Those that prefer to work with men

[OhioCCRN]

So my Clinical instructor said something interesting today. She said she Hates Hates HATES!!! working with women in Nursing and she wishes that Nursing was a male dominated field so that she could stand it....

Dont know what to make of this...any thoughts or experiences?

[PurpleLVN]

I prefer to work with men also. It isn't necessarily that I get along better with men - that's certainly not always the case. But in general, in my experiences working with men, there's an unspoken live and let live policy. They don't get all upset if I don't chit chat with 'em, etc. I feel free to do my job without having to also constantly mentally babysit the social aspect.

Well said. If I walk in on Monday and don't disclose what I did over the weekend, there's something wrong with me. If I choose not to discuss my personal life outside of work, I'm a lonely, angry female!! Men don't get bent out of shape if you CHOOSE to be private. I'd rather keep my work life and private life separate! ABTW, there's nothing wrong my self image, self esteem, "SELF" period!!

[metal_m0nk, BSN, RN]

Well said. If I walk in on Monday and don't disclose what I did over the weekend, there's something wrong with me. If I choose not to discuss my personal life outside of work, I'm a lonely, angry female!! Men don't get bent out of shape if you CHOOSE to be private. I'd rather keep my work life and private life separate! ABTW, there's nothing wrong my self image, self esteem, "SELF" period!!

Heh, yeah...

Although, it's not that there's something wrong with you, it's that they think that you think that there's something wrong with *them* because you're not sharing with them. It's insecurity on their part and they handle it by projecting. That's the kind of thing that makes my workday tiresome. Don't wanna play the games.

[tokidoki7, ASN, RN]

I like working with male nurses, PCTs, and patients. If all of my patients are males, I know I'm going to have a good day. When it comes to female co-workers, I like working with the one's who have leadership skills and don't get all emotional. Those are the ones I work well with and learn from.

[bluemorningglory]

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Word. I am thinking strongly of going with a pharmacy career as opposed to nursing for just this reason.

[PeachPie]

Be careful. People who claim to hate their same sex and prefer the members of the opposite sex are often histrionic and feel threatened by competition from the same sex. People of the opposite sex aren't going to play the games that the same sex does. For example, a man would get sent to jail for bullying you, whereas woman are much less likely to be called out on that. Women who "hate other women" also tend to know that the men may be attracted to them, and like the power and attention.

Men do this too. I've met men who LOVED being surrounded by women way too much. Sometimes it was sexual, but the most histrionic male nurse I ever met was married but loved the attention. He'd do things like take us out to look at his brand new vehicle, and was the biggest gossip ever. Since women do indeed tend to hate other women, they flocked to him for help and conversation. He got very annoyed with me because I didn't pay special attention to him, such as getting mad if I didn't say hi or greet him enthusiastically enough. If there had been other men working (he was the only male night nurse), they would have called him out on his ways. However, since there weren't, he was the MAN and could automatically "win" the competition for alpha male.

[metal_m0nk, BSN, RN]

Since women do indeed tend to hate other women, they flocked to him for help and conversation.

So, they were all histrionic too, then?

[PeachPie]

Addendum:

Although I do not believe that men are inherently better than women in the workplace, I think that the factor is that men are more SOCIALLY CONDITIONED to the workplace and that they are taught that they will be responsible from a young age. They are taught to be objective, and those who fixate on petty issues are called out (eg the chatty guy who disrupts the woolly mammoth hunt, which requires objective participation). Women, however, aren't brought up with the mindset that it is crucial to have a career and aren't called out as much on things that would have a man ridiculed or arrested. However, this is socialized behavior, and can be unlearned, or better yet not taught in the first place.

[canigraduate]

I have to agree with the balanced philosophy. I have been the only woman in a couple of jobs, and that sucked. All the guys tried to bully and intimidate me and would get mad if I didn't agree with them, usually about something petty.

I have also been in jobs where there were no men, and that sucked worse. Then, I never knew what was going on. One day everyone would be nice to me and the next day I would get told off at least two or three times over nothing. Come to find out, one woman was mad at me for something stupid (like not noticing her new shoes) and she passed it on to two or three of her best friends and had them mad at me.

When it's a balanced workplace, I've noticed that there isn't as much drama and people tend to get along better.

[dudette10, MSN, RN]

Just wait until you have a male boss who is doing the nasty with one of your female coworkers, and she ends up getting waited on hand and foot--with a smaller workload--while most of the work is dumped on you.

When they think with their d**cks, they are worse than any woman you could possibly describe.

[metal_m0nk, BSN, RN]

Just wait until you have a male boss who is doing the nasty with one of your female coworkers, and she ends up getting waited on hand and foot--with a smaller workload--while most of the work is dumped on you.

When they think with their d**cks, they are worse than any woman you could possibly describe.

No worse than a female boss who lightens the workload for one of her buddies. At least when the fling turns sour, I won't be getting an earful about it from the dude.

[StNeotser, ASN, RN]

Just wait until you have a male boss who is doing the nasty with one of your female coworkers, and she ends up getting waited on hand and foot--with a smaller workload--while most of the work is dumped on you.

When they think with their d**cks, they are worse than any woman you could possibly describe.

Yes, I had that going on the year I spent as a CNA. It was absolutely awful.

Still, I guess he wasn't b*tching bout me behind my back............ Cos that would have been worse than having to do twice the work so his girlfriend wouldn't have to do it.

[HM2VikingRN, RN]

I work on a MH unit that is 50% men. My boss has shared that she has far fewer personnel problems than other managers because it tends to level out some of the personalities....