Struggling - its not fair.

[Eleven011]

If there is one thing I have learned in my short time as a school nurse, its that there are some exceptional parents out there raising kind, sweet, level-headed kids. Yesterday, one of those Mom's had a sudden brain aneurysm and was rushed into surgery. She died today. Two of her three kids are in classes with my own. I sat next to her at ball games in the summer. We shared snacks and cheered for our kids. We were the moms who went on field trips. Why?? Why does she not get to kiss her kids good night tonite?? Why do they have to grow up without her? I'm just sick.

[Farawyn]

I'm very sorry.

My step-father died of a brain aneurysm in 1971. The suddenness is what is so hard to take.

God, SM, I'm sorry.

[OyWithThePoodles, RN]

I am so sorry. Love and prayers to all in your community.

[JenTheSchoolRN, BSN, RN]

:::::hugs:::::

I'm so sorry. Thoughts coming your way.

[Eleven011]

Thank you all so much for your replies and for sharing your own experiences of loss with me. The staff have been asked to come in early today for a crisis meeting so we can make a plan of how to help her children and the children who knew her well. I think being back at school today will help. Again, thank you all so much for your thoughts and prayers. My head knows it is just one of the tragic things that happen every day, but my heart just doesn't understand.

[Flare, ASN, BSN]

I'm sorry for your loss.

Be sure, while you're taking care of the children today and in the immediate future, that you're also taking care of yourself.

[kidzcare]

There are no words for times like this, only hugs

[NutmeggeRN, BSN]

Like Far, I liked to acknowledge your post

I am so sorry, it is hard enough taking care of kids and a school community when you don't have a connection, it really sucks when you do....

Like Flare said, be sure to care for yourself as well

((Gentle Hugs))

[100kids, BSN, RN]

This just breaks my heart. I am so sad for you, your school, her family and friends. There is no explanation that makes sense, it's just heart breaking.

[huffmannurse]

I wish there was more that I, or any or the rest of our little supportive School Nurse community could say to help you and those you care so deeply for to get through this. When I am at my lowest and most difficult times for myself or to help others. My heart can still hear my sweet mama's voice, (whom our family lost to dreaded cancer many many years ago)... "Tie a knot in the end of your rope and hang on." One of her other favorite things to say was "I can do ALL things through Him, who gives me strength." Philippians 4:13.

Hang in there. Update us, so we can walk this difficult journey with you and school community. Bigggg Hugggggs to you!

[kbrn2002, ADN, RN]

I am so sorry. Such a tragic loss for her family and all who knew her.

[NanaPoo]

Oh, I'm so sorry!

We lost a fellow mom here at school last fall to breast CA with mets. Her daughter is in class with mine. She and I spent many birthday parties together, field days, class parties, you name it. We became closer in her illness and I spent hours keeping her company in the hospital and helped her come to terms with her terminal diagnosis and letting go. It was emotionally and psychologically painful to be the friend to do that when I knew she had an only daughter that needed her.

I deal with it on a daily basis when I see her husband drop their daughter off as I walk in with my own. There's a guilt that holds on tight. Field days still happen and the memories of my friend are there. I can see her sitting on our bench still, wrapped in a blanket on a warm day, chilled from the effects of her chemo.

Flare said it best...take care of you. Be soft and kind with your school kiddos and your own. Be a listening ear and be sure there is someone to listen to you as well.

[bell1962]

I'm so sorry. You are right it is not fair.. heartbreaking.