Sweet, Honey

WineRN · Mar 22, 2017

I have never had this issue--and even through four pregnancies no one ever tried to touch my belly (which fellow moms report is a constant issue). Certainly no one ever touches my hair.
But I have a rather frosty demeanor and a good RBF (resting b**** face). Not because I am one, just because I guess that's how I act/how my face looks.
Maybe you need to work on your RBF?

Lucky. EVERYONE touched my belly when I was out in public while I was preggers (I was put on bedrest at 20 weeks, so i didn't get out much)

But no one calls me by any pet names here thankfully

kidzcare · Mar 22, 2017

*touches your hair creepily*

*punches you enthusiastically*

Flare, ASN, BSN · Mar 22, 2017

Lucky. EVERYONE touched my belly when I was out in public while I was preggers (I was put on bedrest at 20 weeks, so i didn't get out much)
But no one calls me by any pet names here thankfully

Oh, that made me mad too - when I was pregnant, I would respond to anyone touching my belly without asking by patting their stomach. People were generally shocked by that response and I believe got my point.

BeckyESRN · Mar 22, 2017

Oh, that made me mad too - when I was pregnant, I would respond to anyone touching my belly without asking by patting their stomach. People were generally shocked by that response and I believe got my point.

I did that same thing with my other pregnancies. When random people would make comments about weight gain or gaining weight "all over" during my previous pregnancies, I would reply "you too!". Both were very effective methods to shutting down people with boundary issues. Luckily, this time no one has attempted to touch my belly!

Sweetie and hunny make me cringe!

NurseBeans, BSN, RN, EMT-B · Mar 22, 2017

Oh, that made me mad too - when I was pregnant, I would respond to anyone touching my belly without asking by patting their stomach. People were generally shocked by that response and I believe got my point.

I waited and waited for this during all my pregnancies, I was ready with my sassy comebacks, and no one even tried. No one even asked.

Amethya · Mar 22, 2017

I'm the same age, and it's never bothered me before since I call people that sometimes. I guess it just sticks to me because I'm in Texas.

abbnurse · Mar 22, 2017

I'm the same age, and it's never bothered me before since I call people that sometimes. I guess it just sticks to me because I'm in Texas.

I was raised in the North, and things like "Sweetie" and "Hon" have never bothered me, either.

Different strokes for different folks !

blackberry74 · Mar 22, 2017

I would rather Sweetie and Honey than the alternative of that spectrum.

but seriously, I am a northerner in the South, and it happens a lot. I guess after a while it just becomes the norm.

Jolie, BSN · Mar 23, 2017

Generally speaking, terms of endearment don't bother me. But I had to peel myself off the ceiling today following a phone call from a representative of administration at a local hospital.

A family member is being treated there and had an outrageous encounter with a hospitalist physician, which I witnessed. I was too flustered to address it right then and there, so I called the Patient Advocate Hotline when I got home, reached someone's voicemail with a cheery message that I would receive a return call within 24 hours. Today (2 days later) I called again and got a live person who took my information and informed me that someone would promptly investigate and get back to me. Yeah, sure.

But throughout the conversation, Ms. Perky kept referring to me by a cutesy version of my first name. A version I. NEVER. USE. Even if she misunderstood the pronunciation of my name, there is no way she would have come up with this name. Perhaps it was compounded by my utter exasperation at the situation that prompted my call to the hotline in the first place, but I wanted to reach thru the phone line and choke her. I probably would have if she'd called me that name one more time.

Vent over. I feel better now :)

KatieMI, BSN, MSN, RN · Mar 23, 2017

Well, it looks like "honey" is now an accepted equivalent for personally addressing an unknown female of any age under pretty much any but some very official circumstances... I quietly hate it but I cannot fight the world about this litte thing.

But: here comes "waiting", and that's what makes me absolutely mad.

"I was here in this office last week, another lady was waiting on me" (the "lady" being Onco/Chemo NP)

"Thank you soooo much for excellent waiting you did on my mom!" (mom unstable on drip and vent but after a long shift seems to be heading into the right direction)

"they waited on me so good!" (PACU team)

and so forth :mad:

I do not know that to do with it, but this is the thing I just cannot let go. I told people a couple of time that I was not a waitress, and they seemed to have no clue whatsoever what was wrong with naming me like one :devil:

applewhitern, BSN, RN · Mar 23, 2017

I hope you don't plan to ever work here in the deep south. Most people use those type of pet names here. They don't mean anything at all, its just the way people have spoken around here all their lives. It isn't reserved for just the younger folks~ the elderly are called baby, sweetie, etc., just as often. It is simply a way of life here, a cultural thing, and there is no point in getting upset about it. There are a lot of things I don't particularly care for, but I choose my battles carefully, and this isn't one of them.

OyWithThePoodles, RN · Mar 23, 2017

I'm from the country, so it doesn't bother me much. I will say, I do prefer hon, over sweetie. I look super young so I get it a lot.

Mr. Sully is a teacher, we go to a lot of games together and of course he gets in free as he is a teacher, they always try to charge me as a student. While flattered, I always think, "WHY WOULD A TEACHER BE HOLDING HANDS WITH A STUDENT!?!?" One day I'm just going to say that yes, I am a student, and take the dang discount.