Congratulations! This should be the BEST time of your life! Don't spend it living at the whim of a control freak. Spend loving time with your husband, current child and child to be. Learn about your new community and explore the parks! May be you could do some insurance or follow up calls post op at an agency? May be you can just enjoy making a great nest for your loved ones. Life is to dear in a young family to become someone's focus of anger.
You are not doing anything wrong, your instincts are right to a good environment to work in. To adapt you will either have to turn a deaf ear or end up defending your self -
I moved from a midwestern city to a small city. I was amazed that services would ask, "can't you leave work for an hour or two" or "we'll call you at work to come home."