What does your nursing career repair bill say about you?

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BeenThere2012, ASN, RN

1 Article; 852 Posts

Specializes in PICU, Pediatrics, Trauma.
I hope you're right. Thank you! I will remember you if I need help. I'm so sick and tired of school, my ambition for nursing school is slowly rotting away, I wish I could just take in information about the career and just work and skip nursing school. I want to be ******* done and over with already. Sometimes I think about just settling as a CNA. The feeling of not getting anywhere while at the same time having that deep drive, even though it doesn't show on the outside, to get up, go to school, feed yourself, bathe yourself, and make sure you have good grades for the program to see is getting REAAAAALLLLY ******* OLD...

Stop whining and just do it. If you quit now and settle for the CNA, you'll be one of the grouchy ones who resent the RN's you work with and make everybody miserable...but mostly yourself.

if nursing isn't for you, at least stay in school and go for a different major...don't waste the time you already put in.

Based on previous interactions with you, I strongly suggest therapy for your anxiety/stress.

Best of luck to you.

Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics. Has 6 years experience.
Debriefing after stressful situations is an incredibly powerful tool. I wonder if I would be any different had I done it more early in my career

Yes as the other poster asked you. How does on debrief?? ;)

Kidding! I didn't know you still popped in here!!

Has 5 years experience.
Based on previous interactions with you, I strongly suggest therapy for your anxiety/stress.

Best of luck to you.

I'm working on that. Sometimes I think about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs pyramid and kind of ask myself "do I lack one of these things?".

twinmommy+2, ADN, BSN, MSN

1 Article; 1,289 Posts

Specializes in ED. Has 18 years experience.

I would have told myself that there would be time set aside for studying but the babies grow up. Spend time with the kids more and take pictures. AS far as the RN stuff went, I couldn't have asked for more.

VioletKaliLPN, LPN

1 Article; 449 Posts

The advice I would give to the Cari at 18 years old, I am 35 now, is related to life choices and relationships with people. I am happy with the path I have taken, I believe it could have been less rocky if I had this advice.. This becomes personal AND deep.

*To the Cari at 18: (Or someone else too)

-Always follow your gut. It has not let you down, but you have been let down by not listening to it.

-Realize that you cannot change ANYONE, but you can support people who have made life changes. You are not a saviour.

-It IS okay to leave or stay away from people that are not mentally stable, mean, angry, or physically abusive. You see the good in all people, this does not mean that you should DATE THEM or MARRY THEM. You are not a psychologist or psychiatrist.

-You will never regret that abortion, nor will you regret divorcing the man you are currently married to. You should have divorced him much sooner, in fact, you should not have married him.

-Your socially awkward tendencies and lack of a filter will eventually become an asset. Your lack of fear in discussing certain topics will become an asset one day, such as when discussing the death and dying process to family members. ** Basically, Cari, you learn that you are able to discuss hard issues that many shy away from. This is an asset.

-You want to become a Nurse, you WILL become a Nurse, but your choice to cocktail waitress and bar tend will serve you well for many years. Family may not approve of serving alcohol, but you are not a horrible person. Quit crying and feeling guilty for choosing not to follow the typically way of your family. You will end up maintaining a debt free lifestyle and pay cash for college. Wipe those tears...

To Cari @ 25: You are dating again, saving money, and attending college, you are stressed and need to BREATHE. Take that road trip, go to the beach, take time to enjoy life. You are working much too hard to prove a point to people that do not matter.

To Cari @ 28: You are in Nursing school, you maintain a 4.0 GPA, but you are seriously over stressing and need to chill the $%^&* out. If you make a "B" it is okay, attend that BIRTHDAY PARTY. She will soon die, but you HAD to study.

To Cari at 31: Take that vacation dammit!! Your next birthday announcement includes that you have Breast Cancer, no genetic cause and no one else in your family has a history of cancer. You are about to enter hell.

To Cari @ 32: Do not do chemotherapy. It was not worth it. You will soon learn that quality of life is more important than quantity of life.

Present Cari's Advice to ALL.

-Your coworkers may become like family, but never OVERSHARE too soon. Wait until you are established to open up a bit, but remember to tread water carefully.

- Nurse KNOW THYSELF. Know when to walk away, people will push your buttons until you explode. You have control, so walk away from BS and focus on your patients.

-You are an imperfect person in an imperfect world, do your best and document EVERYTHING.

Has 5 years experience.
The advice I would give to the Cari at 18 years old, I am 35 now, is related to life choices and relationships with people. I am happy with the path I have taken, I believe it could have been less rocky if I had this advice.. This becomes personal AND deep.

*To the Cari at 18: (Or someone else too)

-Always follow your gut. It has not let you down, but you have been let down by not listening to it.

-Realize that you cannot change ANYONE, but you can support people who have made life changes. You are not a saviour.

-It IS okay to leave or stay away from people that are not mentally stable, mean, angry, or physically abusive. You see the good in all people, this does not mean that you should DATE THEM or MARRY THEM. You are not a psychologist or psychiatrist.

-You will never regret that abortion, nor will you regret divorcing the man you are currently married to. You should have divorced him much sooner, in fact, you should not have married him.

-Your socially awkward tendencies and lack of a filter will eventually become an asset. Your lack of fear in discussing certain topics will become an asset one day, such as when discussing the death and dying process to family members. ** Basically, Cari, you learn that you are able to discuss hard issues that many shy away from. This is an asset.

-You want to become a Nurse, you WILL become a Nurse, but your choice to cocktail waitress and bar tend will serve you well for many years. Family may not approve of serving alcohol, but you are not a horrible person. Quit crying and feeling guilty for choosing not to follow the typically way of your family. You will end up maintaining a debt free lifestyle and pay cash for college. Wipe those tears...

To Cari @ 25: You are dating again, saving money, and attending college, you are stressed and need to BREATHE. Take that road trip, go to the beach, take time to enjoy life. You are working much too hard to prove a point to people that do not matter.

To Cari @ 28: You are in Nursing school, you maintain a 4.0 GPA, but you are seriously over stressing and need to chill the $%^&* out. If you make a "B" it is okay, attend that BIRTHDAY PARTY. She will soon die, but you HAD to study.

To Cari at 31: Take that vacation dammit!! Your next birthday announcement includes that you have Breast Cancer, no genetic cause and no one else in your family has a history of cancer. You are about to enter hell.

To Cari @ 32: Do not do chemotherapy. It was not worth it. You will soon learn that quality of life is more important than quantity of life.

Present Cari's Advice to ALL.

-Your coworkers may become like family, but never OVERSHARE too soon. Wait until you are established to open up a bit, but remember to tread water carefully.

- Nurse KNOW THYSELF. Know when to walk away, people will push your buttons until you explode. You have control, so walk away from BS and focus on your patients.

-You are an imperfect person in an imperfect world, do your best and document EVERYTHING.

Man, imagine going back in time and telling your past self all these things..

Imagine what they would do or how they would react.

*Me to my favorite musician* "Can I speak to Chuck Schuldiner?"

Chuck: Hey..can I help you?

Me: Chuck, save up as much money as you can.

Chuck: Why?

Me: You're going to have a pinch in one of your nerves on the back of your neck. It's going to be a malignant brain cancer.

Chuck's reaction: *it could be whatever it is but we'll never know*

middleagednurse

554 Posts

Specializes in nurseline,med surg, PD. Has 50+ years experience.

I got an ADN, then a BSN. I really wish I had gone for an MSN. I had the opportunity, I just didn't bother to do it. I wish I had made more vertical moves and fewer horizontal moves.

Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma. Has 18 years experience.

Not a thing; each setback and failure in my life shaped me to be a better nurse a person, even if going back would've altered my course and I would currently be a NP-or maybe not. :)

Specializes in ER. Has 3 years experience.
Yeah, that's true. But exempting entrance exam isn't much for standards being lowered. I did say only that and nothing else. Not school work, not grade inflation, not exam curving, not NCLEX lowering, not early graduation. None of that stuff. Just the entrance exams and that's it, and they're easier to get pass than anything else

Woah, there are plenty of people that fly through their pre-reqs just to get to the entrance exams and not be able to pass them. Not saying you have done this, but there are many ways to inflate a gpa and "pass" bio and chem without actually knowing any of the material. Entrance exams are proctored, you are felt up, and nothing goes in with you. Some people can't pass the test without some "help". I'm only one semester into my BSN program and I am totally burnt out too, especially considering I changed my major when I was half way through my bachelor degree. Saying that, even with passing entrance exams and being in a program people still drop like flies the first semester. Classes like patho are half what they were at the beginning of the semester. There are reasons for the entrance exam, and the following hundreds of exams that follow once you're in nursing school: people's lives are in your hands. So, what's an entrance exam in the grand scheme of things?

PANYNP

105 Posts

Specializes in Crit Care; EOL; Pain/Symptom; Gero. Has 36 years experience.
How old were you? Isn't that associates to BSN? I'm 28 and almost done with pre-reqs. I'm so ******* tired of school and bored and burned out. I'll have a different attitude about school once I get into nursing. If I can't get in through entrance exams, I'll probably give up and let GI bill go to waste. I'm so tired of school and feeling like I'm not going anywhere with the pissass direction I've been given all these years from my family I trusted.

ABSN stands for Accelerated BSN. Typically done by folks with a prior four-year degree in another discipline, after science, math, nutrition, psychology prereqs have been completed.

blackribbon

208 Posts

Specializes in Med/Surg, Gyn, Pospartum & Psych.

Honestly, I would have told myself to explore other options and find a job that had paid vacations (not PTOs that you had earn), guaranteed schedule (didn't call off at the last minute for low census), no unpaid on-call status, and didn't act like the world was going to collapse if you had to take a day off (you could make up the work the next day). I'd also look for a profession that treated me as a professional. I love nursing but it is not a healthy career. I don't want to be an administrator but hands on nursing is treated pretty poorly in comparison to other professions.