Unique Offer from Work

[SilverBells, BSN]

So, as some of you may know, I'm still living at home with my parents.  Not proud of this, but it's the situation.

Things over the last year have gotten a bit tense.  A few months back, I was on the phone at home with a coworker, when my dad came upstairs and instigated an argument.  He was very violent during the situation. 

My coworker overheard everything on the phone, and went to the administrator.  Anyway, so I've been doing some house hunting, which hasn't gone very well and they know I haven't had much luck. 

I was recently offered an apartment at work (they typically keep them available for agency staff or staff in emergencies) that I could stay in until I find another place.

Any thoughts? Would this be a good offer to accept? 

[SilverBells, BSN]

I've really been holding out on finding a house, but it doesn't seem to be happening at this point.  I spoke with my therapist, who thought it might be a good idea and suggested trying out the apartment--or another one--before moving into a house.  

I'm just wondering if this would be weird at work. 

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

If the situation at home is violent and one you have to leave immediately this sounds like a good temporary situation. 

Good luck.

[Hoosier_RN, MSN]

I agree that you need to leave immediately,  but if you go to this arrangement, I would make it very temporary. You would be beholden to facility needs 24/7, and with this arrangement, they would most likely let you know it continuously!

[CrunchRN, ADN, RN]

Find your own apartment. Use the work place as a temporary "hotel" situation in the interim. You do not want your employment and housing interdependent.

[JBMmom, MSN, NP]

I'm so sorry that you have been subjected to any violent situation, I totally agree that you should get out ASAP. If the work apartment is an immediate solution I would take that and work on finding an alternative when you can. You don't want to leave one bad situation for another in which you're being taken advantage of because of your proximity to work, but any kind of violence is NOT acceptable. Good luck!

[Davey Do]

When I worked at a children's home back in the late 70's/early '80's, pay there was room and board and $600 per month.  Doesn't sound like much now, but back then for a single guy in his early 20's with no degree, it was a decent salary.

I gave up my apartment- rent was $90/month- and moved back into my old room at my parent's house PRN. I t was a great set up. I attended junior college while my boys were in school, no matter who or what I got tired of, I had a place to go, and I saved money on rent. Along with friends and lovers who would allow me to party and use their place as a flophouse, life was never boring.

SilverBells, bottom line, you know what you need and want to do. We're just a bunch of armchair quarterbacks who can give advice because we don't have to deal with the ramifications of that advice.

Good luck- the offer sounds like a viable option, and you could save some coin while looking for a place you can call home.

[hppygr8ful, ASN, RN, EMT-I]

It could be a good temporary fix for you if you can set and maintain healthy boundaries.  (We know this has been a problem for you in the past). No need to be fixated on a house or large apartment. I never did handle room mates well and always preferred a one bedroom or studio.

Hppy  

[londonflo]

SilverBells said:

I've really been holding out on finding a house, but it doesn't seem to be happening at this point. 

Great future goal that we heard last year. Make it this year's goal. 

Hoosier_RN said:

if you go to this arrangement, I would make it very temporary. You would be beholden to facility needs 24/7, and with this arrangement, they would most likely let you know it continuously!

This is my rationale for looking for a 1 bed, 1 bath NOW.  But take advantage of your employers offer...but do NOT sign any lease to stay there for more than one month.

Look at small houses, there are a lot of opportunities for first time home owners. Don't crinkle your nose at houses in your price range! you will meet neighbors, have block parties and find a world outside your parents' house and your employer What have you got to lose? But even is you don't want to be a neighbor (looking at ME here)... you can shut/lock your door at night and "create a ME time".

[kbrn2002, ADN, RN]

I'm going to differ a little on other's suggestions to take the offer.  Considering you already have a pretty well publicized past with difficulties setting boundaries at work having your employer also be your landlord does not sound like an ideal situation.  Though I do agree that it's definitely time to find other living arrangements.

If there are no other options, and that's entirely possible with housing of any kind being hard to find in many communities go ahead and accept but make it VERY short term, like no more than a month while you are looking for an apartment.  Find one that's acceptable for your temporary needs, preferably a month to month or other short term renewable lease in case you can't find the house you want right away and decide to stay longer. While you are  living in that apartment you can continue house hunting.

[TravelNursesStay]

Hi, if you are considering finding something temporary until you move into a house or even just want to try out an apartment to help you decide. You can look into Furnished Finder, VRBO, Airbnb. Here is something on BNB close to the hospital. >airbnb.com/h/decatursheart

 

[Delia37, MSN]

TravelNursesStay said:

Hi, if you are considering finding something temporary until you move into a house or even just want to try out an apartment to help you decide. You can look into Furnished Finder, VRBO, Airbnb. Here is something on BNB close to the hospital. >airbnb.com/h/decatursheart

 

Honestly, I would probably go these routes, rather than take the employer's offer. She makes it sound like it is impossible to find an apartment.