this matter is going to have to go to the administrator, it's too much for me to handle anymore:confused: . Any advice?
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i think that first, you need to talk to your cna. let her know that her job performance has not been up to par, and that if the omissions continue, you will have no choice but to go to her supervisor about it. tell her that while you are sorry that she is having problems in her personal life, she still has a job to do, her patients still need to be taken care of. given the situation between her and the supervisor, the thought of being reprimanded by the supervisor should be enough to get her to be more alert about doing her job. then you need to follow through if she doesn't improve, and speak to the supervisor about what is not being done; sticking to only the facts and leaving out the "whys" of course.
as for going to the administration, i'd be reluctant to get involved. how long has it all been going on? what are the chances that it will all blow over? if it seems like it is going to be a long-term situation, i think you might be wise to give them a heads-up. i'm not sure there is anything they can do, and you don't want to look like a gossip, but the whole situation has the potential to blow up at work. and the longer it all goes on the worse the blow-up will be. how many others are on that shift? is it just the six of you? i'd hate to see you as the only one left standing in the middle of a shift (and theses things never happen at the end of a shift), but i would also hate to see you leave a job that you love over someone else's drama.